Yes, Across we can only live in hope. I suppose one way of accepting it is knowing that, whilst we might not see retribution in our own circumstances, we can most definitely see it in others.
I think (and without wishing to upset the Formidable One) if I look back at the last year of hell that has been my life, I can see I have managed to achieve some incredible things. Gaining a friend like MrsC is one of them.
I was thinking today (having chatted with her last night when I had a 'woe is me' princess moment) is that one of the highlights of what was a bloody dreadful twelve months for me, has got to be sitting opposite her twunt knowing he was lying to me, going back into court, and getting him to confirm his lie before the judge, and then watching the judge cotton on to it.
He now bleats on about how he's "lost everything".
MrC: Yep, you stupid twunt - you lied to a judge in a court of law. We all knew you were lying, but you thought you were the cleverest man in the room.
I knew differently.
Sorry about that - but if you're a liar and a cheat, and then someone as pissed off as me comes along, what the fuck do you expect?
That you could bully me? You didn't know me. You still don't. But, and this will really piss you off: when you're ready to climb down from your righteous indignation, the mother of your child is actually a bloody lovely parent. The best that 4 year old boy with autism could get.
You've had many judges, and me, and your STBXW and a thousand MNetters (some of whom are men) telling you things you don't like to read.
You still want to bully me into your way of thinking?
So Across So when I'm having a 'crap day', I can always think back to the day I helped a marvellous woman through a really tough moment in her life. She's been a formidable friend to me and I expect she always will be. I will always be grateful to her for the opportunity to get one over a bully - it has given me a huge amount of confidence to get back into the workplace, doing what I do, and doing it well.
It's rare you get to see someone's comeuppence, I agree. I'm very privileged in so many ways: but if there was ever a moment that helped me deal with my own shit is that just once, I got to ensure I overcame a bully thanks to MrsC inviting me into her divorce.
Pineapple anyone?