Dating thread 77

[neiljames77]

Just got in from my holiday and saw that 76 was full.

I've had my coil 4 years and it's never come out before. He was rather, ahem, gifted in every sense of the word though so that could explain it .

Decided to meet Mr FootFetish so I'll let you all know how it goes. Best get ready .

Cat I don't know. I'm out tonight with friends and he lives nearby and says he's out too!! Eeek!! Ive flirted a lot with him this afternoon and sent some pics of myself. I think he's only after one thing and like single I don't know if I want a FB!! Although he is very gorgeous!

single the coil came out, wow, make sure you get the morning after pill asap!

jarlin I think a cinema voucher is perfect!

bride what can he say - just go for it!!

Oh no, don't worry Louby, we practised safe sex. Actually, you've got me thinking - maybe the coil pierced the condom? I'll get on it ASAP. The coil can be fitted as emergency contraception too so that's handy. Off to sti clinic as well now. It's not seeming like such a good idea now .

Single a warning here - I got pg as my coil was not in right place. I'd get morning after pill if I was you

Thought I'd posted this but anyway...date with mr Gemini went well took me to a wine bar that he been to a while back got our drinks sat down and found out was a strip joint!! He was mortified

He dropped me off and came in for coffee and had a bit of a snog n then he went home about 1.

I do like him although don't fancy him so I'll see how it goes

Pink you going to give mr Gemini another go?

Single hopefully it was all ok and think you have noticed re condom if something had happened to it.

Probably Minime, I never fancy any of them really and nothing annoyed me about him unlike Postie who had an annoying laugh

Toilet update: Mr FootFetish is very good looking but I'm bit sure. He seems slightly awkward and not very conversational. Finding a bit like hard work so maybe that means there's no spark? Not sure.

I'm not even thinking about the broken condom scenario but at this point I'm fairly certain it pierced the condom . What can I do about it on a Sunday?

Arghhh! Not sure why it posted a phone number there!

Single I was just going to post saying did you realise a phone number was there. Sure you can repot it to get it removed. You can get the MAP from boots over the counter

I've reported it now, thank you mini.

Further update: he's just kissed me. Good kisser but still not feeling it :/

So what's the consensus on when to say that L word? Is there a too soon?

Minime85 - If it feels right, say it. Don't be hurt if it doesn't get returned. Just think of it as, "There. That's how I feel. Like it or lump it."

Jarlin go think you're absolutely right and glad you had a good evening. I must try and see if I can make any of the ones I joined. I am starting an adult ballet class though which I'm really looking forward to.

Thanks jarlin and Neil. I'll see if I can take that leap of faith. It's ok if it's not returned I just don't want to say anything to spoil or rush things. I think we are on same wavelength though or I hope so.

Jarlin, Mr C and I had about 4 dates when nothing happened (not even holding hands!), then we didn't see each other for 6 months, and then I contacted him again. So from first meeting him to our first kiss it was 10 months! I'm so glad you had a good time with the Meetup group, and I hope all goes well with your lunch with Slow and his DC today.

SingleSock, how did the rest of your date go?

Minime, re the L word, don't say it on the phone for the first time, like Mr C did. I thought it totally spoiled what should have been a really special moment.

Andcat it's been on the tip of my tongue all week but I just don't want to say it before I really believe it, say it too soon, etc etc. but I'm very much a believer of what Neil said about just being honest and saying it. I did tell him I wanted to build a life with him.

Aw, Mini . I've no advice but I hope you find the right moment to say it.

So, Mr FootFetish. Really nice guy, extremely attractive but there was just something odd about him which I can't quite put my finger on. He wasn't very conversational either so I felt like I was making quite a lot of effort to start conversation topics. He did tell me that he was so pleased the date wasn't awkward .

At one point he sent me a text whilst I had nipped to the loo to say he really liked me and was enjoying my company. I can't decide if this is sweet or weird. At another point I complimented his blue eyes and he launched at me into a kiss! I wasn't expecting that and I hadn't considered that I was hinting for one. He was a very good kisser though . I also danced in front of him which I don't usually do if I like someone on account of my awful dancing skills.

So overall, not terrible but not brilliant. Should I give him a second date do you think? He's texted me this morning to ask how I am but I haven't responded yet.

Minime, if you told him you want to build a life with him, that's quite a big step. I know that feeling of having those three little words on the tip of your tongue and not being sure about whether to say them. I'm a wimp and usually wait for the other person to say it first, though, I must admit. I hope you find the right moment...

SingleSock, hmmm, it's hard to tell if the weirdness is because he was nervous or just because he's a bit odd! Personally I find the text thing a bit weird and would rather he'd just told me to my face. Plus the launching into a kiss sounds a bit weird. What's your gut feeling about him?

Singlesock, it sounds like he was nervous - maybe he's not used to dating?? I would probably give it another go if I was interested enough and not let the weirdness put me off. I know i have said rather odd things to men if I've been very attracted to them (though not in Mr FootFetish's way...) I guess it depends on how keen you are as to whether you can be bothered to see if he's weird next time.

Single I think it was sweet to send the text.and suggests he wanted to say it but was too nervous. If give him another go I think

It was big to say that about building a life but I meant it. And the response I got was a good one. I'm conscious that he has met my dcs. My problem is I analyse every text he sends which is bonkers I know and I want to stop. My brain hurts

mini, it's so hard not to analyse their messages when you really like them. I always try and remind myself of the above picture when I do. I think men tend to say what they mean much more than women do.

I was quite drunk last night (I was drinking faster than I normally do to combat the awkwardness) so some stuff is coming back to me. He told me that he's into healing crystals and believes he has healing powers. Apparently he can heal peoples minds just by talking to them. I'm not really a believer in all that kind of stuff so I think maybe we won't be suited long term. My gut is that he was nervous and inexperienced at dating but I think the oddness is part of his personality.

This is the most horrible part - how do you tell them without hurting feelings?

Urgh, he's just text suggesting the next date and then immediately tried calling! Seriously! Give me some space!

If he annoys you like this Single you can't like him that much. I'd bin him

Ummm sounding a bit stalkerish now singlesock, and the thing about healing people would be a bit much for me

Thanks re advice and I think u are right. Mr pof sent some lovely message yesterday so then why do I doubt things on a daily basis. It is something I have to work on. Have to.

I went out last night and bumped into Mr Saucy never done that before where I've seen someone online and then seen them out - definite chemsitry there but am unsure as to what his motivation is. My friend was raising her eyes at me when I was talking to him!

He's sent me some photo's this morning that would make your eyes water! Told me what he thinks of me in a very flattering way.

I feel like I'm in a chapter of Fifty Shades of Grey - lol!! I could take this further....don't know if I dare. But a night (or even few hours) of good sex would be good. I'm no prude!

I know people (lots of you) have done it and are doing it! Bit out of my comfort zone this!

Advice?