Dating thread 79

[louby44]

Wow! 79 already...

Welcome to all daters, new, experienced or tearing your hair out at the frustration!

I agree with tinks on this. If they are not supporting their dcs it speaks volumes.

a rule of thumb is dont date separates....unless you are prepared for drama and you may have it too, which is fine due to being equal.

Unless you are in the same position then dont do it... im out there with no baggage... a child isnt baggage, its a plus... an ex or emotionally unwell due to ex is massive baggage. I really think that whoever has this whether male or female shouldnt bring it forward to the move on and date thing....

Tinks...you are referring to those who are separated, as opposed to divorced/widowed/never married??

Im referring to anyone that shouldnt date due to not being "over" something.

separated tends to say this... its murky and a door is still half open

Your right Tinks, I got my hands full with my own two kids, i let my ex see the kids because he is a good father and we just don't love each other, I got over my marriage and I just don't want to play games, either thanks but I don't like you would be helpful from the guy, That kind of directness i can take easy.

My phone got a message, if its him i will tell him im on pof looking not looking for friends so leave me alone.

To be fair when I met my exP we were both seperated and going through divorces, we supported each other. It made us closer as we were going through the same thing.

I would date someone who was seperated as I could empathise with what they were going through!

And any dramas we would face together, because that's what people do!

Oh haven't heard that sort of thing.

Hi everyone.

So my date with Mr Tall went really well (I think). Like him even more. Ex still causing problems though .

Thing is, initially he was good at texting me first but seems to have stopped. He tends to answer quite quickly if I text him but I decided not to text first today and I've not heard anything all day. Trying not to read too much into it but I am wondering if this means he's going off me the more he gets to know me.

You could phone and see what happens??

you were singing from the same song sheet though then louby.... most of the time it isnt the case.

why would you call him, the signals are there already? if it isnt like "ping pong" its not going to happen.

Just told him to find a friend down the pub, he text me saying what's up, not sure what iv done wrong, confused. He's confused, I told him I want directness and if you don't fancy me then i wish you luck.

I remember that if a bloke liked you he let you know and if not then he didn't ask to be friends.

Texting not always best way of communicating..sometimes actually speaking gives a clearer picture......?

Hi all, hope you don't mind me joining in, have been keeping up with this thread for months but haven't posted before. Have been single for over 2 years & have been doing online dating for most of this time but have had very few dates, I think part of the problem is I live in quite a rural area so the pool of men on these sites that live near is small & the ones do contact me are in their mid to late 50's whereas I'm only 42. Getting really frusrated at being single now, work with mainly women & only get out socially every couple of weeks, so the chance of meeting someone in real life is short. I guess I'm just wanting advice about how to go about meeting someone in the real world. Thanks.

i clearly need to start my own thread where I dont make people think that 100 to 1 is the right way to go... I clearly want to tell women that date they dont have to put up with shit, this thread makes me want to cry as a woman....

Also texting can be done on the quiet, if respondent not in a position to take the call...particularly if they text back with very long reason for not calling back or answering....I would really be thinking hey ho...

He's at work tonight though so I wouldn't call him. That's another thing, initially he would suggest calling so we've spoken on the phone a few times but not recently (she says about someone she's known two weeks )

He goes away on holiday soon (hence the last minute date last night) and he did mention trying to see me again before he goes, although it will be difficult with both our individual commitments. If not I won't see him for a while. I'm hoping we will still keep in touch though.

Bumble...I am similar age to you, there aren't men out there our age....they are either late 30s....not settled....or late 40s. What's putting you off older men?

I hope you're right Jarlin. Re your Saturday date: I'd go and meet him. In my limited dating experience, I've been really surprised when meeting them in person. My best dates have been with the ones I was least looking forward to meeting .

Do you think the lack of texts is a worrying sign then Tinks?

Hi Frames, I don't have a problem with late 40's_ early 50's, its just the ones that have messaged are more like late 50's or possibly into their sixties if their pictures are anything to go by.

Hello bumble I am also very rural, I am late 40's have had no problem with contact with men in their 40's. what sites are you using?

Oh gosh! Thats a bit extreme... MrH my date today was 52, has been a playa...known for his looks...but would be the oldest I think I could stretch to!