Who's Desperate and Awful Now....Story of My Divorce from Mr WT...Part 2....

[MrsC1969HJ]

Having reached a 1000 posts, I can hardly believe we are moving onto Thread 2...I have had the most amazing ongoing support from so many and I will always be eternally grateful. Link to Thread 1 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?

So tonight, I have watched Ant & Dec, followed by Casualty and then Jonathan Ross.

You poor soul, you really are in a bad way!

LOL Annie...it's THAT bad...ha ha. Was expecting sympathy. Still laughing!!!

I'm with Annie there MrsC my love, you need Netflix in your life!
Watch a bit of quality programming

You have fought so long and so hard against that gruesome twosome, and have had such an amazing outcome, the crash was inevitable really wasn't it? WWK felt the same way, elation and relief, tempered with sadness that it had to come to this, battling with the person you once loved and trusted the most for the basic right to live your life again and provide a stable home for your children. You have been so resilient in the face of appalling treatment, I am in awe of your strength. I only hope I can do even half as well as you have when it comes to my own personal situation.

I'm not so good at assembling things either. My wonderful DS2 says that when it comes to me it should be called 'DON'T it yourself'. The secret is that I could do it, but why should I when the mere sight of me walking through the living room with a hammer or a screwdriver sends him and DH into apoplexy, followed by "Look, just let us do it, OK?".

The 'crash' was inevitable, but the 'rebuilding' will soon follow. Through it all you've never lost your sense of humour. That will be the rock you'll rebuild your house on.

I'm sure if Mr WT was going to indulge in some toy tossing from his mental pram, he'd be decent enough to keep it from DS. He's a prick, but hopefully not that big of a prick.

Congrats MrsC, your DC maybe have lost a "dad", but they've gained one hell of an "Auntie", which seems to be the better deal in my opinion.

Now go after that building company of your ex minus the debts offer him a quid...eg "take it or leave it option".

Another here who has been silently supporting you, am a newcomer to the thread, only reading in last week or so, but just want to say, you are bloody amazing, well done MrsC!

I've been watching Breaking Bad on Netflix since my husband moved out. He's been gone 6 weeks and I'm only on series 1 epi 5, so my concentration span is still miniscule. I overdosed on Big Bang Theory in the first fortnight, little bite sized episodes.

Hope you're feeling better this morning MrsC. I'd heard about the slump that comes after However you have done brilliantly

I couldn't live without TV. Only have freeview and limited internet access so no extras like Netflix (not in the budget). However I have been buying boxsets on Ebay (Greys Anatomy latest etc) and then selling them back after. DD bought me the entire boxset of Lost which i've never seen so we're trawling through that at the moment.

Re DIY - I managed to build a smallish Keter shed in the garden last summer on my own (supposed to be 2 man job) so quite proud of myself.

Oh my goodness. I have just finished reading both threads. I am so sorry for what you have been through in the last 18months and so proud of how you handled it all (I know it sounds weird that you could be proud of a total stranger but that's the only way to describe it!). I hope you and your lovely DCs have a great Easter Holiday, a time when some people focus on new life- that's what you can all have now! you really are amazing! Xxx

On holiday so have only just logged in to get the update. Fabulous and awesome result.

The crash is part of the grief MrsC. You just have to let it happen, rest your body and mind as much as you can and your strength will slowly come back.

Take care!

Just catching up with your post from last night. The most ridiculous thing of all that Mr WT did........was to let you go. Your sincerity, kindness and humility are what struck me from when I first started reading your thread. Thinking of you xx

Rozalia, your post stood out, I hope you're OK my love, six weeks isn't very long at all and I do indeed still have the attention span of a knat at times. I hope you're getting lots of support in RL. I can only promise you that it does get better and it's a matter of time unfortunately. Wishing you everything good .

Thanks everybody for continuing lovely posts. I am OK, still a bit flat today, but to be expected I guess. I have today signed up to Netflix, feeling that I can justify £5.99 a month to keep myself occupied in the evenings! Kitchen table is still on floor along with the parts to make four chairs. I'm going to ask flirt with my neighbour and get him to do it. Girl power and all that . So this weeks tasks are an appointment with the CAB to clarify a few things related to my income, doing a bit of a property search (just speculative at the moment) and getting rid, well storing, all the bloody divorce related paperwork that I don't want to have to look at ever again. I have printed out my application for my Decree Absolute which I will send off once I have the order signed and sealed from the court. Could potentially be divorced by late April/early May. Not sure how I feel about that. It does bring a smile to my face though when I think about Mr WT gleefully telling me that we should be divorced in "April/May" about 3 days after he walked out, so a whole 18 months after his ludicrous prediction, that may actually come to pass. His financial offer all the way back then was a life insurance policy to make sure I was "OK" if he dropped dead! SO picked on the wrong wife didn't he? WWK and I were laughing at the fact he didn't have a clue who she was, he had seen her briefly the last time she stayed, he must be flummoxed.

Right, I am off to fiddle with Netflix

Hi MrsC , hope you've recovered from watching Ant and Dec and furniture installation, < not to mention dealing with the gruesome twosome>

Netflix is a good distraction I find, when your mind won't switch off in the wee small hours.

I had to laugh at the comments about your ex not knowing who WWK was, it must have messed with his tiny mind,

"Who's this blonde with the big brain?"

Your nemesis , ya big eejit! Ha ha, oh to have been a fly on the wall

Thanks MrsC, we have "spoken" before but I've name changed several times in the last year, trying to preserved my anonymity.
I've started my own thread and I'm also building up some RL support. Trying to make sense of the Fuckwittery and why I feel like I do at the moment. Also trying not to feel a failure because I'm not Superwoman.

Hope Netflix helped. After such a long ordeal you're bound to feel flat. As flat as a flat pack table, at times .

I'd just like to say something....I like Ant and Dec

Me too. I live for Saturday Night Takeaway.

I particularly loved Cheryl...and the estate agents. Hilarious!!

Haven't seen last night's yet - have to wait till DD2 comes back from France1

Delurking, largely cos it's taken ages to get this account up and running.

Anyway, Mrs C, I've been following your thread and you have been amazing. I've had to walk away from the computer because I've been annoyed at Mr WT.

And WWK, you're a goddess! After going through the mincer yourself, to not hide away under the duvet, but to go and help MrsC, that is real friendship.

I await the "and they both lived unhappily ever after" thread for Mr WT & her.

Hi Second, thank you for posting such a lovely message and indeed he does have that effect on most of us doesn't he? The lovely WWK is my hero and again, I repeat, without her with me last week, I wouldn't have had the result that I did. She is a true friend, and for life I hope!

In other news, Mr WT appears to have bought himself a "big white van". This is according to DS aged 4, however, I am inclined to believe this as he is a child who doesn't mince his words and tells me a lot these days! Apparently this is needed "for work". I believe Mr WT forgets he has a speaking child on his hands. I will confirm this before I actually do anything with this information (ie : blatantly lying in court). Goodness, it never ends does it? I have also had confirmation today that he is refusing to attend the same ASD course as me starting at the end of April. This is not exactly ideal as it means we won't be singing off the same hymn sheet in terms of what we learn and how it is applied. I assume that everything I "do" will be "undone" until he gets his sorry ass onto the next course in September when he will proceed to start "doing" what has already been "done" and repeatedly "undone". Gosh, my life is one long round of dealing with arseholiance of the highest order.

On a lighter note, The Walking Dead is on, last one in a spectacular season, I really have reclaimed the TV. Still laughing at Gogglebox last night where the best quote on it was "Cape Fear? Madonna's got that"

Oh and the table/chairs are up! fluttering eyelashes at neighbour did the trick

The white van.....does this mean you are thinking of spousal maintenance?

And so annoying about him refusing to attend the ASD course

I'd leave him to establish his multi-million pound conglomerate first...then go back to court.

In the interim, I would sit back and enjoy watching yet another WT/Pauline enterprise go to the wall.

And that is not an endorsement to sheer the brakes!

'Out of the mouths of babes', right? But I suppose he could have rented one 'for work'. Who knows with that one, right?

It's so frustrating that he just doesn't seem to 'get' that it is about what is needed for DS, not 'scoring a point' over you. How childish to basically 'refuse to be in the same room with you'. Maybe if you promise to pretend as if you don't know him and never look him in the eye * he might change his mind. Wanker.

*BFF's Ex-twat tried to pull that on her when their son was having a little problem in school. His teacher wanted to speak to them together and he told the teacher that he'd only come if BFF 'wouldn't look at him' and 'wouldn't speak directly to him' during the meeting. Poor teacher.

That's hilarious, was he Tom Cruise?

Finally have caught up.

Well done the pair of you for a great outcome.

KOKO - I look forward to when you also receive spousal maintenance