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Secrets we want to tell but can't

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LizzieBelle · 02/08/2014 18:35

There was a thread on here a few months ago which was full of confessions and secrets that we can't tell in real life...My secret is that I know the neighbour on one side of me is having a naughty affair with the neighbour on the other side of me. As soon and the husband goes to work and the kids go to school she's off with the single dad on the other side of me...

Has anyone else got a secret??

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Meerka · 08/09/2014 12:53

yeah, who on earth is to say they're fishing? had this in my own father's life. turns out the half-sister was part of a very close family and one of her sons is a multi-millionaire. Getting in touch was not about the money.

tootsey · 08/09/2014 13:01

Personally, I dont think he is fishing for anything. He said in the letter he had come to our house years ago to see my dad. He wasnt in so left his name with my mother. But because my dad had no idea who he was, he could not contact him. I dont want to start something then wish i hadnt.

Lweji · 08/09/2014 13:09

Look, I don't think it's your place (or your siblings) to interfere in this.
This man contacted your dad by going there. He then sent the letter. I don't know why the letter wasn't opened by your father (or your mother), (was it by post or hand delivered?) but it's likely that this man will try to contact your father again if this was already his second attempt. This may well end up very embarrassingly for all of you siblings.

You wouldn't be the one starting anything. Only a letter must be delivered to the person it was intended to. It was your brother's decision to post it and it should be your father's decision what to do with it.

Itsfab · 08/09/2014 13:20

Your brother could be thinking his father doesn't give a shit Sad. You have to tell your father. It would be cruel not too. Family can be really important and your father might be the ONLY family he has.

Darkesteyes · 08/09/2014 14:12

Christ tootsey that is a very hard one I dont envy you. If it was me i would tell my dad. My mum would go bloody tonto if she found out but i think if it were me i would risk it. They are in their late 70s too. As are your parents so there may not be much time left. (i dont mean that nastily) But its a bloody hard decision to make.

Keepit Mrsbrown thankyou Thanks Thanks

bridget75 · 08/09/2014 14:23

My partner is a Cuckold! He is a lovely, handsome, affectionate, charming, generous, funny man. I love him and his son so much! However..... sex was a big problem for us to begin with. He is small and suffers from chronic p.e....I taught him how to use his hands, mouth and toys etc, and he got to be very good at that! I'm a very sexual woman though and I was still frustrated. We talked about it, and I suggested an open relationship, he said that he did not want to be with anyone else but me, but said that I could have a lover! (my ex) All three of us enjoy this dynamic! Nobody knows about this but us!

Darkesteyes · 09/09/2014 00:02

Im back from the date. We met at a pub and had a soft drink each. Then we went back to his car (yes i know this was stupid.) Lots of kissing and groping. I enjoyed it and got very turned on. Then (sorry for TMI) he asked to see my breasts. He was very into touching me which was nice after so long. He got very turned on and got it out and i was giving him a hand job. This was all fine No problem . He did ask me to kiss it twice and i said no Im not ready It feels too early on.
Then he asked if he could have one of my old bras. Because he wanted to have an item of clothing thats been close to my body. I used to work in a sex chatline office answering phones at reception and doing the calls. We used to send things like that out to clients all the time. So i know exactly what he wants it for. He also wanted to bring me to orgasm in the car but im not ready so i said no and he was fine with it

Darkesteyes · 09/09/2014 00:08

He also doesnt like the idea of condoms but is willing to go to a clinic to get a checkup and i said i will too. I dont mind .

Darkesteyes · 09/09/2014 00:09

Sorry to drip feed but our internet router is playing up so connection is very intermittent.

Darkesteyes · 09/09/2014 00:46

Oh and hes said hes a very quiet person and doesnt like swearing. Blush

And he didnt want to swop surnames. (which was fine because i wasnt sure about giving him mine. )

He was soooo good at touching a woman though.

Darkesteyes · 09/09/2014 01:10

My brain has really dropped down to my arse with this. Sorry .

slithytove · 09/09/2014 04:13

Are you ok darkest?

Kittydragon · 09/09/2014 08:02

Darkest if you fancy a bit of no strings shagging, with someone who knows what they are doing, go for it!

But if you at all vulnerable, or looking for affection, please be careful.

Lweji · 09/09/2014 08:10

I'm sorry but there are a few red flags for me there. I'd give it a huge pass.

something2say · 09/09/2014 09:43

I wouldn't pass it at all. Make sure you're safe and then get stuck right in. And don't yell people in real life, as people will judge I expect. Get what you want. You deserve it after all this time.

Lweji · 09/09/2014 11:01

Deserve what?
Even for casual sex, I think you deserve a bit better than this.

FelicityGubbins · 09/09/2014 11:05

How could you tell if his clinic "all clear" is genuine if he won't tell you his surname? I don't have a problem with fuck buddy situations but thats just plain stupid tbh. If yo are after no strings sex, join a swingers club and have safe (in every sense of the word) sex, not this stupid, squalid dangerous shit

And thats meant in a kind way darkest Flowers

HumblePieMonster · 09/09/2014 11:05

He also doesnt like the idea of condoms but is willing to go to a clinic to get a checkup and i said i will too

But how will that help? If you're not in an exclusive relationship with him, he could go with anyone after the test and before the results, giving clean results but carrying infections to pass on to you.

I don't trust any man who 'doesn't like the idea of condoms'.

Lweji · 09/09/2014 11:06

If he is checked in a clinic, you'd still have to trust him 100% and check again in a few months (6 or less these days?) before you even contemplated having bare back sex with him.

CarbeDiem · 09/09/2014 14:45

I don't trust any man who 'doesn't like the idea of condoms'
^ This!
It screams that not only does he not give a fuck about your sexual health but he cares very little for his own - that would worry me greatly.
Darkest please be careful, after what you described above - this guy sounds like he has quite a few issues going on.

TheOneWithTheHair · 09/09/2014 14:49

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embarrassedgirl · 09/09/2014 15:09

okies - here is one. My husband who i adore - is a tranny.

The thing is, he is stunning and has great legs and not only walks amazingly but dances better in heels. He has more shoes than i do - which somehow isnt fair

Not only that but we both like to glam up in some fairly revealing rubber outfits and go fetish clubbing. He looks great in a rubber dress!

I am a normal working mum of 3 - who would die if this was known :-)

Darkesteyes · 09/09/2014 15:20

Thankyou that is what i needed to hear. Ideally i would have liked him to use condoms all the time plus me be on contraception . Ive decided im not going to see him again.

Darkesteyes · 09/09/2014 15:25

He was seeing a married woman in the same situ as me and she got pregnant and had an abortion and told him afterwards. he didnt seem too happy about it. I dont think hes pro choice but i definately am. Its a shame as i could tell he knows his way around a woman by his touch. But im sure there are other men out there who do too who are willing to use condoms and dont have the issues.
Im chalking this one up to experience and moving on Onwards and upwards. It really helped going on this date looking through MN / feminist eyes.

Thankyou everyone Thanks Thanks

Darkesteyes · 09/09/2014 15:27

HumblePie i was thinking EXACTLY what youve said in your post as i got into bed last night.

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