Hi ladies, firstly Weebirdie, my God what an arse doing that to your son, I am speechless, don't know why, they all seem to sing off the same hymn sheet. I am so sorry you have to deal with that. You sound strong and brave and your son is very lucky to have you. As for the father that pops in twice a year...words fail me. Thank you for your lovely message, indeed I am less stressed about this hearing than the others thus far, it is not me having to explain myself. I will keep you posted! x
Bogey, thanks for posting my lovely. I should explain, indeed he cannot contact me directly at all. However, after he was interviewed last Friday I was told by the Police that his solicitor would organise contact. I contacted that solicitor on Monday only to be told that his involvement was no more. The Police told me quite clearly that organising contact via a third party was his responsibility but he hasn't done it. I am a bit surprised to be honest. He hates not seeing DS. He could have arranged via a contact centre, even to pick up and drop off, he could have paid for the solicitor to put something in place and he hasn't...it's just weird. He could also have asked his family, that would also have been OK apparently, but he hasn't. LOL at Pauline Calf!!! 
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Across, hi my darling, yes I have wondered if he might try and bring this into proceedings on Monday, it is a possibility although actually the hearing is nothing to do with contact and I imagine if he does bring it up he will be told that quite clearly. However, it 'might' be an opportunity. I have informed the court of the current situation and that us both appearing does not break his bail conditions as it is considered "unavoidable". I think I will just have to confirm why I need her disclosure and then it will be between her and the Judge. Should be interesting....!!!