Hi ladies (and the one random gentleman I am aware of!), I hope you all had a lovely Easter! I just thought it was time for an update as there have been some issues fuckwittery to deal with. Firstly Daffy, thank you so much for your lovely post, indeed thank God for MN and the friendships it has brought me, I am very lucky! Across, so sorry to hear that things are difficult still, of course I don't mind the "derail", rant away my darling, you never know who is around to offer advice or may have experienced something similar. It's been a while since your post, so maybe an update will tell us that things are better? Please do say 
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So, onto Mr WT. I am still struggling and full of anger, I need to find a way to channel that, I might start running again. It's just the bloody injustice of it all, you'd think that the ancillary relief proceedings would bring, well, relief, but they haven't, quite the opposite, odd really. Anyway, I shall deal with that in the fullness of time.
Have had an issue with MIL. I think she is absolutely fed up about to hang herself over the whole thing. I think that Mr WT has been shit stirring again but MIL is the master of discretion incredibly frustrating as she will never reveal what the other has said. No wonder she's stressed. I am at the point of withdrawing from the family as it were, it might be better all round.
Anyway, the order has arrived, now to be turned into a consent order at the expense of Mr WT. The same day (last Sat), DS returns from contact and attacks me, bites my boob, kicks me, hits his sister, then puts his thumb and forefinger together and says "I only love you this much" and then flings his hands wide apart and says "but I love daddy this much"...you can only imagine how fucking angry I was. He then, in the way a 4 yo does, tell me that OW says "Mummy is horrible and mean". Mr WT denied to his mother that this happened or that DS was even in the vicinity of OW but as he has forgotten what the truth is, I think I'd rather believe my son. This is intolerable. I could not contact Mr WT due to bail conditions but am absolutely livid. On Wednesday, Mr WT did not arrive for contact, no message, no nothing. Had a very upset DS. Today I found out he "thought" contact was cancelled. I suspect he had other plans....
Today I find out that Mr WT has "made an application"...for mediation...I suspect what this means is that he has gone to a solicitor about formalising contact with DS and the solicitor has suggested mediation. I doubt very much that he has told anything near the truth or that he is indeed solicitor number NINE. I am clearly not going to do that, he couldn't mediate last time and won't this time. I think he is trying to avoid a hearing as 18 months of abuse of me, the kids and his behaviour, let alone hers, will be scrutinised by the court. On Thursday, I met up with a lady I met at the court in January, so weird how you meet people, she had offered generous contact to her ex-twat and his OW (despite the considerable pain it caused her), he decided to go to court to increase it, very similar story to mine, he got his contact reduced to a couple of hours on a Sunday, no overnights and NO contact with the OW. Backfired entirely. This gives me hope.
Lastly, Mr WT is not going to be charged with malicious communications, the CPS felt he fell short (only just) of that. So, bail conditions have now ended. This means he has to grow a pair and communicate with me again. I was sort of disappointed but also in a strange way glad as it has caused so many problems. I understood from interviewing officer (who gave me the news before him) that he was going to speak to him and pull no punches. He said even the CPS man had described him as an "arsehole".
So, that's where we're at! All comments gratefully received. Sorry this is a bit "bitty", I've had wine xx