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Secrets we want to tell but can't

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LizzieBelle · 02/08/2014 18:35

There was a thread on here a few months ago which was full of confessions and secrets that we can't tell in real life...My secret is that I know the neighbour on one side of me is having a naughty affair with the neighbour on the other side of me. As soon and the husband goes to work and the kids go to school she's off with the single dad on the other side of me...

Has anyone else got a secret??

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Darkesteyes · 15/08/2014 22:14

Thanks Garlic Thanks Wine

CantGetYouOutMyHead · 16/08/2014 15:17

A married colleague at work (who I've always thought it was safe to have a secret crush on) completely shocked me by asking me if I fancied a snog at a work leaving do.

I turned him down - but I still feel very naughty. Especially as I really wanted to do more than just kiss him.

WildBillfemale · 16/08/2014 16:29

Yesterday I bought some pants in Lidl, I rather like them.

SweetsForMySweet · 18/08/2014 18:57

I have found out that a family I know have a half brother and I'm pretty sure they don't know he exists. I found out by chance and wish I hadn't. Their dad has sinced passed away so don't think any of them will ever find out.

I had a friend in school who got pregnant on a fling (she cheated on her bf) but never told her bf and let him believe that he was the dad. They broke up for a year and he went to stay in a different city and shared a flat with my brother. My brother later told me that my friend's boyfriend got a girl pregnant while staying there. He returned back home later that year and got back with my friend. They later got married and had two more children. My friend has no idea that her husband had another child with someone else and her husband has no idea that their dd is not his bio dd.

Can someone pm who is the newsreader please?

herotozero · 18/08/2014 19:40

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Voodoobooboo · 18/08/2014 20:14

I've been thinking a bit about a colleague today, who I mentioned on another thread. We know each other through work and she is a really great and top person. We have a very old friend in common (i don't think she realises) who told me that my colleague survived a truly awful, horrific sexual assault when she was young. It was in the national press and she was basically left for dead. It's not a secret amongst her longstanding friends and family but obviously not something she discusses or even that her work are aware of. She is an amazing high flyer and would do anything to support anyone. Her team love her and she is hugely respected in a very tough, very male dominated industry. Genuinely a truly wonderful person. I can't tell her that I know but I desperately want to tell her that she is utterly incredible and I am lost in admiration for her. Her achievements on their own are seriously impressive, but against the backdrop of the attack they are mindblowing. But I can't say anything.

foxinthebox · 18/08/2014 20:32

The newsreader doesn't happen to be married to bully who works in telly?

Olddear · 18/08/2014 20:51

Please, please tell me who the newsreader is!!!!!!

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YetAnotherHelenMumsnet · 18/08/2014 21:54

Hi all,
It'd be great if you could all make sure that you are in fact completely comfortable with what you are saying on here before posting it... Wink

We can withdraw posts, but we prefer not to, and these recent withdrawals then mean we have to delete people's (very reasonable) supplementary questions.

So remember folks, it's "secrets we want to tell but can't" (but can, really) that this thread is after.

Peace out.

Curiouslygrumpycola · 18/08/2014 22:09

It's amazing that reading some of these reminds me of secrets I had forgotten about.

I know someone who is incredibly spoilt and selfish. The person has made terrible life decisions based on these qualities and blames it on being an only child. I know the person isn't an only child though. Their mum had a child when younger and left the father to raise it. I don't know if the person will ever find out they have a half sibling and if it would do any good anyway.

Blurry29 · 18/08/2014 23:45

Pulls up a seat Wink

Love the thread

AuntieVenom · 19/08/2014 10:14

I'm five and a half weeks pregnant with my first child after 7 years of trying.
I can't tell anyone (apart from DH) until the first scan in case it goes horribly wrong.

Chachah · 19/08/2014 10:26

One of my oldest friend is married to a very religious, conservative (but otherwise lovely!) guy. She's always known how old-fashioned he is about relationships, so when they first got together she told him she'd only had sex once before him.

In fact, not only has she had quite a colourful sex life before him, but as they were in the early stages of their relationship, she slept with a common friend who is still very close to them both (now also happily married).

I could destroy her life Grin

SweetsForMySweet · 19/08/2014 10:32

Congrats AuntieVenom Smile

Chachah · 19/08/2014 10:34

AuntieVenom Thanks

AuntieVenom · 19/08/2014 10:40

Thanks SweetsForMySweet and Chachah

Caillou · 19/08/2014 10:50

One of dh's friend is married back in his home country,

But also married over here (uk) and has currently gone to Portugal to see his ex (which isn't really an ex).

He told his wife in uk that he has gone to buy some machinery...

Username12345 · 19/08/2014 12:29

Some of these secrets. Christ on a bike I've lived a sheltered life Shock

fourfatsnakes · 19/08/2014 13:04

Aw, AuntieVenom brilliant Thanks

MrsHaitch · 19/08/2014 13:36

I have got quite friendly with my new neighbour, partly because I really fancy her husband!

Darkesteyes · 19/08/2014 14:33

Chachah is he only "religious and conservative" when it comes to how many partners a woman has had or does he have the same attitude to blokes too.

Sounds like a mysogynist with a Madonna/whore complex.

Chachah · 19/08/2014 15:44

Darkesteyes well he applies the same standard to himself, at least, it was really important to him that he stayed a virgin until their wedding.

As it happened my friends wore him out and they did sleep together first (hah), but then he had a huge crisis of conscience and it wasn't pretty.

I think he's sincere enough in his beliefs, the problem is that the Madonna/whore thing comes directly from said beliefs. The Catholic Church's position on women is not exactly at the cutting edge of feminism.