Dating thread 77

[neiljames77]

Just got in from my holiday and saw that 76 was full.

RL not TO!

Sometimes when people use the app version for a dating site it will show you online, even though you're not. I think this is because with the app you never physically sign out.

I use the app and I sign out of it mike

I use the app and never sign out - does that mean I'm online all the time... Oh well that will keep my dates on their toes!

Knitted honestly I don't. I'm quite insecure really especially after the year I had with my ex. I tie myself up in knots over it all. Before we had exclusive chat I was doing exactly the same as you. And i completely get what you're thinking and why. Wasn't meaning to sound harsh at all. Sorry if I did. Was just trying to say I guess, have that chat with him then take that leap of faith.

I put part of a text my friend sent me on here the other day when I was fretting a lot. In short she was saying mini get over yourself. It's what I needed to hear. I've screenshot her message so I can look at it to remind myself.

When are u seeing him again knitted?

No Mini you didn't sound harsh at all, I just appreciate the advice. I am seeing him tonight and will try to be all sparkly and see if it's OK to have that chat. I guess it depends on how receptive he seems.

Mr pof and I did used to chat about strange messages we had had. So we were honest about being on there I guess. I thought I could wait for the exclusive chat but when it came to it I needed to have it sooner as I didn't want to think he was talking to others let alone going on another date. Hope tonight goes well knitted.

In fact thinking on it I'm going to ask him if he still has a profile on there I think.

I hope my paranoia hasn't encouraged you to over think this, Mini - doesn't sound like you have any reason to worry.

Bless u knitted no, just my own silly thought layers as by best friend calls them. And as she also says not everyone has as many (lucky them) or think in the same way. I hope you are right, I have had a lovely few messages from him this morning.

Hope your date goes well knitted and let us know of course!

After the first date with Mr C, I came off of site. I didn't want to see if he was online or not. I kind of thought that it was his business what he was doing and you can't make someone act with good intentions towards you. They either will or they won't. I can only control what I do. I did have a profile on another site and that remains the case some 6 months later. I'm sure we will talk about it eventually. I haven't got physically involved, not even a kiss with anyone else, but I have had a few dates and I do still have a few guys I talk to that I have been talking with for several months. Just a different perspective.

LittleBlueMouse - that's a really good point. At the end of the day if someone is not going to treat you well then nothing you do can change that at all.

Hmm. I'm feeling it's not appropriate for someone to hint that they are going to buy you underwear after a first date only? What do you all think about that?

Lottie I think it would depend if it fits with tone of conversations so far and if it's serious or tongue in cheek if you know what I mean?

lottieandmia- that's a bit presumptuous isn't it! I don't know how I would feel. I guess I might like it if I really felt a spark with that person, but if I didn't have that feeling, I would run very fast. Then I think I would just watch and wait. His choice will tell you everything you need to know !

There is a spark but what bothers me about it is the possibility he wants me to play some kind of role. It's hard to explain. He asked me what size I am.

He definitely means it

"some kind of role" gulp, really? no, I would feel very uncomfortable.

Oh he means it then. Umm not sure. I'd tell him if it makes you uncomfortable.

Lottie I wouldn't be comfortable with that but how do you feel about it? I think I'm way too straight for all this!

I had my lunch date with Mr Fireman. He was nice and friendly, it was easy. Not sure how I felt but it was easy enough to consider a second date. I got a text half hour after date to say it was fun and easy but nothing else there for him. I feel like I failed the interview!

Onwards and upwards.

Maybe he's waiting for your reaction Minmooch?

Singlesock do you feel any better today? HOpe you're OK x

lottie buying underwear already oooo no!!! You buy underwear for someone you know well and are comfortable with!! major red flag!!

lottie I'd be weirded out by that, too. Depends what you're looking for.

No word from Mr Teacher today - but hoping Friday goes ahead. My friend reckons it will be ok as teachers don't bail (she's had a lot more dates than I have).

Lottie: RFTFH!

Run For The Fucking Hills love!

How the hell is it appropriate to buy anyone lingerie after 1 date?

Massive overstep of boundaries!

When is he suggesting that you shag him? On day one? Cos lingerie bought for someone, without any love/intimacy/affection is specifically for their appreciation and pleasure, not the wearer!

Have you seen the thread on here where some poor woman is being told 'dress up or fuck off'?

Nasty, nasty, nasty!

I agree with the others lottie, it does seem like a bit if a red flag but I'm hardly one to give advice .

Thanks for thinking of my Knitted and to everyone for your really helpful advice. Hissy, I haven't read that book but sounds like I should as well as doing the freedom programme ASAP.

I still feel crap about it all today. I guess my hormones won't be helping as I've had the map and started on the pill as well as my period starting after the loss of my coil so I'm probably feeling over emotional anyway. I keep playing his nasty messages over in my head again and again and wondering what I did to make him so angry. It scares me to think that he could have turned if I'd pissed him off when we were on the date.

Having said all that, I'm going on the date with Mr Tall on Thursday. He seems ok, and I'm hoping it might take my mind off recent events. I don't want my last date to have been with Mr FF aka Mr Nasty. Both my sister and my best friend are away on holiday right now so I've no one in RL to sound off to so I'm so grateful to have the support of everyone here .