Dating thread 79

[louby44]

Wow! 79 already...

Welcome to all daters, new, experienced or tearing your hair out at the frustration!

Lucs, I think that men get a ego boost if you text them, I just think its a waste of time because if they like my profile then they will want to meet and not just add another woman's number to their phone. Besides its hard enough trying to decode messages from men and if you meet up you can get s better picture of what the mans like before you give them your time texting. Most just want to flirt without committing to a date.

Its just my experience.

Lottie, I think men already make up a picture of their dates from profile, I have slot of interests and this seems to intimidate dates because my pictures don't match my write up and I am a crap flirt, hence no dates lined up for me.

If your looks get them interested that's half the battle, I have a sister who always gets attention regarding her looks. The right man will see the whole package but looks are important to attraction and men.

I find my looks mean I can get v drunk and generally behave badly on dates and they will still want to see me again. But they see me as a conquest I think. I rarely like them back anyway, but when I do I end up feeling quite vulnerable.

I guess so. But it seems to be hard to weed out the right ones from the wrong ones. Especially when so many of them seem to have a script.

I find my looks mean I can get v drunk and generally behave badly on dates and they will still want to see me again. But they see me as a conquest I think. I rarely like them back anyway, but when I do I end up feeling quite vulnerable.

Vulnerable, yes that's how I feel. As I said, one of the original people I met spent hours talking to me on the phone before we met and then as soon as he met me he was blowing up my phone with endless sex based texts.

I meant to say that we had originally talk about non-sex related stuff.

Don't know why that posted twice. Hope you ha e a good time if you go, jarlin. My past has really affected me. Geeky saw me as a trophy and then when I turned out to be a real person with faults, insecurities and children, he couldn't cope.

Blondegeeky does the full body sweep thing with his eyes.

I think most men do that body sweep thing but some do it more obviously than others,

I think they don't realise we notice!

A conquest, yes. I don't understand it myself. It's like wow if I can pull her I bet I can do even better!

One person actually said to me that he didn't fancy being in an actual relationship with someone really gorgeous. Isn't there a saying 'if you want to be happy for the rest if your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.' I don't know what it means but perhaps it's true for some people.

Yes! And then when they can't, they come back. I'm sick of it. Plus I think you attract shallow, looks oriented men in the first instance.

Some women I know who are stunning only date men who they feel are the same level of attractiveness as them. I wonder if that actually helps prevent this conquest idea? I never go for people based on looks, ever. There has to be something about them I suppose.

Not yet jarlin. He last texted yesterday at about 5. I've never actually initiated a text conversation with him yet...

I just think, if he wants me, he cam Chase me. I don't run after men.

My phone is annoyingly sorry for typos

Wail: oh I just really want a boyfriend! (Slaps self)

Me too

Lol at my phone is annoyingly sorry. I'm at the park and can't get the backlight on, so can't see the display!

Dontcall, I like your attitude.??

Thanks gotta. It's a fine line, as I wonder if he'll think I don't like him, but I'm lovely on dates and I agree to see him again, so...

I don't think chasing a man ever gets anyone anywhere tbh.