I can't remember what my situation was when I updated last, Jarlin - I was seeing someone over in Eastern Europe where I spend most of my time, she was young but funny and smart. She broke things off for not-quite-understood-reasons. For some reason she felt guilty about fancying me. I can't work out her psychology at all. Still, onwards and upwards.
Had a few dates which were chemistry-free. One or two where I fancied them but they didn't fancy me back. One where I dumped a woman for cancelling at the last minute because she didn't have enough time to get ready for the date she'd just brought forward from the following day. She'd have been incredibly high maintenance, and who needs that?
Had a first date at the weekend with a woman a couple of years older than me, fairly attractive, interesting and funny, but she's a fairly dedicated christian and I'm a fairly dedicated atheist, so I'm not sure how that might work out. I'm not sure how much I fancied her, she might just be a friend I can debate life with. I asked her for a second date anyway, to see if chemistry kicked in - she said yes so we're on for this weekend. .
Generally I don't ask for a second date unless I fancy them. In this case I'll see if I start to do so. I just won't talk about the ickle baby jesus and how modern christianity is just a cynical construct of pagan, mithran and other religions to impose and reinforce a social stratum to enforce the repression of the masses. On the first date we talked about quantum mechanics and whether ants get a sugar rush, and how to make the perfect cup of tea.
On the subject of overthinking, though, I'm guilty of it myself. The majority of my friends are women and I'm usually a sounding board for their angst, so I'm quite used to it. It's nice to see it's women in general who do it though, not just the friends I gravitate towards.