Dating thread 79

[louby44]

Wow! 79 already...

Welcome to all daters, new, experienced or tearing your hair out at the frustration!

Giggly I'd go down the route littleblue suggested of light hearted jokes about things. That's sort of me anyway very sarcastic but It gets me an answer too. Also have u got things planned in the pipeline together for a month or two ahead? If so that's positive I think.

I go back to control the controllable. You can't control how he feels. Feel what you do and control your reaction to things and see what happens.

Dontcall I'm loving the sound of blonde geeky

Honestly mini he's just perfect.

Well actually I think the guy is saying he doesn't want a relationship, but does want to keep seeing you gotta. I think it's impossible to knows what people's motives are. There are a lot of online people on the rebound IMO.

To be fair Mr weekago, did say when we last spoke hr had child care issues and busy week called me rather than texted jarlin no nothing special else planned might keep me away from the X which would not be a bad thing.

Ladies, we all know if you have to question things its not right. Your gut instinct is always right for YOU. Dump if it feels difficult, whether its something you need to work out or not... its still not right. Don't pander or wonder. Yet if someone comes into you life that doesnt give you time to do all these things, he's the one for you!

Oh in other news my ex wants me back. But I do not believe he is clean. Apparently he has even fallen out with his friends over this. But I just can't go through all that again, checking to see if his dealer has been texting him. Watching to see if he seems like he's still using.......it was pure hell.

Guys, for a number of reasons, I've decided to leave the thread (I suspect my ex H still reads my posts, amongst other things and he knows my writing style, so he'd suss a namechange). Fir the first time in ages I'm pretty happy and I want to keep it that way.

I'll update if anything significant happens, but in the meantime give me a telling off if you catch me on here.

Good luck to you all. I'll miss you!

I don't think a week is a long time, I'm more wary of the constantly in contact types as I find they make big promises then disappear for good.

gotta sounds as though he likes you either not enough to spend time getting to know you outside of the bedroom, and won't waste time/money/effort doing so, or he is worried that you want commitment fast, either because of something you said (however inadvertently) & likes to keep his options open. Either way it would seem that he likes you enough to keep seeing you for a shag but isn't thinking there is potential for a relationship. He is probably worried that if he doesn't confuse you sufficiently and wrong foot you, you will tell him to sling his hook! depends what you want.

close one door before you open another huh guys, hope you have the courage to shut that door....

dont glad you are happy.
ursula if that was my situation then I think you are right, I have only spoken on the phone has it be a week after meeting and NC then a different story

a dating thread im my mind is just that.... you are ready to go find someone else, not put up with other peoples "im not ready but dipping my toes in" stuff, ready to get back out there stuff! and all that entails. It's not a ooh poor you thing, its a buck up and be glorious thing. Its a place where you can say, blimey what an ugly arse with no teeth, its not a place where you havent dealt with your own shit....

if you havent dealt with your own stuff then you shouldnt be out there putting it on others

Id love to see an empowered dating thread. One that asks whether we should go there not whether you are worthy???? thats why Ive never gone on here before, its all does he want me... it should be... do I want him!

Maybe start the thread you want to see then?

Minime85 He has mentioned Christmas and a holiday with him and his son early next year.

I am just feeling sensitive today after not hearing from him. I wish I could just get rid of my issues.

what a good idea

I have just blocked him and didn't feel like replying to his message, just feel like I must be a man repellent, its not the first to want to be friends. I look like a woman but I don't have the female charm.

I have a lovely house, get on well enough with ex due mainly to my sons mental health problems, don't need a man for money, I told him this. He was kicked out by his ex and she wont let him see his son, he doesn't have a house but I am not bothered about what a bloke has but just who he is.

Don't feel like going on the coffee date Saturday. Sorry to be such a moan, its the time of the month and feel emotional, no chocolate left.

Thanks for telling me straight up.

Hey there gotta....have a break for a bit maybe? Put Saturday coffee off, and see if he comes back?

He was kicked out and cant see his son???? what does that tell you? Does it tell you he was a good man?

that tells me that there was mad drama, that tells me that I dont want to go there.

I too have the house etc....I don't tell them about what I do and don't have unless they ask....