Who's Desperate and Awful Now....Story of My Divorce from Mr WT...Part 2....

[MrsC1969HJ]

Having reached a 1000 posts, I can hardly believe we are moving onto Thread 2...I have had the most amazing ongoing support from so many and I will always be eternally grateful. Link to Thread 1 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?

well if you ever wanted karma for the pair this most certainly is it. The apoplectic Pauline will have read all about herself in technicolour, and public glory. And she has had the piss ripped out of her in the most spectacular fashion by the force of MN. I think we should now declare this Pauline Pineapple Day or sommat - and all have a fruit salad to celebrate.

Moving on, I have had some legal advice, there is no "contempt", there is no "harassment". They put in the letter that MNHQ removed the threads as they considered them "trolling" and were "investigating further". MNHQ have confirmed this is not the case. They put that the contents were forming part of the "wider investigation" into my "continual harassment"...they're not. Police aren't interest. They've told me. So jog on. However, despite that momentary amusement, I have to go back to my kids...my God what they have been put through. I spend my entire life trying to make sure my son is going to be OK, I do courses, I am halfway through an 8 week one that H refused to attend. There is literally no point in him attending now. They have NO IDEA AT ALL about the realities of ASD because my H is a "Disney" dad who buys presents and McDonalds and goes to soft play. He doesn't have to deal with the realities of the day to day life of an ASD child in any way shape or form. HE JUST DOESN'T GET IT AND NEVER WILL. It frustrates me no end. However, I have now given up. I will have no further contact with him unless via a solicitor. I won't go into the strokes he's pulled but he is a goady fucker and always will be. He will never do the right thing by our little boy and should never have been a father. I know he knows this in his heart....I am going to move, we are in the process of making a lot of long term plans and I will also be invoking the nominal order much sooner than he thinks due to his fuckwittery with maintenance...

Go easy on what you post love, PP will be on here as we speak [waves at Pineapple Pauline OW] and why the hell should they know your plans before you are ready?

Jesus fecking Christ.

Put simply and I hope they are reading this, I really do, your ex and his partner are despicable.
Who the hell does shit like this and sleeps at night?
Ex, Pay the bloody back maintenance.
Ex, Sort your financial shit out without screwing over the mother of your child.
Ex, Stop trying to punish her. You are hurting your son.
Ex, Educate yourself about ASD and be a proper consistent parent.

Mrs C, have faith my lovely.

Lastly, yesterday, somebody anonymity assured blurts this..."she gave him an ultimatum, it's her or me, no grey areas"...well that's lovely that is. The woman who said "poor me, my husband died, couldn't bear to have sex with anybody else"...who said she'd always do right by my children...who said that she was "bored of my pitiful bleating"...who told me to grow up and move on...who dismissed DS's diagnosis as "attention seeking and only to claim DLA"...somehow though it was OK to give an ultimatum to a married man she had had a long term affair with despite KNOWING the situation we were in. She'll be championing herself as the public face of ASD next....

I do wonder, while she was busy issuing ultimatums, if she ever once gave a second thought to my little boy, so very much damaged by them, or indeed my daughter. What an utterly vile piece of work. I am glad that all the lies they told have been exposed..and continue to be.

I am fine, I am happy, I have a lovely casual man that I won't can't commit to. We're going to move, we have some money to play with in terms of that. DD I think will sail her GCSE's as she's worked so hard despite all of this.

I could go on and on but I won't because this is enough.

Hopefully I will be divorced soon and be well rid of the nastiest POS I have ever come across. I am and always will be ashamed that he shares DNA with my beautiful and complicated little boy. They are welcome to eachother, they deserve eachother and I deserve much much more.

I think my posts will decrease on here a bit now, but I wanted to make sure these threads were here for others who are approaching or are in situations like this. The amazing support and advice I have had has been astonishing.

Thank you fellow MN'ers...I will post news as I have it

Stupid...oh my goodness, that post brought on the tears! I am SO drained with it all, just drained. What a fucking ordeal this has been. Onwards and upwards! Thanks everybody for supportive posts...I know that was so long...I am surely going to end up in "shit that's a troll" or "classics"...

You are a star, you really are.

And you know why she is kicking off? Because she knows that one day her "prize" will wake up and realise that he lost a princess to end up with the frog.

A cheater who marries the mistress creates a vacancy.......

They certainly seem to need to create drama to have something to keep them together. If they were happy they'd be busy getting on with their lives trying to co-parent with you and doing the best you can for ds.

Hope the divorce goes through asap!

Love you Bogey...she has no idea...mind you, neither did I to be fair to her. It's all time isn't it?

Oh she was the other party in his "hedging his bets"...hence all the STI tests I underwent...he'd screw anything with an orifice and tell it he loves it...!

:o

Loves you too!

I think this can do with another airing.

Posted on behalf of all the vipers!

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Oops! The above link was the google search results :o

They really are un-bloody-believable in how their actions affect others. Shits both of them. What they have done to you is awful (totally inadequate word) - and to your children. Your poor DS, their actions are really making him suffer. After what WT put your DD through - to pick herself up and work so hard on exams, she has a real inner strength - just like you MrsC. Hopefully she'll show the Wanker that she's going to have a brilliant and successful life away from him (as will you).

Isn't there a famous quote somewhere that says something like the best revenge is to live happier than before?

I too hope your divorce will come through asap so you can move on without the twerp. I wonder sometimes if all his texts/emails to you could be construed as harassment.

Sorry to ramble. I wondered how things were. WT has gone beyond all reason, so sorry to hear that. Glad you've got WWK and pineapples

Lost for words.

Waving to you, your lovely offspring and the pineapple (or son of pineapple, the original having surely been long eaten), wishing you all the best for a much more peaceful and settled future. Best you stay off the social media for a bit though, huh? You're best off not knowing what kind of rubbish comes out of the mouths of idiots.

Not sure I can find the words. What a toad that man is. Vile behaviour and seemingly incredibly thick.

Your lovely little family are going to be fine because you are an amazing person but I am repulsed by that pair.

Sending you lots of love. Thank you for sharing this and giving strength to a lot of other women who are going through similar shit

MrsC that's truly horrific. I cannot believe anyone would be so self absorbed, selfish, nasty and downright evil to put you and your DC through all that. God I feel sorry for her children.
Why the fuck were they stalking you on here?
You belong here. They don't. Your words, determination and strength are required here. You, WWK, Hobbit and all the other lovely ladies are needed to show others that we do not, and should not let these self absorbed narcs walk over us.
I hope you get every good thing you deserve.

All

I have thought long and hard about what to say given I'm a "part player" in the thread being taken down.

And clearly that was a result of my involvement in her divorce. That said: this thread has been MrsC's lifesaver.

But my contribution to it has not made life easier.

I decided as an adult: allegedly with brains; most definitely with blond hair; certainly as a friend to MrsC; and apparently having a wicked way with words: to write about a certain court event.

This has caused, in some quarters, some consternation.

I accept that.

Firstly, thank you MNHQ: for allowing the thread to be resurrected.

Secondly, thank you to all those MNetters who put two and two together.

Thirdly, thank fuck! The fact remains: I and a ton of MNetters, have got my head around the E&W legal system.

And in conclusion: ODFOD.

MrsC and I have never hidden we are two women having horrific divorces.

Without MN, two women would be having horrific divorces.

With MN, two women are surviving horrific divorces.

And because of MN, two women have a regular laugh/cry/vent/indulge in moments of complete lunacy. Surrounded by MNetters.

And because this thread is resurrected: MrsC and WWK would like to reassure all: we are completely cool with life.

No matter what it throws at us.

KOKO one and all.

Oh and I hope that tacky pair also get every-single-bloody-thing they deserve.
Delivered with a trebuchet loaded with pineapples.

WWK, I'm lady lurkalot personified ( oh I like that, may NC - oh look! A butterfly ...) and one of the loveliest things I've seen is the friendship and humour that have developed between you lovely women. It is honestly inspiring.

I keep thinking though - isn't it just utterly hilarious that her and him have read how just bloody awful and contemptible they really are. Not one person on your threads MrsC have said 1 teeny tiny good word for them and their carry on. They have been roundly, completely and totally publicly flogged. Their actions have been nothing short of contemptible, dishonest and hateful. And there is nothing they can do about it. She will have read what a disloyal, unfaithful twat she has ended up with - and now she is stuck with him. Hahahahaha. I know one thing for sure, they will never ever be able to trust one another will they. Karma indeed.

And may all of their future shits be very spiky pineapples.

Mrs C. I rarely post but I have followed your threads and wished you well all the way. I was worried at your recent silence and am so glad to read your updates.

As for your STBXH and his OW, I have a mental image of Punch and Judy

Except in the shows Punch always gets the hardest hit in

Good morning all! Thank you all for your lovely posts while I was busily spilling my guts last night, I will never be able to express how grateful and touched I am to have so much support from you all. All the way back to thread 1, the night I first posted, that saved my life. I was THAT low that I couldn't think of any way out of this mess and the pain, actual physical pain I was feeling. I will never ever understand why my husband thought it was ever OK to put us through this. However, he is an adult, he could have just done the right thing, instead he has done anything but. I honestly believe, as do everybody who knows us, friends and both families included, that he would not have done all of this if there had been a different OW. As he said to me "she hates your guts and always will". Yet he wants to be with somebody like that. Clearly, moving forward, her behaviour significantly affects how my DS is involved with them. That, however, is something that I am dealing with separately.

Today I am off to my ASD course, it is hard work to be honest, a lot to take in but seeing so many improvements in DS's behaviour has made it all very much worth it. You don't realise how much it takes to understand the condition until you're "in it". This is why I am so angry at the effect their behaviour has on him. They will never ever acknowledge that because they are those sort of people unfortunately. It's all about them and always will be. Selfish beyond description.

Anyway wishing all you lovely MN'ers a lovely sunny day!