The Brave Babes Battle Bus - In Search Of Sobriety, Sunshine & Survival!

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Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the thread, or our mythical Bus called Gerald!

There is room for everyone. Always

There is help for everyone who wants it. Always

There is unconditional support and kindness. Always

We have two sentences that we believe in here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

No matter what it is that you drink, how much, how often, we've ALL been in your position at one point or another...... so most of us WILL know exactly what it's like to be YOU

If you'd like to read the last thread, it's below -

THIS IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD

And if you want to read a pretty sobering thread and the history behind these many, the reason why we are all here, fighting to stay/get sober is here -

FIRST EVER BRAVE BABES THREAD

Hope to see you soon :)

Mouse x

clickers - welcome.

I found that the key was in finding something that I loved to drink. This month my favourite is soda with freshly squeezed lime (should be available in Asia), sometimes I go all berry juices and tonic, sometimes cool mint and fennel. Find something that you actually like the taste of, and you will soon find that really wine was a pretty crap taste after all.

little did you eat Jerusalem artichokes? OMG they are a nightmare.

I once made a Jerusalem artichoke and broccoli bake with blue cheese sauce - bloody hell, at 2 in the morning you would have thought there a couple of rhinoceros in our bed. Or an elephant. Trumpeting. We didn't know if the bed was shaking with laughter or .....

venus No Jerusalem artichokes here. It was ratatouille. I find aubergine a bit, ahem, wind inducing!

onions do it for me littlewhite and venus shame for DH as my fave SW meal at the moment is curry.... with LOTS of onions in. It's working though, lost grand total of 3 stone 9 pounds so far, YAY another stone and 4 ponds to my target, feels achievable now but sooo slooow, I just want to wake up tomorrow all thin and AF. if only it was all that simple hope everyone is ok? I managed to get past day 10 this time and still no plans to drink yet. The weekend was tough and I nearly caved on Sat eve but resisted, long may it last.
welcome clickers you are among some good un's on here.

Don't talk to me about French onion soup.

Cheers venus. The HALT thing makes sense. If only it still sounded good if you added an 'F' to it, for 'Frustration'

I get frustrated when things aren't finished or are out of my control. They really weigh on me. A lot of the time I'm just hurling myself through the last few hours of the day, hand outstretched for that glass of wine that'll give me my headspace back . . .

Not tonight though. Had cravings for the last couple of hours but think I'm mostly through the Danger Zone. Once I've had dinner I'll be fine.

The WW is currently trying to make deals with me: 'OK, why don't we just meet up on Thursday?' How does everyone else deal with this? Everyone who isn't dry, that is? How do you tell the difference between a real, conscious, in-control 'plan' and just giving in to the cravings?

You've lost 3 stone 9 pounds eccles? That's brilliant!

fable - easy-peasy: deal with it like you would with horrid spotty youth asking you out. You say 'yup, Thursday sounds fine'. Then you go massively crazy making arrangements so you have something else fixed for Thursday at the same time. So when the ww comes a-knocking you are cool and calm ad say 'sorry, tonight I have my martial arts class', maybe see you next week'.

I tell you it confuses the fuck out the ww and she stomps off to bother someone else....

Another day low carb, not drinking, been for a run. Work very very not good.
Venus will pm you.

The WW is currently trying to make deals with me: 'OK, why don't we just meet up on Thursday?' the bitch does this to me too but like to offer a friday night as first choice. I am loving your response venus hmm would 'i'm washing my hair' work I wonder.
phrase yes very proud of my weight loss, its been a long hard slog since January but something clicked when I reached nearly 16 stone and I knew things had to change, being AF would have made it a faster process but I reckoned that I could only deal with one thing at a time, annoying though how I seemed to have cracked the food cravings but the alcohol ones.... well.... I haven't but I am working on it. ma don't let the bastards grind you down, work is only there to give you the money to enjoy the rest of your life. well done on the low carb and AF day.

Schools back tomorrow and DD has just said she's not going. Seriously. A long story involving flat feet and DH being inflexible as usual. It feels like we lurch from one drama to another. Work, money, cars, kids...

The wine is still in the car though. Staying strong.

Hi Isindethickofit - I've managed to do day two too!!! Yay for us!

Morning babes

Thanks for the support when I had my blip on Friday, you're all amazing people beaches yes I felt terrible all day Saturday (puked most of the morning, classy bird eh?!), however I haven't repeated the performance so I'm learning it's only taken me the best part of 20 years

Will have a read back to catch up, hope everyone is well x

Goooooood morning

I too have done Day 2!

Thanks for the tip venus

eccles, sounds like a v sensible approach to not try and do everything at once. You should be proud of yourself for the weight loss, rather than thinking you could have done more - I'm working on that kind of thinking myself

Day 2 - and i failed. Damn, what is wrong with me? I did the healthy eating and loads of walking then i had a couple of glasses of wine in the evening.

Back to day 1 again.

Nowt wrong with you little

I didn't even get to Day 1 for upwards of five years.

little its a new day a new start babe, most of us have had rather more than one day one , at least you have not just given up the idea, there may well be many more day one's to come but stick with us and it will end up as day 2,3,4,5,6, etc. The healthy eating and exercise will add something positive to your health and honestly, if it was just a couple then that is really good

Hello babes

Lots of well done's today, day 1 is the bugger that is the hardest to pin down and day 2 and 3 but by day 4 things begin to get a little bit easier (this is my experience) keep going babes, food, early nights, baths, sitting on hands, whatever helps xxx

isinde I feel your pain. The first day of school is such a big step and when you sense apprehension it makes it such a worry. They will have each other, you will be there to scoop them up after and hear about all the details. It will be a courageous day for you and I remember it well. Expect to pace a lot!

My two, although much older, are starting new schools tomorrow and I am feeling anxious for them. They appear ok and I am trying to be blasé and positive but I am having fitful sleeps and full of guilt for causing the upheaval. Deep breath, big smile, all will be well mantra!

joey I hope your DD has got to school ok. New terms, pah! (Apart from the new stationery)

I am skipping the shuffle/run this morning. Dh has put his back out and I really can't be arsed needs some tea and sympathy.

Snazzy I thought that might happen! the morning after can be hideous. Well done for shaking it off and carrying on.

Spanna thinking of you and your paper flowers! Slowly but surely I bet the oldies are falling for you, and you for them. Day 31 today? Mrs Wonderballs.

Im I dreamt I saw you post. I would love to see you check in babe. Think of you sometimes and hope life is treating you ok xx

baby come back honey. We miss you

Waves to eccles, little, phrase and pizza I love reading your posts. And to all the other bus babes too. Xx

hi isindie I was on this thread last year as soberisthenewblack and I mentioned that I too had twins.
I couldnt read your post and run because I so get what you mean. It seems to be fairly common that one twin will be more confident and outgoing than the other.
My 2 are young adults now but if I could do it all again then I think that I would do homework separately as DT2 constantly compared herself to D1 also DT1 was also inclined to help DT2 when she was struggling which totally undermined her.
Also dont worry they will be fine although a bit slower DT2 left school with 13 exam passes mostly at A or B grades.
I also put them into separate classes but I dont know if that is an option for you
Hello to everyone else on the bus and Day 1 for me .........again :(

Day 1 again, I had no intention of drinking last night but had to pop to the shops after work. Ended up picking up a miniature bottle of wine. H had also bought wine and I had a small glass of that. I must be the only person who gets to 10pm and starts drinking!

Hugs Little - nothing at all wrong with you, you should be proud that you did day 1

The last two days were OK for me because I felt like shit (tummy bug) - now I'm back on form the cravings are hitting. I'm not confident I'll make it to day 3.

I already have my excuses planned - I need to finish off the vodka in the freezer then not buy any more (which will be easy as I have no spare pennies)

Hoping that there will be no mixer at home tonight......

On a completely random and positive note, my friend has booked tickets for us to go to the Coronation Street Tour! I like having something to look forward to

...and on an even better note, when did arrive?! As a recently converted Whovian it's made me very excited!

Hi everyone. Sorry to read and run - I'll read properly later as DH is out and I've got a night in on my own . I need to join the 'day one again' club too. Crap few days with builders and house in complete bloody disarray. DD had to go and stay at my folks. Work had been ridiculously busy. So I drank. Vile hangover this morning. Tonight: tea, magazines, Celeb BB. Builders just finishing off. If I post here, I won't drink. Check back later x

isinde maybe your DT2s confidence will actually improve when she is in a different class to her sister.

dont know if this will make you feel any less anxious Isindie but when we were being shown around the school my ""clingy" twin hid underneath my jumper the whole time.
I must have appeared deranged as I chatted to the headmistress about how much they were looking forward to school and in the meantime hissing to DT1 " get out from underneath my jumper now " Meanwhile she clung like a limpet .
Well she has now joined the army and is training to be on the frontline as a medic .............I could never have predicted that :)