Secrets we want to tell but can't

[LizzieBelle]

There was a thread on here a few months ago which was full of confessions and secrets that we can't tell in real life...My secret is that I know the neighbour on one side of me is having a naughty affair with the neighbour on the other side of me. As soon and the husband goes to work and the kids go to school she's off with the single dad on the other side of me...

Has anyone else got a secret??

Good for you darkest. I am certain you will find what you are looking for, don't compromise. A swingers club sounds like a good option.

Of course there's guys out there who want the same as you do Darkest - No strings attached, safe, occasional sex.

Chalk this one up as 'an experience' preferably one you'd rather not have again any time soon :)
The Condom issue aside - the asking for your bra - On a first date/encounter/whatever you'd like to call it is just NO!

You can do and deserve way better than that.
Swingers club might be a safer way to go.

Marking spot

Phew, darkest, am relieved by your decision. There will be better opportunities ahead where you will feel more comfortable. Good luck.

I really liked the way he was touching me though

But the condoms are non negotiable.

Thankyou Oi

Sorry it didn't work Darkest, onwards and upwards tho` Take care.

(There's not much nicer than an illicit fumble in a car!)
(Those were the days!)

Hes just texted me. saying he knows he said he would wait until i texted him first but i need to know are you ok with you and me"

My head is currently fighting another part of my anatomy.

Im so tempted because i really liked the way he touched me but i cant get past the condom issue. why do so many men not want to use them. I would never demand faithfulness from him because i dont have that right . Im married fgs so it would be hypocritical and being in my situation has changed my views on monogamy anyway. Just be prepared to USE A CONDOM blokes! And if he agreed how could i trust he wouldnt whip it off halfway through. Where are all the condom wearers FFS!

Thanks Keepit.

You don't need this man to make you feel good, Darkest.

It was the tenderness as well. The way he touched my face and swept my hair out of the way. Kissed the top of my head when we had finished kissing

And there will be other men who do that without the seedy, out of order asking for your bra on the first bloody date!!

Darkest - if the previous experience happened as he said it did, you would think he would be even keener to use condoms, surely....

This guy is not for you. Find another one, it won't be a problem, just get the respect you deserve

Darkest , my heart hurts for you.
I don't much like like condoms either. But that's not the same thing as refusing to wear one.

Did you discuss things in that much detail , ie did he actually state he would refuse to wear one? or just express his dislike of them (which I get completely ) because the two are very different.

is he married?

He says hes divorced. Hes got grown up kids He showed me some photos. He split from his wife when the first three were still young. Had two more with another woman in the 90s but they never lived together. He used to go round there and "help out"

I felt i had to bring the condom issue up because he seems quite sexually experienced. I just want to be careful Im sorry im bombarding this thread so much but my head is all over the place right now.

He said he didnt want to use one indefinately. I know some men dont mind though because ive seen MNers saying on other threads that their long term partners use one.

Actually, do you want to start a separate thread and link it to this, so people can go to it?

Have you actually explained to him that condoms are non negotiable? He might decide he agrees with you. He might be regretting rushing into such statements and hoping that you can discuss it with him. You'll never know if you don't at least text him back and make it clear. I wouldn't want to write off such a great first date until I had made absolutely sure.

I will do that Lweji.

Done it Think i will probably regret it though.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2181177-Potential-new-OM-on-the-horizon-after-years-in-a-sexless-marriage-Darkesteyes?msgid=49411529#49411529

I have a full on girl crush on one of the doctors at work. Most definitely not gay or bi but if I was she would be right up my street

I get girl crushes scrambled it's weird as I'm not gay/bi - (have dabbled in my yoof but much prefer willies) but the odd now and again some hot lady will catch my attention and I think MmmHmm :)
I never pursue it and I'm not actually sure if I would if single, sometimes I think no but sometimes I think yes.

I had a small girl crush on a college lecturer 24 years ago It was the only time ive had a crush on a woman I think part of it was admiration though.

much prefer willies) Me too.

N/C...
I've made, and just cancelled, a "date" with an escort. DW doesn't go anywhere near me any more, hasn't done for a couple of years (and it was sporadic before that). In a pretty low place at the moment, running out of ideas, patience, support, just long for her touch again... feel like I can't do it anymore, and thought this was the answer. Obviously, it's not, but now back to where I was. Married, yet alone.