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Who's Desperate and Awful Now....Story of My Divorce from Mr WT...Part 2....
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MrsC1969HJ · 19/07/2014 20:44
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or both if you want.
TheFormidableMrsC ·
21/06/2015 22:58
andthen...PM me, PLEASE...I am rubbish with name changers!! That was apt though 
x
Agatha, I will take the wine thank you my darling, although I am about to make a cup of peppermint tea after today's BBQ extravaganza 
x
TheFormidableMrsC ·
21/06/2015 23:18
andthen.looking forward to seeing your updates on "other" social media!!!! So good to see you here 
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Bogey...no PP has a bulldog face...the chewing a wasp sort, or drinking sour milk..lucky husband and his nan!
AcrossthePond55 ·
22/06/2015 01:03
andthen Yikes, that picture put me right off my food! A reminder not to MN with my supper in front of my laptop!
Luckily it didn't put me off my 
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goddessofsmallthings ·
22/06/2015 03:07
Dearest Mrs C,
I haven't posted on your thread before but I have been an avid fan of your very good self, WWK, and the equally redoubtable pineapple, for many a long month.
As evidence of my credentials, having donned my hotpants I was on the brink of joining fourquenelles on the lurkers' cheerleading bench (p35) when this thread vanished, which event made me suspect that its disappearance was connected with the then forthcoming 2nd Pineapple Day and your expected further triumph in Court.
Two days later an ow posted a plaintive cry for help in understanding why her paramour's dw was seeking to take her philandering spouse 'to the cleaners'. Finding this to be a most curious coincidence, I proceeded to make a tit of myself closely question the OP until such time as I became, erroneously as it transpires, convinced that she was none other than Pauline the jolly widow who couldn't wait to get her jollies off with the prize prick you had the misfortune to marrry Mr W T.
Having made my excuses and left that thread, it went up in smoke at the OP's request but not before I had derived considerable amusement from it.
You sure struck gold pyrite when you hooked up with Mr W T, honey. He is the gift that keeps on giving rise to hilarity and, no matter how many future double acts he goes on to form, he will always remain the Aunt Sally centre stage in the merriment stakes.
While my personal opinion of the despicable duo must remain private for fear of offending those of delicate sensibilities, nevertheless I will continue to extract the urine maximum enjoyment from their antics.
Thus I will shortly retire for what remains of the night chortling at the image of Princess Precious Mr W T dressed in a pink tutu and ballet pointes tiptoeing around her who must be obeyed Prince Pauline and her face that can curdle milk at 50 paces - the pair of them are shoo ins for a Village People tribute band.
I look forward to your pineapple related update, at which time I hope to unveil my cunning plan for the nation to be alerted to your eventual best seller, provisional working title 'My life and times with a dickhead Mr W T and the thicko third person who inserted herself into our marriage'.
Rest assured you'll never go short of these Mrs C, and I hope to raise a glass to you in person in the not too distant future.
Yours in solidarity,
goddess
ThumbWitchesAbroad ·
22/06/2015 11:26
Wow MrsC - I remember you from WWK's threads (waves to WWK) but don't think I ever saw your own threads before - what another horrifying story indeed!
I really have no idea what it is about these "men", nor the women who decide to be with them while they're behaving in such an appalling way, or indeed encourage them to be worse than they might have been on their own! Very low grade humans IMO. No compassion or humanity, just pure base selfishness. :(
You, on the other hand, deserve many many many 
and 
, as does WWK (and Karen, if she's still around too)
I hope that things go more your way and that karma does indeed visit itself upon your exW. By the sound of it, he's not in top health. (Oesophageal varices are messy, btw - I knew Disgrace has alluded to this already but yes, really messy)
Something I've wanted to mention on one of WWK or Karen's threads before, but haven't found them to do so, so I'll do it here - I found an old dictionary while I was at my Dad's in the UK and KOKO was in it!! Except that it didn't mean "keep on keeping on", it meant (rudely) "knickers off knockers out"! Yuk. Much prefer the MN version!
DownTownAbbey ·
22/06/2015 17:32
Hi Mrs C and the just-as-formidable-WWK! I'm new to MN and have just spent a day totally locked into your threads. I suspect I've developed DVT from just sitting here, mouth catching flies, and I'm dehydrated because I didn't want to stop reading long enough to make a cup of tea.
As the mother of a gorgeous, challenging and vulnerable ASD child I've read with mounting horror the imbecilic, slack-jawed-tw@tishness of your revoltingly selfish and self obsessed exh and the unhinged c*ntishness of the sociopathic OW. It makes my own divorce look like a picnic (ok, the picnic from Alice in Wonderland where there's a Mad Hatter and a freakish sense of un-reality but a picnic none the less)!
Sending you hugs and x
goddessofsmallthings ·
22/06/2015 18:10
@TWA In the genteel atmosphere of mumsnet KOKO can have only one meaning, but outside of this refined club the definition given in your dad's dictionary of acronyms applies to the state in which Pauline is accustomed to keeping herself in order to exert control over her conquests.
Some may say that Mr W T is pussy-whipped while others would have it that he should be horse-whipped from here to kingdom come. However, as you have alluded, only Karma can determine his fate with a little help from Mrs C's wellwishers here.
@DWA the imbecilic, slack-jawed-tw@tishness of your revoltingly selfish and self obsessed exh and the unhinged c*ntishness of the sociopathic OW seems to me you've got it in one and no-one can say they're not a well-matched pair. 
TheFormidableMrsC ·
23/06/2015 00:10
Thumb, thank you so much for dropping by..so lovely to see you! I have to say that I too prefer MN's version of "KOKO" because the version you describe is definitely what snared my H in the first place "knickers off false knockers out"...bleurgh!! . Certainly "lacking in humanity" is the kindest thing that has been said about him....!
DownTown...thank you too for taking the time to read my horror story, I am so touched at that! It's a lot to take in isn't it? I am grateful for your comments re : ASD child. It's very very hard dealing with that in a situation like this with those two arseholes. That's another story...! I LOVED your description, very apt and I am very very sorry you have been through a similarly awful ordeal .
Goddess, what can I say? Your posts on MN always make me smile, such is the skill of your writing! I am very glad you decided to visit and post. I did see the other thread you were referring to and very quickly realised what was going on there! Tit or not, you were fabulous and I thank you! I would be delighed to raise a glass with you so let's hope we can do that!
On that note...I had a coffee this week with another MN'er after we realised we are in fact virtually neighbours. How weird is that?! She knows OW and will no longer be taking her children to the salon given she's been screwed over in a similarly dreadful fashion by her husband and his OW. They're bloody everywhere!!! However, new friend gained .
So I have been continuing on with the archiving of shit in small bites because I literally cannot stand to read stuff again. I just need all trace of Mr WT removed from my house and my computer and stored elsewhere for future reference my son. Anyway, I came across this corker entitled "Please understand"....Please understand that our marriage was over a long time ago nobody told me that. Divorce is shit but is required not within 3 days it isn't. I have lost a wife, but I hope I have gained a lifelong best friend oh how I laughed, because OW would have loved that. How bloody deluded can you be? At least it does make me laugh now. What a knob.
I have also been very busy reducing my social media presence, blocking them and everybody I can think of in relation to them, blocking their e-mail addresses and now have a new phone that he can't reach. He didn't want to co-parent, I have tried and failed to do that with him and encourage him to do so. OW can't stand it, so it will never happen. So, now I don't need to have contact with him at all. Good. So much for being "lifelong best friends"....you've got to laugh 
ThumbWitchesAbroad ·
23/06/2015 00:36
He's "lost" a wife?? Oh how hilarious. No mate, you didn't "lose" her, you chucked her away. She didn't go AWOL, did she now - no.
It does make me laugh how these losers think they can do their absolute worst to you and you'll somehow forgive them all that and be friends with them! My ex-fiancé pulled that line on me too - left me for OW 3m prior to wedding (only good thing about it!) and in one conversation told me that he "hoped we could be friends" - I asked him if he'd want to be friends with someone who'd ripped his heart out and kicked him repeatedly in the guts? He went quiet and said "err no, probably not". Well DUH!
And yes PaulinePineapplekoko seems about right. Maybe we should switch the pineapple for a kokonut?
pointythings ·
23/06/2015 16:43
You are all so eloquent that I have nothing to add except my agreement with everything you have all said.
and , MrsC
TheFormidableMrsC ·
23/06/2015 21:53
It confounds me really. Would you treat your "best friend" like this, let alone your wife and DC's? How could he have thought we could be friends after this. It could all have been so very different, but no...
I did smile today though, my neighbour and her husband took their girls to a local soft play place at the weekend. Saw Mr WT and DS. The husband doesn't like Mr WT and has always made that clear as he used to salivate openly over his wife and everybody else it seems. However, the husband refused to believe that the man sat near him was Mr WT as he was unrecognisable from the Mr WT who used to live here. Apparently he was limping. That means only one thing in my experience. He's started running again. I am now anticipating a transformation, I have seen it all before, over and over again. OW hasn't though...
TheFormidableMrsC ·
23/06/2015 22:30
I too feel very sorry for my DS That...at four years old he has little understanding of what has happened, will never remember his father living here but is now starting to ask questions. Since I was arrested, his behaviour has changed considerably and in some areas he has regressed completely. I do think that neither H or OW appreciate the damage they have done to him. I have been concerned enough to seek outside help and somebody is coming to see me this week. He is my priority now (and DD of course, but she's nearly 17 and has her own life). I know that he is facing a lot of disruption, not least because we will have to move and a change of schools, but will ensure we have plenty of support to cope with it. For the most part, he is socially very good, he has improved so much with a supportive school and because of me implementing all the things I have learned on various courses I have taken to help me deal with his ASD. Shame his father couldn't be arsed to attend a single one! He has other problems though and that can be challenging, especially as a lone parent. However, we'll be OK! Thanks so much for your lovely post .
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ThatFriskyFeline ·
23/06/2015 23:03
Hey MrsC, anytime. I'm another frequently lurking poster on your thread, just forgot to change my name back to normal from this temporary name change .
TheFormidableMrsC ·
23/06/2015 23:06
Ahhh I see That...well I look forward to seeing you again, in whatever guise
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