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Who's Desperate and Awful Now....Story of My Divorce from Mr WT...Part 2....

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MrsC1969HJ · 19/07/2014 20:44

Having reached a 1000 posts, I can hardly believe we are moving onto Thread 2...I have had the most amazing ongoing support from so many and I will always be eternally grateful. Link to Thread 1 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?

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TheFormidableMrsC · 26/03/2015 16:21

CallMeNancy...we just fell about!! Brilliant!

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TheFormidableMrsC · 26/03/2015 16:28

We've made it to "most active threads"...yay! She's typing, I promise she's typing....

ImpossibleGirl · 26/03/2015 16:29

Pfft Grin... The humble pineapple will forever bring a smirk to my face.

Mmmm ... Pina Colada ... Or even better ... Lava flow (pina colada with a layer of strawberry puree in the bottom of the glass) Wine

WellWhoKnew · 26/03/2015 16:42

So, having settled ourselves in a now vacant 'consultation room', MrsC and WWK ate lunch and wrote up a new 'open offer' mindful of the judge's reasoning and helpful suggestions. This included a 'lump sum' which we rightly believed MrsC was entitled to, but conceded his 'must have' in terms of a share of the equity in the house.

Some considerable time later, MrWT huffed and puffed his way with a new 'open offer', which included a lump sum, before stating he 'couldn't actually afford to pay it', and which point WWK asked for evidence that he couldn't raise a bank loan, as would usually be required, and realistically, was possible for him under the circumstances.

MrWT waddled off to 'prove it'.

Then waddled back to say he'd only prove it to the judge because he still considered it outrageous that he was having to deal with a stranger about his financial matters, which he stated were sensitive and private.

WWK used her most plummiest intonations to retort that she was rather underwhelmed by his financial abilities, past and present, so he needn't worry that it would interest her in the slightest.

MrWT's parting remark was 'see you in court'.

Whereupon, WWK consumed more lunch, rather underwhelmed by the best efforts of a lager lout with a hangover. MrsC did not marry this man for his brains, that I can attest!

And then the pineapple got loaded and primed. The clerk of the court was informed that unfortunately negotiations had broken down, but we sought the judge's advice as we've had some very relevant disclosure come to light which may alter the judge's previous reasoned analysis.

NettleTea · 26/03/2015 16:47

oooohhhhhhh teaser

WellWhoKnew · 26/03/2015 17:07

And so after a very lengthy lunch, Mrs C, WWK, pineapple and two twunts re-emerged in the court room in front of DJ SlowSpeaker.

MrsC announced that there had been some frightening new disclosure over lunch, and in fact, MrWT was declaring himself bankrupt with immediate effect, the net effect was the house would be repossessed and her and her son would be facing a very frightening future.

DJ SlowSpeaker then summarised the position. He said:

"To summarise the position, MrWT, you are effectively declaring yourself bankrupt, but you are offering a lump sum, which you cannot pay, but say she can deduct it from your share of the house, which neither your nor your wife will be able to get, until your son turns 18 at the earliest?

The brainless wonder said 'Yes', that is my position.

So in other words, MrWT, you are accepting MrsC's offer, give or take a small piddling amount of money, which you won't see for another 14 years?

Yes, the brainless wonder confirmed.

So to clarify, said DJ Slowspeaker, you are effectively failing to maximise your earning capacity because you are 'too stressed' with divorce, and yet, having being made an offer, you have spent the whole day in court insisting that your 'very fair offer' is actually something that will lead your son to homelessness?

So, the position is, said DJ SlowSpeaker, that MrsC's offer, which I initially considered 'far-fetched' will actually guarantee your son's welfare in the long-term, and I am only concerned with your son.

To make this clear, said DJ SlowSpeaker - I couldn't, quite frankly, give a flying fuck about you two, your lives or your idiocy, but your son is autistic.

At which point (and this was was utterly impressed by) DJ Slow Speaker described the reality of having a child with autism. What that meant for MrsC in real terms: that she had zero earning capacity because her child would always come first, and it cannot be reasoned how he will function as an adult. And in this case, undoubtedly, her child would likely never be an independent adult. And that, that MrWT, rather than provide for his son, has bogged himself down in semantics rather than considering his son's needs, and succumbed to 'stress' rather than focus on his son's very special needs.

Therefore, with that DJ Slowspeaker ordered MrsC's offer be turned into a consent order, with MrWT paying the costs of that, and also added in a 'Nominal Order' so that MrsC can vary the order in the future, when MrWT had recovered from his 'stress-related idleness'.

And with that MrsC became the sole owner of her house. She kept her pension, her car, all the chattels of the home.

MrWT left with many hundreds of pounds to pay in costs and possibly bankrupt.

Even I was stunned.

bobs123 · 26/03/2015 17:08

On my second sherry now, DD's pizza in oven. Waiting......

(God I just love living vicariously through other peoples achievements!!!)

magoria · 26/03/2015 17:10

OMFG amazing.

Well played.

NettleTea · 26/03/2015 17:12

wow.
Result for the pineapple.

And what a bloody twunt Mr WT has proven himself. I hope he and the OW will be happy together

catsrus · 26/03/2015 17:12

wow - just wow! Star Star Star Star Star

Andro · 26/03/2015 17:13

He really impressed the judge, didn't he?

Well done MrsC and WWK...brilliant job all around!

ImpossibleGirl · 26/03/2015 17:13

Oh wow ... Speechless ...

Skiptonlass · 26/03/2015 17:14

I am standing in my living room applauding.

Have followed this thread for a while - delinking to say WELL BLOODY DONE.

Now go drown that pineapple in some rum :)

TheMShip · 26/03/2015 17:15

H. O. L. Y. FUCK.

Pineapple cocktails all round!! Mad cheering! Extra drinks for DJ Slowspeaker, knight in shining robes (or whatever it is judges wear these days).

Deep breaths. You two are just amazing. Congratulations on the first day of the rest of your life, formidable one!

DocMcStuffinsBigBookOfOuches · 26/03/2015 17:15

Wow.

bobs123 · 26/03/2015 17:17

I raise my glass to you Smile

Just brilliant!

CallMeNancy · 26/03/2015 17:18

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Hidingmyidentity · 26/03/2015 17:20

Now that is what I call, a result.

Notabeararaccoon · 26/03/2015 17:25

Fantastic, well done. Nothing can undo the horror you've had to go through due to the selfish awful behaviour of mr WT and Pauline, but thank heavens you have that resolved (and potential to go back in future) and you and your lovely family are safe in your home. Enjoy a large glass of any alcoholic beverage you choose, pineapple themed or otherwise.

AccordingtoSteve · 26/03/2015 17:26

Brilliant Wine

WellWhoKnew · 26/03/2015 17:29

MrsC is off attending to childcare duties but will be back shortly with bubbly...

I am left in charge of a small child

MrWT used to call MrsC 'his pension', so it's a bit unfortunate the brainless wonder left her for someone also facing bankruptcy.

Now aren't we all glad that Mr SnoweyWhitey's 'special contribution' to my marriage was paying for my very expensive Business Degree...

The last request of the day came from Pauline to the judge: May I have my disclosure back from WWK. I didn't even wait for the judge to reply.

My toilet roll has great value than her business.

whyMe2014 · 26/03/2015 17:42

OMG! I am so so pleased for you. Well done.

A glimpse of justice in the world of divorce.

xx

Cherryapple1 · 26/03/2015 17:51

Wow - incredible. Well done both - am in awe.

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