Secrets we want to tell but can't

[LizzieBelle]

There was a thread on here a few months ago which was full of confessions and secrets that we can't tell in real life...My secret is that I know the neighbour on one side of me is having a naughty affair with the neighbour on the other side of me. As soon and the husband goes to work and the kids go to school she's off with the single dad on the other side of me...

Has anyone else got a secret??

tootsey how do you know your father has another son yet he doesn't??

I have a date on Monday night.

De lurking to say 'WOOT, go girl'

Good for you Dark

Very exciting dark

I've been silently suffering with a (minor, I hope) painfully embarrassing medical condition for about 5 years.
Things got bad this weekend, - agonising pain in a related area, I think it was therefore related. I'm going to grow some balls (not literally, that's not the medical condition!) and go and see a GP tomorrow.

OiMissus im sorry to hear this. I hope the pain eases soon and that you get to your GP as soon as poss. I hope its nothing serious.

(Thank you, darkest, I'm fine. It's not that bad. Just ... Well, it needs sorting out.)

YY Oi I hope you can get an appointment very soon.

A man sent a letter to my Dad, which my brother opened. Said that my dad was his dad. My brother showed it to me and my sister. They both decided to not tell my dad. I wanted to tell him and still do. They're thinking about their inheritance. Im thinking my dad needs to know.

Tell him. The man needs his dad, who happens to be your dad. If your dad dies before the man meets him, that is something that your brother and sister will never be able to make up to him.
Tell your dad.

Im scared of starting something that I shouldnt. I do not know this mans age so he could be inbetween our ages, which would mean one thing, and my view of my dad. My dad is very reserved. How would this affect my mother? And if I did tell, my brother is not mentally well and hasn't been for years, which i mean is not one to be messed with.

tell him

it isn't fair not too

Your reasonable reason to tell him FAR out ways their money grabbing ways

I want to find this man and tell him what has happened, then leave it up to him from there. As I said before, I am scared what will happen. How will this affect my mother? Think about it, if this was your family, how would it affect your mother, they are in their late 70's. It would be a lot on anyone's shoulders to find this out.

Isn't it illegal to open other people's post? Or did your brother have your dad's permission?
In any case, it was not his right to hide it from your father and I suspect he could be prosecuted (this should be checked).

As for your mother, it's for your dad to tell her, or not, or for you three to decide if she needs to know.

You might still have to share your inheritance with this brother, if he comes forward when your father dies. So, that is not a valid reason not to tell your dad. Even more so, if it is ever shown that your father didn't know about him because of you three.

Good luck Darkest!

Tell your dad. How can you contact the man? Does the letter still exist?
This really needs sorting. Your parents are in their late seventies, there isn't any time to lose.
Really, don't deprive this man of the opportunity to know his father, or your father of the opportunity to know his son.

lweji do unacknowledged illegitimate children really have a share in their parent's property on death?

tootsy, what about contacting this man yourself? it sounds like maybe he's being tactful about how he contacts the family. Could see how it goes and make a decision from there.

I don't have any legal knowledge or expertise but I'm fairly sure that all the children have rights if there is no will, but only those named if a will exists.

Meerka, I think it depends on the country.
But even so, I could see a case for disputing a will if the brother contacted the father and his siblings intercepted the communication.
Not sure of the legality, but it doesn't sound right at all. I'd be checking it if you want to keep this a secret.
What if this brother confronts your dad, ever, about the letter he never replied to?

And your brothers sound greedy and selfish.

Aren't you curious about this sibling? He may prove to be a better person than the ones you have now.

hrm, thank you lweji, interesting.

Good luck, tootsy. finding half-siblings can be a lovely experience. Bit like putting your hand in the lucky dip though, you don't know if you'll come out with a diamond or a lump of coal.

great news, Darkest. you deserve love in your life

"Isn't it illegal to open other people's post?"

No, it isn't. You need to have no reasonable cause AND act to their detriment. An argument could be made that withholding the information in said letter could be interpreted as acting to the rightful recipient's detriment. In this case the risk of the rightful recipient going legal is extremely remote even if/when they are acquainted with the contents. If I was convinced this half-brother was fishing for an inheritance I'd keep schtum as well.

If I was convinced this half-brother was fishing for an inheritance I'd keep schtum as well.

Nice. Fishing for an inheritance.
Who wouldn't want to meet their father? Why should this person be fishing for an inheritance?

IMO there are dodgy people here, but it's not the illegitimate child.