Hello lovely everybody! Goodness, I panicked then, I couldn't find the thread...it's my ranty lifeline 
. So many lovely posts and too many to name everybody separately so I hope you don't mind if I just say a huge thank you for such wonderful ongoing support and kind words. Although I have to mention you Ajaney...yes me too with the C word, it's dreadful, but necessary sometimes...
So, I have received a lovely passive/aggressive letter from H kindly left in DS's schoolbag. I have informed his solicitor that I will not tolerate this and continue to insist on solicitor only contact. I just cannot put myself in that position. Having sought advice from the Police, the officer I spoke to agreed I was doing exactly the right thing. It is clear that despite my efforts over the last (nearly) two years to maintain some sort of relationship with him and indeed I was advised by many that it wouldn't happen (and you were right), I can't see any reason for us to have any communication at all. He has regular age appropriate access to DS and because of yet another threat of not having him on the days I do the ASD course (does he not fucking realise that I am doing this for the benefit of DS, it beggars belief), I have now made alternative arrangements so he's lost that additional contact because he's an idiot. He refuses to keep DS away from OW so that will be dealt with separately. DS is still struggling with sleeping and remains very very clingy. I feel like they have destroyed the huge progress I have made with him. H's letter was full of demands about what he wanted but the best one of all was that he was cancelling contact on a date in July as he is "going away". Yet when I needed to take DS away a few weeks ago (a family issue), he demanded to know, in writing, why that was and complained I was upsetting DS's routine. I did point out that the rules wouldn't apply when he wanted to go somewhere and thus that has proven true...one rule for him, another for me it seems! He has also informed me he wishes to take DS away to his parents for the weekend. As my MIL has already said she wouldn't allow that to happen without me there, knowing how DS can be, it's irrelevant. I will leave that up to her to explain to him.
AltheaVestrit, you asked about bail. I was given bail purely to put some distance between us, not because I am a master criminal or a danger to society thankfully! It gives them the chance to go back through the history, there is also a MARAC referral in place and the involvement of the Harm Reduction Unit (formally domestic violence unit) so I guess they are just doing their job in that regard. The contempt of court thing was nonsense and WWK and I received legal advice on that. It has been indicated to me that my MN threads are of no relevance but I that H tried to submit this as "further evidence" but I am guessing at the moment. Whatever, they appear determined to have me prosecuted for "something"...which is a lovely thing to do to a single parent of two children. He won't think about that though. It is amazing given I have been assaulted, they committed fraud on my bank account, I have been subjected to the most vile abuse from OW (which I didn't go rushing off to the Police with...!) and despite everything they have inflicted on the kids and I, they still keep coming back for more. My H doesn't like to hear the truth, he doesn't like to be confronted with the collateral damage of his actions, so his answer is to run to the Police every time. So, I am done. No more contact from me. Hopefully the distance of the house move will help too.
Anyway, I have rambled on for long enough! I shall update further this week. Thanks everybody, I am so grateful as always! 
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