Dating thread 77

[neiljames77]

Just got in from my holiday and saw that 76 was full.

Hi minmooch so sorry to hear about your son. You sound like you're taking such a pragmatic approach to dating - wish I was that sensible about it!! Hope you find this thread helpful - I think the advice on here is brilliant.

single that's awful! Poor you! I sent a really polite 'no thank you' to a guy OD once, he countered with a witty, intelligent 'Maybe if you lost some fat from your arms you'd find someone' WTF? It says a lot more about him than it does about you, don't let this one weirdo put you off... Not everyone's like that.

SingleSock wow, what a prick that man is, you have had a lucky escape. Just imagine how much money you have saved on pedicures. I can quite believe there are nasty little men in the world of on line dating. I think his being quiet on the first date was a ploy to make you feel unnerved and have to do all the talking. Its a tactic to make you feel vulnerable. I think it works, because when we feel nervous we can inadvertently give away too much information. Information that the creep can then use later to discipline you.

Don't give up though, there are nice men out there. Maybe have a break if you feel it will help you, but don't let some nasty little man dictate the outcome of your being/or not being single.

I have a question...

How do you actually get a date on POF?

I keep having chats that fizzle out after a few emails and never get asked out. Starting to think there is something wrong with me!

Someone has to suggest meeting/talking by phone etc It doesn't have to be the man...if you feel you have enough to talk about over coffee why don't you ask? Latterly I made it a rule not to 'chat' for more than 2,weeks before deciding...they were mostly pretty disastrous one-date wonders but at least I hadn't spent more time endlessly emailing cybermen... autocorrect has that as cabernet which is much more reliable! :)

Guy who I tried to cancel Thursday with has messaged to say he could have had his son if he'd know and still wants to go? He promises he wouldn't be nasty

erm.... he's telling you who he is.

I have arranged for DS to stay at mums and had dates blow out on me, it really pissed me off as even though i am the only parent he has, I miss the little blighter if he's not there. But I'd never say a thing to a 1st date. It's only Monday, Thursday guy can call his ex and say that he can have his son if she needs him to. Making you feel bad is just SHIT.

FOR that alone I'd leave it there. We shouldn't be made to feel bad before we even meet the guy!

My rescheduled MrWednesday was fine about it, and actually, I think the rescheduleing may prove a better evening anyway, due to an event happening tonight that wouldn't have been on on the Wednesday.

I agree with hissy, single. Don't feel bad. All of the dates I had arranged ended up being cancelled - it's par for the course.

Let's hope my Friday date with Mr Teacher goes ahead.

I've been trying to keep up with the thread all week. Had a date myself which I don't want to say too much about in case it outs me. My date spent hundreds of pounds - I was not used to this sort of thing

Wow lottie! Did you like him?

Mr Teacher messaged to say 'the only problem with Friday...is that I'll wish the week away.' Very charming. Hope I like him.

Ah don't that is sweet. Sounds like a teacher too hope it goes well.

Yes single I had one bloke suggest a date on a Friday and I really wanted to see mr pof too as hadn't met him yet so I double booked, like they do in hotels and planes! Thinking one would cancel or I would cancel one. Never heard from other one again and so went to see mr pof and hopefully as they say the rest is history

I also had another one lined up as a second date but after I'd seen mr pof twice I cancelled that as I was literally swooning. I just said I didn't think it would work too far to travel etc. just don't go single.

Ah Mr Teacher said dark lighting would be good too, as it'll take the edge of his facial tick that some find disconcerting. That's worrying me now. What if it puts me off or I can't stop staring at it?

Don't - do you think he could be joking?

I did like him. But I'm a bit concerned about the spending. I've already spoken to him a lot on the phone and we seem to really get on. I get confused by the number of people you can choose from to meet and it's all a bit much. How do you keep things calm? I like in a small town anyway and people would be a bit if they kept seeing me out on numerous dates.

Live in a small town.

Little for me one of the greatest joys of getting older is not caring what people think!
You seem to be in a fortunate position of having so many dates to choose from - just enjoy it! :)

That was for Lottie - autocorrect!

I didn't get the impression he was (hope so though) I felt as if he was prewarning me. And I know it's horrible but I think it would put me off.

Well the person I've met I do really like, so much so that I'm not bothered about anyone else. But I'm afraid of my feelings growing for him. Now, I am someone who can usually quite easily cope with casual relationships but with him I'm worried. I haven't known him for very long. You just never know how things will pan out. I don't want a head f* situation.

I suppose dont it's a no win situation for him: he tells u in advance and you are looking for it straight away and worried how you will react and he doesn't tell you and then it's awkward as you don't know where to look/what to say. Just go and be honest about it I guess. Maybe it's not as noticeable as he thinks. If he is a teacher he obviously gets on ok there and students are a tough crowd sometimes

Yes it might not be too bad and he is good looking and seems lovely.

It's also odd seeing that name in my phone again after the last one who broke my heart.

Don't I'd just ask him if his comment was a bad taste joke and then figure it out from there.

But if it's not...could be awkward. I think I'm best to go, see if I'm attracted to him and then decide.

I would go - I have a couple of facial ticks and I'm normal, honest

I've been told I move my mouth a certain way.