Dating thread 77

[neiljames77]

Just got in from my holiday and saw that 76 was full.

Doh, I can't keep up with this thread and now I've just typed a long message and managed to delete it....Mini, meant to say sorry you had to find out your guy had lied about something but glad you feel it's worth gving him another chance. Phew! I must log in more frequently!

Hahaha Don't I think we are looking for the same man ...minus the popcorn smell definitely!

Thanks Jarlin I have been keeping up with you and Slow and remember some of the anxt you have been through not knowing how he feels about you because he was so, well, slow. Thing with this Guy (I need a name for him) is that in the bedroom department we have not been slow at all, it's the other stuff that seems to be slow as in really getting to know each other and chatting about deeper stuff, he just isn't in a good place I don't think.

Which leads me onto thinking that I need to back off. Who knows if anything will come of it in the end, but I really don't think he is ready to date after his last relationship, and he has said he can't cope with pressure. I am now thinking that he views texting most days and once/twice weekly phone calls as pressure. I'm going to back off and detach a bit and keep looking (though I can't cope with OLD again just yet), and if he happens to find himself in a better place and more available to me then maybe would could carry on, but it's messing with my head waiting for texts that never come, so I need to move on emotionally...easier said than done though.

White what's the story with your friend and what happened?

Well another 6'3, clever man is messaging me. There seem to be a lot of them about at the moment. Though I do wonder if I'm capable of feeling the spark for anyone anymore. Let's hope he a) asks me on a date quickly b) is attractive to me c) isn't in any way weird or dysfunctional and d) doesn't smell of popcorn

Don't rather than you not being capable of feeling the spark anymore I think it's just that you're becoming more discerning.

Your twat radar is working well and you are listening to what your date tells you rather than pushing aside those little warning sounds in your head and letting romantic optimism takeover. This way you cut out the six or eight weeks' investment before finding out they're not for you. I think it's a good thing.

You will feel that spark again, definitely.

That's a good way of looking at it before.

With my ex, I felt the spark straight away, no question and he turned out to be an emotionally manipulative abuser...

Evening all.

In all honesty nothing happened with my friend. I am just a bit disappointed because I promised him he was exactly what any girl would want and I feel like I let him down .

So if anyone else is in the Oxford area and looking for a real genuine bloke pm me and I will out in a good word for you ;-)

He is 6ft2 with dark brown hair and little cute glasses which I think are super sexy. And not a fish or cock shot in sight! !

Dont I'm sure it will happen where you get that spark again.

Thanks knitted. Yes been a rollercoaster few days but I'm feeling on more of an even keel with it all now. Let's see what happens. He is being attentive and lovely. He even unloaded my dishwasher this morning and bought me tea in bed. Neither of which are euphemisms! But let's just say make up sex is good.

Well girls if there are no takers then maybe I could have a go

That might be an option, white!

I've written Mr Teacher's date up. He has helped me to overcome a month of writer's block. For that, I am truly thankful.

White Your friend sounds lovely, but lives nowhere near me, shame. Yep, you're both single, I reckon go for it :-D

Dont your book sounds great, I look forward to reading it :-)

Well, I'm sat by my phone desperately hoping a text comes, but knowing that in actual fact it is unlikely too :-( I have tried distraction, but run out of distracting things, I am now drinking wine at home. Saturday night, kids at their dads and nowhere to go, how sad am I!

Is there a dating site I can go and browse on without actually joining? I deleted my last profile in an agreement with Mr Fuckedup (About sums him up, he is so not ready to be dating), but am not ready to rejoin yet, though did used to enjoy popping onto the site on an evening, it gave me something to do and a bit of a chuckle :-)

Tis I've just eaten a huge family-sized pizza to myself, pounded the best part of a tub of Haagen Daaz and am now making myself a loom band bracelet whilst watching The Hobbit... I'm sad too!! But am at least watching sexy bearded dwarves....

Tis try tinder you don't really have to sign up and it's absolutely hilarious and will provide some good Saturday night entertainment

I just reread a couple of texts Mr Teacher sent me. They are waaaay over keen.

' Wow! What words can I use. Humble, beautiful, bewitching! Probably a few more! Not used this word before...Perfect. But can the first thrusts of love be deceiving? We know the answer to that. Every colour will shine brighter tomorrow. Goodnight, sweet dont'

And:

'Our first date was on Lammas day. The most ancient festive day on these shores. It was the first harvest of the year. And if it was a prosperous one they believed it marked the beginning of a golden future. Sweet dreams, beautiful dont'

'First thrusts of love'?! Amazing!!

Gooey good for you I've gone into barely eating mode, which is what I tend to do when I'm down, it's worrying as I know it is me controlling the only part of my life I feel I can as everything else seems to be spinning out of control. But I will look better for it in a few days when I'm recovered a little.

Minime I've been told Tinder before, but when I looked at it I have to download the app and this computer the children use...I would hate for them to find a dating site on the computer, or is that not how it works? I guess I could upload the app to my phone? Sounds just what I need though if it's not going to impact on the kids.

Dont I spat my wine at the keyboard then how are you going to say no to him when he is making so much over the top effort?

God knows how I'm going to tell him that not only was our first date on Lammas day, but also our last date too! His 'golden future' won't be with me!

Don't those lines are hilarious - I hope they're in the book. So did his thrusts of love appear before he'd met you or after?

Hmm, can women have thrusts of love do you think or is that a singularly masculine declaration?

I am very bored tonight. I was supposed to be hosting my best friend but she couldn't make it as she's very poorly. I actually cooked myself a proper meal from scratch which is very rare indeed when I'm on my own.

That was after the date before.

I bet it's something he says during sex. 'Would you like a thrust of my love sausage to celebrate Lammas day, my seductive enchantress?'

Sorry dont think I missed some of the thread.... These were after your first date?!
Do you think they're pre-written in a notebook somewhere or quite spur-of-the-moment?
Any tips you can pass on about how to bewitch Mr Nerdy-Beardy would be greatly appreciated!

gooey yes indeed, Mr Teacher was experiencing 'thrusts of love' after ONE date.

I have absolutely no idea what I did to warrant such, ahem, eloquent prose.

I bet he has a love notebook for such occasions.

sigh I guess I'll have to rely on my amazing good looks & sparkling personality I'm doomed

Gooey you could try the old "thrusts of love" line

Hahaha! How does one slip thrusts of love into polite conversation? (So to speak... )

Tis yes use app on your phone.

Don't those texts are pure gold