I met my ex 14 years ago. I was 17 and he was 29.
We had two children together but not until my early 20's.
Roll on now, Im 31 and he is 44 and hes had no where to live (a caravan thats tiny and full of work tools and only fits one adult anyway) for 3 years.
A year ago someone reported me to benefit fraud because someone thought he was living with me. It really put me at risk, I reduced how often he saw the the kids (at mine) and even when he did I ask him to take them to soft play or the park.
But I still feel at risk, have never had a weekend/or even day off or a lie in.
He will try to make amends by turning up early occasionally, but Ive always been up an hour with the youngest.
The last year, Ive called housing benefit and found out that he can get help despite the fact he works full time, he can get help with rent and deposit because he is ex army and Ive persuaded him to get on the housing list because he us technically homeless.
Its been a year. (In the whole scheme of things, I feel like its been 14 years but thats another thread)
And tonight we had YET another disagreement about it. Me saying FIND A PLACE TO LIVE yet again and him giving all excuses.
Ive said stop giving me maintenance, forever if needs be, just PLEASE find a place to live so he can take the kids.
Still its not happening.
What the HELL do I do, pleas help me. Other than stopping him seeing the kids which Im totally not willing to do, what is there?
Im really desperate.