Who's Desperate and Awful Now....Story of My Divorce from Mr WT...Part 2....

[MrsC1969HJ]

Having reached a 1000 posts, I can hardly believe we are moving onto Thread 2...I have had the most amazing ongoing support from so many and I will always be eternally grateful. Link to Thread 1 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?

Well obviously, MrsC, they are the ones who are hard done by. You and your 'coven' fanclub of 'scorned women' are out for revenge, and dragging OW into it when it's nothing to do with her. Why one earth should they have to supply answers to any questions, why can't you just bugger off and leave them to it? Why can't MrWT just pay you the bare minimum, see his (legitimate) ds when he damned well feels like it, and you just don't exist? Why? Why? WHY?

Well, because, MrWT you are a cheating, miserly little man who thinks he is cleverer than everyone, who thinks he is above the law (or at least on a peer-level - at a 'meeting' indeed! In court? Hah that did make me lol) and who is actually being viewed by everyone who knows anything about it, as a cheating, lying, skinflint, bigheaded poseur. (as evidenced by the comments on social media, the 'everyone knows', the defamation -if it's not been by you, it must be because others know)

The good thing is that courts don't like to be treated like this. They like people to do as they are told, and it cost money and time to get them to comply if they don't the first time. All in your favour, MrsC

Glad to see Mr WT and OW are taking matters seriously...

When are you all due back in court?

Clutterbugsmum..goodness let's hope so!

ptumbi, I know I am an awful bugger aren't I? Even a year on, I still can't believe that they thought I would just walk away, hand over proceeds of the house and indeed hand over DS...because I had the assurance of OW that she would "always do right by you and your children"....yep, because she's followed that promise to the letter hasn't she?! I would say it is pretty clear that they are lashing out in every direction and blaming me for anything/everything that has gone wrong in their lives or indeed any bad publicity that has ensued. Did they really think that people wouldn't notice? So, am off to write a letter to the court seeking further assistance with the not so helpful OW.

Doc...hello! Nice to see you again . Lots of head shaking going on here...! End of January is next hearing. Can't wait

Referring indeed to my "fan club" and "coven of supporters"

MrsC do you think she's discovered us? I know you've previously said you don't really care if they do see your thread, but just a caution not to reveal what you have up your sleeve!

In case she has discovered us;

Possibly Across, WWK said the same...however, I really don't care, it's the story as it is (unfortunately!). Indeed, I haven't elaborated on that for that very reason .

Anyway, what a lovely greeting !!!

The is courtesy of my sons. When they were little and they'd get mad at each other since I wouldn't allow name calling or 'bad words' they'd turn around and wave their bums at each other. It looked so cute I had to allow it. When they were teens I started doing it to them when they'd make me mad.

....at which point they both left home...ha ha!! Brilliant!

You got that right!! LOL

Across, just want to wish you a very happy Thanksgiving! Hope you enjoyed the red at 9.30 this morning! .

So, back to the life and times of Mr Wankering Twattishness. Have written to court re : OW and have asked Mr WT to give me a timeline for repaying the share money he stole from the children and I. Apparently he doesn't have it. Can afford knickers, jewellery and flying lessons though. Said he will "do his best" to get it to me in time for Christmas. What a lovely and generous man he is. Steals money from the kids and then expects credit. What a tosser.

Tell him to go flog some of OW's gift jewelry on Ebay. And I'm sure some perv will buy her fancy knickers for a £ or two .

Thank you, my love. We had a wonderful time. Ate far too much as usual. Yes, the made everything easier. LOL. I even snuck some in to my mum at her assisted living . She enjoyed it too!!

That's lovely re your mum, across. I used to work in an old people's home, and was always a bit about them not allowing the old girls a glass or two. (They did have sherry at 3pm if they wanted tho )
I do remember one old girl who would have bottles smuggled in - we found loads of empties under her bed when she moved on.

MrsC - christmas is an expensive time you know - for him, but not you, apparently. He can spend your stolen money on gifts for OW and 'her' son; you will have to buy gifts for your (joint) son with promises and crumbs

I agree, ptumbi. They're OLD, ffs!! If they want to get snockered every day, whoever not? Mum's 92, if she wants wine, let her have it!! But I guess, on the other hand, the staff doesn't want to have to deal with 26 old folks (with dementia) staggering around.

whyever not whoever!!

This thread keeps dropping off my 'I'm on' list... Which is why I have been silent.

I have nothing to add except and at Mr WT's behaviour, and I really ought to know better by now, shouldn't I?

I hope you manage to have a great Christmas despite everything, MrsC and I second everyone who says not to mention anything about anything you are planning in case you are being spied on by Mr WT and his gang.

On the subject of parents in homes and booze - my Dad moved to a fabulous specialist dementia care home about 5 weeks ago (following an emergency admission and then a stint somewhere really crap because nowhere else had space for him).

And he is definitely allowed a snifter within reason. FFS he is 73, has severe Parkinsons and dementia and for him life is really too bloody short.

Hey ladies, and so it goes on....have discovered another affair before this OW...with a much younger woman, aided and abetted by people I considered "friends" who offered me support. I just feel sick to the stomach, it has knocked me sideways. I don't yet know how long this one went on for but it is clear that he was planning to move on long long before he left in October. My DD has told me he also asked her if she'd see him if he left in July of last year, I thought it was in October he said that. He gave her money, a lot, £500. He said it was because her Dad had had to cancel a holiday and he felt for her. It was just guilt money I think. This other OW got cold feet I think. I am gutted that they all went out as a couple while I was sat at home with PND and a child with obvious problems while professing to feel sorry for me. Why are people so obnoxious. What did I do to deserve this? I am sorry, this is an very self pitying post but I feel like shit. How many were there?

MrsC I'm only a lurker but I do feel for you. You have been so strong and he is so worthless. Get through this and the best revenge will be living well. You have it in you and, by your account, he is falling apart physically and mentally. Keep going.

MrsC I am going to get stern with you now, OK?

You did nothing to deserve this. Men like him deliberately attach themselves to good, decent people so that they can manipulate the world they live in to suit themselves. Clearly Mr WT is one of those. In a way, his use of steroids did you a favour, because he couldn't use the drugs and maintain the facade, so the mask slipped, his true self came out for the world to see. However, way back then he was a master manipulator. Good people like you see the world in their own image - we assume everyone is like us, and people like him take advantage.

Please don't torture yourself about 'how many others'. Mr WT has stored himself up a shitload of karma, and it is already starting to bite. Focus on that and keep being your strong, wonderful self. The road ahead is rocky, the view when you finally reach the summit will be wonderful.

I don't usually go for inspirational images, but I'm sending you this one because it means a lot to me - it's the view from Ben Nevis on the summit. I climbed that bloody mountain in shit weather with a full dose of food poisoning, the hard way. And I made it to the top just as the weather cleared and it was wonderful. That's going to be you.

Pointy, that made me cry, thank you so so much xxx

It's when things get tough that you see people for who they truly are. These people were never your friends, and it says a whole lot more about your H than it does about you. Knowing what we now know about him we shouldn't be surprised at the company he keeps.
I believe it was guilt/hush money/bribe trying to buy loyalty money that you he gave your DD.
It is hard for you to see right now but you are so much better off without him.

I know, you're right, hurts like hell, but he tried to bribe my child. What an utter tosser he is. I know I am better off..I wish it actually felt like that. I know it will come... xx

It really sucks when stuff like that comes out. But in the long run it's just another reason to be glad you are getting rid of him.

What is did to your DD is unforgivable. Bribing a child to keep a secret from her mother. Poor DD! At least one positive thing to come out of it is that she no longer has to keep that secret.

pointy is right. No point in wondering 'how many'. Because it only takes one to break the marriage vow, doesn't it? Any others are just by the way. One would be a deal breaker for me. More just makes him a slut and a whore. One that you are well rid of.

It will come. Bit by bit you are building that brick wall around your heart. And he is handing you each and every brick himself with every additional piece of arseholery you uncover.

Quite a bargain OW is getting, isn't it? Bleah!!

'What HE did' not 'what is did'. Ugh, I hate typos.

Pointy and across are so right - this is a vile manipulating tosser who attached himself to a good woman, so he could have a nice soft bed, a nice life, and keep all his wants and needs being met elsewhere. So he had an affair with (current) OW, then a little fling in the summer (lucky escape for her - she saw through him and ran for the hills?) then took back up with OW? How many more, indeed.

But none of that matters. It hurts, that you have been manipulated, pitied (by people you thought of as friends) by someone you thought was on your side (him) - it is never easy. I do feel for your MrsC, but you will soon find that hurt, and confusion turn to cold, steel anger.

Pointy is right - he is unravelling. The web of lies and deceit, the mask of respectableness, the whole facade of his marriage; all crumbling and soon will be shown to be a sham.

Can't come soon enough.

Just read both threads, I remember you but thread had slipped off by radar for some reason.

You've come such a long way. Well done. You've got a way to go, but not as long as you had before, to put a positive thought on it!

When you're in hell, keep on going... Don't stop or you'll never get through it

Thank you so so much all for supportive and lovely posts as normal, especially those who I don't recognise nippiesweetie and Miscellaneous. Ptumbi, I so appreciate you channeling my pissed-off-ness...thank you!

So, news ladies...I had a face to face with OW. This came about because Mr WT was being a twat with court/contact related post and denying receiving it, I told him that I would be hand delivering to the house and expected somebody to be able to receive it or I would take to a neighbour. Expecting him to threaten me with all manner of awfulness if I went near the house, I was a bit surprised when he said OW would be there to take it. "Oh good", I said, "about time we said hello". Silence.

So, yesterday morning I packed my lovely friend into the car for moral support and drove over. Felt sick. Pulled up, drive was blocked by both of her cars. Knocked on door, she came out and sneered at me. That was nice. 6ft 2 at least. I am 5 ft 7 and my eyes were level with her enormous boob job. I haven't seen this woman in the flesh for about 13 years and my God has time not been kind. She had clearly put make up on and had done her hair but she looks old enough to be his Mum and while I accept that I have nothing nice to say about this bitch, she looks like a man in drag. Has aged terribly, very lined, baggy eyes, ugly mouth, one eye pointing in a different direction. So, I just very politely asked if my husband was in, she responded "naaaaaaaaaaa". Just like that. Lovely. So I said I had some mail for him which she snatched out of my hand and slammed the door.

I walked away feeling bloody wonderful. Got in car, friend just looked at me open mouthed. Love it that my husband now has to wear built up shoes and has a "girlfriend" who looks old enough to be his mother. Made my day