Been seeing a guy for a year. What do you think of the following:
- about 20 texts a day, more if I don't reply, even more if we have had a falling out
- at least 3 phone calls a day (I hate talking on the phone) sometimes at inconvenient times eg when I am at work and he knows I can't talk
- pretending to be cool about me going out (I rarely go out) but when I do making me feel guilty by saying, I wish you had told me before and asking the same questions over and over eg about who is going as if to catch me out
- when I had builders in my home, kept turning up unexpectedly at odd times as if to check up on me
- ringing me all day long about what time the builders were finishing and what time they left and did they phone and who phoned etc
- turned up outside my home at 9am one Sunday after a rare Saturday night to myself (he lives 30 miles away) accusing me of having a man in the house as my friend's car was on the drive and she had got a taxi home. He had driven to my home to check up on me
- asking over and over about drinks in my fridge and saying the lager was a man's drink, who was it for etc
- offering to do things to help me out but putting himself out so much it embarrasses me and then throwing at me in an argument that he feels used
It is as if he doesn't have enough in his life. He keeps texting saying he is bored. It puts pressure on me.
I have tried to end it several times but he says he will fight for me. I know I have got to say a definitive no and stick to it. Can you understand why I am feeling smothered?
When I dumped him by text he cycled nearly 30 miles to my house, banged on the door, shouted from the garden etc, sent threatening texts to me and nasty messages to my male FB friends. Do not hesitate to call 101 and report him for harrassment at the very least if he reacts badly.
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