Who's Desperate and Awful Now....Story of My Divorce from Mr WT...Part 2....

[MrsC1969HJ]

Having reached a 1000 posts, I can hardly believe we are moving onto Thread 2...I have had the most amazing ongoing support from so many and I will always be eternally grateful. Link to Thread 1 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?

Ooh yes please! I could take that bitch down in one sentence, no problem :o

Bogey....do it do it!!

Still talking to Twitter man, this is proving extremely insightful. I have asked him why, if he has a lovely wife and children, is he looking elsewhere? He said "variety, excitement, sex, I don't know, the same as the rest of the human race". I am SO going to educate him. I can't believe I am having this conversation when he knows I have been floored by my husband's infidelity. Amazing!

Just leave it MrsC.

There is absolutely no point in anything else.

Weebirdie, I hear you, I am just fascinated by it...he doesn't get it at all. Silly man! Heading for disaster as they all invariably do...just sad for his wife really, who is bringing up the kids he loves so much! Weird!

Back to normal even though I am still having a fascinating and insightful conversation with Mr Married Twitter Man. Spoke to MIL earlier, she has asked if I am OK with her and FIL contacting Mr WT to speak about contact with DS. Absolutely, I am bloody great with that. DS clung to my legs today quite out of the blue and said "I miss my Daddy". He has no idea his daddy is a total waste of space arsehole does he? So, I have to do the grown up thing. MIL and I are agreed that it has to be said to Mr WT that other people may have opinions about his behaviour that differ from his...this has been the problem thus far. Anybody who has challenged him he has cut off. He is not now in a position to be cutting off anybody. So, hoping this is a positive thing. I realise I am going to have this arsehole in my life forevermore, so I need to find a way to make it work. I have had wine, can you tell?

I know you'd never do anything with Mr Twitter, but do be careful. I've seen threads where wives have found messages and wreaked havoc on women they think their husband's have cheated with.

Poor DS, he only knows what his father has shown him of himself. Unfortunately, at some point he'll be faced with what his father really is.

People who cut off everyone who disagrees with them often end up on the end of a branch high in a tree merrily sawing it off at the trunk. And all the time, someone has been shouting from the ground "Idiot, you're going to fall!!" But they never listen. No more will he.

Oh, go on, have more wine. I'm going to!

Evening MrsC.

I realise I am going to have this arsehole in my life forevermore, so I need to find a way to make it work. I have had wine, can you tell?

Hopefully, it will be on your terms only.

Morning ladies! Happy Mother's Day to you . Across, fear not, Twitter man has been put firmly in place. I was just fascinated at his mindset, willing to risk all he had for "excitement". Honestly, why do they never learn? I love the tree analogy...that is so true! He really isn't in a position to be doing anything other than co-operating at the moment. We'll see how this one pans out. Not hopeful. I ended up having far too much wine last night. However, will be dry today, need a fresh face and head for tomorrow's horrors.

SteamTrains, indeed, let's hope so. Likely though? I doubt it. He will always do his own thing regardless of the consequences. Such an idiot.

Happy Mothers Day Mrs C, I hope you get some time to relax and pat yourself on the back for being such a good mum. And good luck for tomorrow. With a bit of luck, it will be amusing to watch her squirm, and realise that her power does not extend beyond WT

Izzie, hello my lovely! Thank you. Goodness, I am so very nervous. I don't know why, it wasn't me who ran off with somebody else's husband was it? I am going there very early in the morning to find a side waiting area so that I don't have to sit and look at them together. I think the truth is, that is what I am dreading most. Looking at her and him and wondering why he thought she was the better bet given the utter misery it's caused everybody and the damage it has done to my children. Vile, both of them.

Mrs C, there are a number of reasons they go for such women, inferior in every way to the wife. Sometimes it's a reflection of their own self image, in the same way as people get certain dog breeds to reflect themselves. Sometimes it's about going for someone who would be grateful for their attention, as they are unlikely to pull much else. And of course in her case she seemed to have money. I have this mental image of her being a bit like the Geraldine James character in Blott on the Landscape, ie very dominant lady of the manor. He's a Blott equivalent without the brains. The lapdog.

Oh and I completely understand what you mean about vile specimens. Snap! Yes I have visions of running into my ex twunt with her in tow. Fortunately it's not happened. I try to practise what I would like to do, ie look her up and down and smirk. I hope, though, I'm never put in that situation.

I hope you are going with someone. So, best foot forward, look stunning, and act happy and relaxed, and when you see them, look through them like they were strangers as opposed to strange. They are merely damaged goods and not worthy of your attention. And if you waver, just think of us on MN falling about laughing looking at the ugly pair of deluded twats.

You are amazing! You are smart, caring, dignified, sassy. Think WWK.. You're up there with the legends of MN.

Routing for you all the way!!

Just wanting to wish you good luck for tomorrow! Look SH, and be dignified in the knowledge that it will stand you in good stead, and piss off Mr WT and the WTOW (Wankeringly Twattish Other Woman) immensely.

You will be fabulous. Think of the sheer number of pom poms being waved at you here. (Mine are purple for this occassion)

Also, despite the rough time you've been having, I'm glad you are still using the TheFormidable in your name. I did worry for a bit you would drop it, but I am glad to see you haven't.

Now go and show those twunts how formidable you are!

Just wanted to add my good wishes my lovely, words fail me at the sheer stupidity and vileness of their actions, they are a waste of air, sending you love and strength, you will overcome their lies and deceit.

yes, another voice adding into the good lucks. I am dying to hear what the judge thinks of OW. I really am

Ladies! Having been on the phone with WWK for the last hour (and the rest!), I just wanted to pop on to say thank you for your lovely messages (and pom poms!) and that I will answer properly tomorrow and with news of the hearing...Nettle...me too . I do hope I am not getting ahead of myself....! I am so lucky and extremely grateful to have such tremendous support and I don't know what I would have done without you all. Thanks SO much..catch up tomorrow xxx

Sleep well, MrsC!

Best of luck today MrsC

Is it wrong to say how much I look forward to an update later today?

All good thoughts going in your direction MrsC - wrap yourself in all the positive vibes the MNers are sending your way and stay fabulous!

delurks Good luck today MrsC

Is it the WWK day of determination today too - or is it tomorrow?
Its a week of auspicious woo woo signs, what with the new supermoon in the last blip of pisces, an eclipse and an equinox. Sweep the table clean and new beginnings, all that malarky.
And on a non woo side, you have the law saying a big FUCK OFF to people who think they are above it. I hope.

Good luck today. xx

Delurking to wish you all the best.

Best of luck for today, hopefully the judge will give short shrift to ow's shenanigans.

Hi everybody, I am back...God that was awful. So, I get there early with my friend for moral support. Mr WT and OW arrive just before 10 and avoid waiting room (as did I). So we're all called in, she's very tall and has the highest pair of heels on and is hence head and shoulders above Mr WT. Amusing. They couldn't make eye contact at all. We had the same Judge as last time. This time he was a bit less aggressive! Anyway, the long and short of it is that she doesn't want me to see her disclosure. She is happy to show it to the court but not to me. The Judge told her that it was a court of law, it doesn't work like that, that she had to give me the disclosure. She argued that I harassed her (WTF - I have done nothing of the sort and said so!) and he said that she could redact information she felt might be used the "wrong way" (again WTF...this is the woman who pretended to be me to set up a direct debit in my bank account!!). He also told her she could get a non-mol, to which she said she would. I was a bit surprised at this as I have never harassed the bloody woman!! She also started banging on that "we" are subject to a police investigation because of her, Judge cut her short on that one (I had written to explain Mr WT was on bail etc). Anyway, she started to refer to me as "that woman" in her lovely squeaky voice to which the Judge responded "excuse me, that woman? Please refer to MrsC by her name" to which OW said "well she's the only other woman in the room so you know who I mean".... It really stuck in her throat having to refer to me as MrsC. She was so disrespectful and started talking to the Judge in a slow-as-if-she-was-addressing-a-child-voice, he responded in kind. So, he explained to her that it would be better for her to give me the disclosure prior to the hearing on the 26th as it would make the hearing shorter and we would all know where we stood. She declined and said I could have it on the day!!!!!! Brilliant, so I have no idea what it is and will only have that information once we enter the court. I was a bit surprised that the Judge let that happen to be honest, it seemed a complete waste of time. So, he said that hopefully after the next hearing there will be a light at the end of the tunnel and everybody can get on with their lives. She said "we just want this over with"...oh brilliant, so you put me in a position where I have to force my husband to face his responsibilities and then have the nerve to complain about it. My husband said barely a word during the hearing. It was weird to see them together, they are so mismatched, he looked awful, she looked even worse, it's like he's with his Mum, very very odd. Clearly totally under the thumb and does what he's told. So God knows what next week will bring. So, we all left, they scurried off down the stairs and we hung back until they'd gone. So, all in all, it's been a bit of a damp squib really but I think the Judge is aware they having something to hide...so where she thought she was going to get out of the next hearing, she still has to attend. I am OK, I have rung MIL and used every swear word going which means that you got the polite version of events! I literally cannot wait to see the back of those two...they are just vile. Thank you all for being here and all the lovely messages, I thought of you all when I was feeling shaky and frightened at the court. It gave me strength .