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Dating thread 77

999 replies

neiljames77 · 20/07/2014 03:26

Just got in from my holiday and saw that 76 was full. Smile

OP posts:
BeforeAndAfter · 02/08/2014 22:38

Don't have you broken the news to Mr Teacher that he didn't pass the interview?

dontcallmehon22 · 02/08/2014 22:47

No, not yet, Before. I feel so bloody awkward now. He's just texted me to say: 'I would love to take you out again this week. I would like to arrange something befitting of your great beauty and intellect, though I fear that is an impossible undertaking.'

Tisahardlife · 02/08/2014 22:53

Dont I wanna hit like Grin Good luck letting him down gently

dontcallmehon22 · 02/08/2014 22:54

Oh no. I made an excuse about being quite busy [chicken] and he replied: 'I will wait, beautiful dont. If you get free time, morning noon or night let me know. You are so special.'

Blush Help!

BeforeAndAfter · 02/08/2014 22:55

Oh dear Don't... Perhaps you'll just have to send the old "thanks so much for your lovely words but I'm sorry to say that there was no spark for me. I've thought about this over and over and I know that time won't change this" message and keep it as simple as that and then stick to your guns as he tries to change your mind.

Is it just me or do you respect him a little less because of the OTT-ness of those texts?

dontcallmehon22 · 02/08/2014 22:59

I will have to, Before. I'll do it tomorrow, can't face it now. Him coming on so strong has made this really difficult!

Even if I'd liked him and he hadn't smelled of popcorn, those texts would've put me off. I like a bit of romance/adoration, but I also like a challenge. I'm into brooding, difficult, slightly detached men, not total wet lettuces.

BeforeAndAfter · 02/08/2014 23:09

I'm the same Don't - I don't want a man to fawn all over me. It's nauseating. I remember one bloke who had scrunched up all of my tissues and created a love heart with them on the lounge floor. He'd left early for work so I headed into my lounge and there was my empty tissue box and this ridiculous heart on the floor. I was bloody infuriated that he'd wasted my tissues . I then had to sit and flatten them out and put them back in the box. That wound me up so much. He then chased it up by text asking if I'd liked the heart... what a wanker.

He's the one who sent me this long flowing text about my beauty and all the things he wanted to do to me. I skim read it (he was really boring me by then) and then I spotted the bit about my long flowing blonde hair. I'm a brunette. He had cut and paste this section from some book or something and bloody texted it to me!!!

dontcallmehon22 · 02/08/2014 23:11

Oh Before I'm crying laughing about the tissues! Grin

dontcallmehon22 · 02/08/2014 23:25

Oh no. It gets worse. He's just sent this: 'Your modesty is a humbling force.' Anyone who actually knows me would not use the word 'modest' to describe me.

Followed by this: 'The folded meanings of your words' deceit...Against my soul's pure truth why labour you,/ To make it wander in an unknown field?/Are you a God? Would you create me new?/Transform me then, and to your power yield.' It's from Shakespeare's comedy of errors. Mr Teacher declared that it seemed rather apt.

WTAF?

Tisahardlife · 02/08/2014 23:29

Before thank you for cheering up my sad lonely evening Grin

BeforeAndAfter · 02/08/2014 23:44

Oh Don't (or should I call you Modesty Blaise) you might just have to take one for the thread and date him to keep the quotes coming.

dontcallmehon22 · 02/08/2014 23:47

I did actually consider that, Before. He's almost too funny to pass up...

I did say almost.

MadeMan · 03/08/2014 00:35

All this flowery text writing is like a bad Chris Eubank parody. Where do these men get the stuff?

MadeMan · 03/08/2014 00:39

'Your modesty is a humbling force.'

This is pure Chris Eubank.

Bant · 03/08/2014 00:41

Dont - let him down gently. He's obviously got some overblown romantic image of you, thinks sending you Shakespearean quotes is impressive and he's not doing it for you, but don't be mean to him. Not that I think you would, but.. Just be gentle with him.

I seem to be a little smitten. Possibly more.

Last time I posted, I was going to have a second date with Theologist, who was a couple of years older than me, interesting and funny, but I didn't really fancy her very much and her heart-on-sleeve christianity put me off a bit.

So, we had the second date and it was a nice chat, we had dinner (I paid, because I asked, and I think that's fair) but.. nothing. No spark, no chemistry, Interesting conversation but nothing more. When she turned up and I saw her across the room I was a bit disappointed.

But, I had a date with someone else. We started chatting on Match and she just seemed sweet and funny. Her pictures were good. Went out for a first date midweek, and again last night, and she stayed over as she'd had to drive to my town for dinner. We'd said we'd be good but things got the better of us.

And she's lovely. Funny, with that mutual spark, talking about random conversations and going off on weird tangents, and just getting each other. She's gorgeous but I think her experiences in the past have damaged her confidence so she doesn't know that she's just stunning. She doesn't know that she's witty and insightful either, so I'm just listening to her talk and fascinated by her views on stuff, and she gets all shy about it, which is incredibly endearing. We're trying to find out when we can meet again, but with both of us having kids it's difficult to find a convenient time.

Hissy · 03/08/2014 01:05

Aw don't how vomtastic sweet! You get flowery shite, and I get Mr RockGod texting me with photos of his new tattoo!

Am seeing him for Date 2 tomorrow, after yet another long conversation on the phone, he's so quick and eloquent. Really impressive.

Apparently he fancies me like mad. God knows why/how, but he does. I find this really hardd to believe, cos I don't see it myself.
, but Bant your post couldn't have come at a better time, that helps.

Tisahardlife · 03/08/2014 01:33

Bant that sounds wonderful and made to be, enjoy Smile

Well waiting by the phone has brought no messages...now I feel foolish for sending one sext type message this morning. So where are all the decent men? I have found that they are neither in RL or OLD, so how the F* do I actually find someone?

Tisahardlife · 03/08/2014 04:48

Fuck knows Tisa I have no Idea where there eligible bachelors are :-/ but you will all call to gather a hand x

Minime85 · 03/08/2014 08:08

Oh dont you couldn't make it up. He sounds hilarious

louby44 · 03/08/2014 08:58

Catching up this morning and it seems you all had a jolly time last night on here!

Bant that sounds lovely, so happy when people have good dates!

don't those texts are just brilliant - you were definitely meant to meet him so that he could be in your book and you could break through your writers block - twas meant to be!

Tisa where are all the decent men?? I too wonder that everyday!

minmooch · 03/08/2014 09:40

Oh don't they truly are fantastic texts. Surely no man really believes a woman would fall for those after just one date? However, please Please keep dating him to keep the rest of us amused!

Bant that sounds wonderful. I would love to know that someone felt that way about me < sigh >.

As for me I have date no 4 with my walking/lunch man - I shall call him Mr SA. He is coming to mine for dinner on Wednesday evening < eek >. I am a good cook so no worries there, but having somebody in 'my space' will be interesting.

dontcallmehon22 · 03/08/2014 09:40

I like the sound of Rock God, Hissy.

Bant that sounds wonderful. I agree I need to let Mr Teacher down gently.

Ok, so how's this:

'I had a lovely time with you on our date and I enjoyed your company very much. Thank you for a great date. I have been thinking and I don't think we are compatible longer term, but I wish you lots of luck in your search. All the best, dont x'

dontcallmehon22 · 03/08/2014 09:43

I can't face the thought of him lunging at me again, Minmooch. Don't worry though, I'm sure there are plenty more oddities just waiting for me to meet them.

Chatting to Horseface on match. He's 6'3 And looks attractive if slightly horse-like.

mariposaazul · 03/08/2014 09:47

That sounds fine Don't maybe send it soon before any more texts....
Ideally it would be good if a friend could tell him how offputting it is his trying too hard - but that's not yr responsibility

dontcallmehon22 · 03/08/2014 09:54

Ok, sent it. I hate doing that.