Who's Desperate and Awful Now....Story of My Divorce from Mr WT...Part 2....

[MrsC1969HJ]

Having reached a 1000 posts, I can hardly believe we are moving onto Thread 2...I have had the most amazing ongoing support from so many and I will always be eternally grateful. Link to Thread 1 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?

As l said before
Forever known as the "odd couple"

Without a doubt...!! LOL! Odd beyond belief...! :-D

Another hurdle jumped then. Your first face to face with the 'she-devil'. Or maybe I should say 'he-devil' . I'd say they deserve each other!

With this Amazon bossing him around, he'll soon be wearing a frilly apron and saying 'yes, dear' 'no dear' and cleaning up behind her. Rather a lovely thought, no?

Wot you lot don't know is that MrsC is a stunning looking woman.

She's done us all proud for the KOKO.

Looks, charm and bravery. I'd like to dislike her....but I can't!

Well done love.

I really hope you sat in the car outside her house, absolutely pissing yourselves laughing, because she will have been watching!

^^
Bogey you have no idea just how close you are

Or perhaps....

Just saw your reply inlectorecumbit

May I suggest that OW be hence forth known as Pauline?! :o

6ft 2 at least. I am 5 ft 7 and my eyes were level with her enormous boob job. I haven't seen this woman in the flesh for about 13 years and my God has time not been kind. She had clearly put make up on and had done her hair but she looks old enough to be his Mum and while I accept that I have nothing nice to say about this bitch, she looks like a man in drag. Has aged terribly, very lined, baggy eyes, ugly mouth, one eye pointing in a different direction. So, I just very politely asked if my husband was in, she responded "naaaaaaaaaaa".

Oh Mrs C - I'm having a shit day working (and skiving on here of course) and that made me roar with laughter.

I know you've been to hell and back but it's great that your humour remains intact.

yep Pauline sounds good bogey quite fitting in fact.

My LOVELY girls, how I have giggled over this!! WWK, I know we have spent half the evening on the phone and you've seen me at 8 am when it ain't all so pretty...but thank you so so much for such lovely words, I would describe myself as a middle aged Mum of two "only" children such is the age gap. I try and make the best of myself, I tried to be the best wife I could and I make sure that mascara is on thick every morning, but stunning? No, I don't see it, but am so flattered and grateful that anybody would think that. I am SO glad you don't dislike me...we kinda get on don't we? Kindred spirits I think . I have been SO very lucky to have met you all even via here, via FB, via the phone, staying at my house, a dire and draining experience so enriched by new friendships and those I know will be there long after this saga has ended and is only found on MN via "zombie threads".....

Fontella...so glad that brightened your morning...not as much as it did mine on Friday :-).

I can go with "Pauline", however as much as I laughed at the pictures posted above, the actual reality is this....because she-devil is much larger, and minus rollers and with highights.....

If she's a she-devil, shouldn't she be called Ruth?
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Is that Cissie or Ada?

I can never remember which is which!

Ha! Love it shadowfax07. I have no idea Fontella, it just seemed most accurate. You know, that bulldog chewing a wasp look.

So today it's our wedding anniversary. I can't believe I'm still married to the shit and no end in sight at the moment. Onwards and upwards! I have a date on Thursday too. Say yes to everything I decided...so I did .

I think it's Ada. Cissie is the Roy Barraclough character.

Ha ha, very unattractive!!!!

He really has pulled something there hasnt he? What did he go fishing with?! :o

I accidentally came across a photo of OW - it had been emailed to me some years before. I was stunned. Really?
< Bitch warning> Lumpy, dumpy, frumpy. I had been told this was the case by both STBXH and a close relative but thought perhaps they were being tactful. .... No they weren't.

But she was adoring, put him on a pedestal, suited perfectly to his ego.

Your OW does sound more of a grotesque, though.

BeeOrchid...bloody hell, your STBXH told you that the women he left you for was ugly, dumpy and frumpy?!?!!? Charming! Bet that made you feel great at the time. I think you're right though, these men are so needy and weak that anybody who shows them a bit of attention is going to get it. I remember asking Mr WT about the OW before I found out who she was and asked if he just wanted somebody younger and prettier and he said actually she's much older and very plain! LOL! He even told his dad she "wasn't much to look at". Are your ex and his OW still together? I am amazed that these two are, he has done nothing but cause her endless trouble, dropped her in it over and over again, cost her money, she's now been dragged into our ancillary relief proceedings, he's a bloody liability but she's still holding onto him like a limpet, he's got really overweight, lost his looks, is a mess. It's just weird. Of course he will just say that she is the love of his life, he's always loved her, blah blah blah (rinse and repeat with him, it's his standard line, he forgot he used that one on me too!). I imagine you've been through a similar ordeal, I hope things are better for you now x

Things are getting better, STBXH moved out 21st of November. He claimed not to be in touch with OW, but now I really don't care. He wanted to move back after 3 days but I've managed to prevent that.

He actually told me I was prettier than BoStuff, more interesting, more intelligent, funnier, had more integrity ( no shit Sherlock), was just an all round better person. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he'd told her that too. It's the kind of thing he'd say in the interests of "honesty" and to see how much crap she'd put up with. A lot, from what I could make out. That we did have in common.

He also told me she wasn't the brightest, or at least average IQ (his words) and he thought it might work better as a relationship because I am "so bright".
Not that bright, obviously, I believed his lies for a long time.

Wow, I really do hope you left there with your self-esteem sky high, MrsC - like some others on here I know what you look like and boy, did he lose out there.

Loving the photos put up by the rest of the crew on here, btw!

BeeOrchid...bless you, I am so sorry. I know how bloody awful this all is and very early days for you it seems. I am still smarting and it's been more than a year since Mr WT left me. I have come to realise that these "men" will say whatever it takes to justify whatever it is they have done. Saying you are "too bright" just says it all really doesn't it? It's YOUR fault for being clever, pretty, interesting and a general all round wonderful person. Seriously, do they really believe their own shit? It seems they do. I also believed the lies, I look back and can't believe how utterly naive I was, it makes me really cross at my own stupidity and I consider myself to be a reasonably intelligent human being! However, I would rather be naive with a clear conscience than have a relationship built on ruined lives, damaged children, lies and deceit. We deserve better. Hugs to you.

Pointy, ahhh, thanks my lovely! I am so grateful for such lovely words! Pictures were fab weren't they? Really made me laugh. It did make me feel a lot better. However, I do feel sad today as it's our anniversary and I had such high hopes on my wedding day, would have given my life for him. It seems I married an absolute tosser who had probably never been able to keep his cock in his pants. She'll walk the same path in time, I'd put money on it...

You're allowed to feel sad. You're allowed to grieve for what you thought you had. That's a normal human reaction, it takes time.

What you aren't allowed to do is think it's your fault for not seeing through him. Mrs PantoDame obviously hasn't.

Delurks from the shadows.

Crumbs, they are a bit odd aren't they.

MasterOfTheUnderstatementTiggaxx

dawntigga, thank you for de-lurking, I do love a de-lurker! They are very odd indeed, especially after today's shenanigans. More of that in a moment. Pointy, thank you for your usual calm and comforting post, no she definitely hasnt, mind you I don't think he's woken up and smelt the coffee about her either. They are awash with "righteous indignation" as WWK would say.

So, today I am thoroughly pissed off. Have had a peculiar offer of settlement that is neither fair, reasonable or even makes any sense. Apparently relying on the fact that I might one day inherit from my Dad who has remarried after the death of my Mum (5 years later I hasten to add, not five minutes), who is alive, well and you never know, might need to pay for care when he is very elderly! It also required me to accept £100 a month spousal maintenance for the next....9 MONTHS!! That's just the short version. His next letter, to the court, then ensured that he completely perjured himself by writing a statement that is not only untrue but totally unsupportable in relation to this paternity issue. I am mulling over how to respond having furiously typed angry missives that simply will not do. A calming chat with WWK put it better into perspective. Mr WT's own father said to me tonight "he's running scared, scrabbling for anything to hold onto". So I will just KOKO and hoping that these two morons explode in a pit of their own bile.