Hi everyone, I hope you're all having a good summer. I haven't been here for ages-just a bit busy with getting divorced and selling/buying a house-bloody frustrating and tedious!
But, I would value your pearls of wisdom please.
I'm completely disillusioned with the whole internet dating thing. I've had a couple of dates, both men were very nice, but absolutely no spark.
The first one I met, had the audacity to tell me that his,
'Only reservation,' was that it was ' too soon.' He said this whilst squeezing my hand in an ' I'm afraid your hamster is dead,' type way, his head tilted condescendingly to one side and a small furrow creasing his podgy forehead, as though he was bracing himself for the inevitable flood of tears! Prat!
The second one was extremely shy and nervous and I just didn't feel attracted to him at all.
Then, there was my crush-gorgeous vet man, who passes my house on his way to work every day and cares for my various animals. He's bloody gorgeous and was a bit flirty with me a little while ago. If he was a cake, he'd be a Death by Chocolate cake and you wouldn't be able to help yourself......but, he has a stick like girlfriend and he's probably about 15 years younger than me. But worse than all of this, I saw him smoking! Absolute, complete and utter turn off!! Someone so beautiful smoking-yuk!
Then, I had a message from someone on Soulmates. He was very odd.
He was an abstract artist,a proper one, who sold his work. I just chatted to him, but he would just text me back his paintings-and they were complete bollocks!! They were just a mess of paint. I just wanted to take the piss out of them, but, of course, that wouldn't have been fair. Any way. He was very monosyllabic in his texts, but then he rang me and was quite chatty and down to earth. But then he texted me the most ridiculous photos-of him working out in the gym-3 of them!!! That was it! He obviously really loved himself, so I've ignored him since. Honestly, do men really think we want to see them partially clothed and /or exercising?
Then, yesterday I got all excited because someone had responded to a message from me -I mostly get ignored. I quickly opened the message, only to find that it was the automated response message-'sorry, but I don't think we're compatible.'
I give up! I think a lot of the time I get weeded out because I'm 49 . Most of the deluded men on these websites think they can hook a woman from 25 to 40. What are they on? They're mostly fat and balding. And short! SO many short men! I'm 5ft 8 and was married to a man of 5ft 6 for 15 years. He used to strain his neck to make himself look taller than me and hence superior.The only affect this had, was to make his enormous flared nostrils even more visible. It was ridiculous. I've done short. Not doing that again.
So, I am resigned to being single and slightly mad for the rest of my days.
It's just not worth the effort. Sorry to rant. I know there are decent men-neiljames. But, where are they? I'm not unattractive, most people think I'm a lot younger than 49. I'm a natural blond, only the odd grey hair, natural highlights I've never dyed my hair, never had to and I'm slim. I love a good laugh and I don't take myself too seriously. Sod them all! I'm happiest with my animals and my gorgeous children.