Who's Desperate and Awful Now....Story of My Divorce from Mr WT...Part 2....

[MrsC1969HJ]

Having reached a 1000 posts, I can hardly believe we are moving onto Thread 2...I have had the most amazing ongoing support from so many and I will always be eternally grateful. Link to Thread 1 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?

Hopefully, his parents will try to influence him for the good. But I'm afraid it's not likely he'll listen.

Police on the doorstep, eh? Poor police. I'll bet they just roll their eyes each time they hear from him; "Oi Reg, it's that damn fool WT again. It's your turn to go bother his poor STBXW with his fool nonsense, I did it last time." "Poor woman, eh Bob? Don't know how she puts up with it. She deserves an award."

Mrs C, I hope that you've fired an email off to your SHL about this episode?

SteamTrains...I wish I had an SHL to fire an e-mail off too...self-repping, it's just little ol' me...

Just delurking to wish you well and share my support (other posters have far more helpful things to say - I am just quietly very loudly cheering you on from the Kingdom of Lurk). My oh my, how much stronger you sound now! Came across this thread just before the weekend (Fri) and I have basically just spent all my free time since then going through your entire first thread I have no life of my own.

& on various levels and in various combinations, followed by many a !

As awful as the story is, this has turned in to a farce of its finest kind! Their behaviour is beggars belief and, if I may say so, it reads as if you are handling it all with an astonishing amount of grace!

On a side note: Upthread (or previous thread) someone put down their name for a signed copy of your forthcoming book on Mr WT and Pauline's Wankering Twattishness and I plead you to please please please add me to this list

P.s.: You ought to henceforth be known as the Formidable MrsC.

Yes, a book, followed by a Film !! You will be rich. (then he'll come knocking for a pay off as he was the person the book was about like Adele's xbf !)

Oooh, cat I think I am going to cheer for a name change here - that is brilliant. TheFormidableMrsC would totally work.

acatcalledjohn...we how could I possibly resist? Listening also to the cheer from pointy, I have indeed name changed to suit the (slightly) stronger me . Thank you so much for de-lurking and your lovely message. It is a bloody farce isn't it? You really couldn't make this stuff up! Mix 56, there needs to be something, I am considering all options!!

Nothing to report today, a quiet Monday for a change....!

Now now, cross out the slightly.

Nor has it been a quiet day: You have just officially acknowledged your much stronger self with that name change. Fabulous achievement I would say. That deserves

Looking forward to read the next instalment of Mr WT's antics. Reading it all this weekend was rather like marathon Netflixing!

Heading back to the Kingdom of Lurk now. Good luck! X

Love the name change,

You can't stop me....

you are both forces to be reckoned with ladies umm warriors umm don't know quite what your titles should be but l can guess the name of your 1st book/film

The Unforbidables

we minions are not worthy

This thread now needs a [champagne] and [fireworks] emoticon - look at those namechanges! Onwards and upwards!

This has made me LOL. Loving TheUnforbidableWWK....look at us! Winning

The Formidable Unforbidables...run around MN causing havoc.

** Goes one better and starts waving "a bag of Pombears & a bottle of Bombay Sapphire Gin"

Afternoon ladies....we have a date for next hearing. It is very soon, near end of March. Wasn't expecting it to come round so quickly but I guess it's better that it has. I now need to prepare myself for seeing her in the courtroom . God this is awful.....!

Lots of time yet for her to consider her position MrsC. And it doesn't conflict with any plans I have for that time of the year...

WWK, indeed, I hope she's had a good, long think. I know, I thought that aswell....we'll talk .

I can't actually believe what I have just done, I am far too nice a fucking moron. Mr WT has suffered from severe migraines since childhood. A particular tablet that is marketed as a "mild pain relief" has come back onto the market after it was withdrawn due to "licensing issues". Some people swear by it for migraine. So what did I muggins here do? I printed it out and gave it to Mr WT..... He seemed grateful confused

That's the difference between a good person & a lying, cheating, donkey dong !

Oh now, just because you are a decent human being doesn't mean you are a muggins. It just means that you can rise above things.

I'm sure it did confuse him. So it serves a dual purpose, doesn't it? Shows him that you are nice and at the same time probably makes him wonder what you're up to!!!

So you did the right thing. You did yourself and DS no harm by doing the right thing, you did some good to Mr WT. It doesn't matter that he doesn't deserve it, what matters is your generosity of spirit. Oh and I really do hope it confused the hell out of him...

I'd almost guarantee that he'll settle before the case if there is the prospect of her being cross examined in court about her finances, and have to disclose beforehand. No way that she will want (or accept) either given the extent to which they've both gone to to get out of disclosure. This will be their worst nightmare. I suspect she'll visit a solicitor with the order for her to attend etc., and hopefully they'll knock a bit of sense into her (and him). Ridiculous pair. xxxx

Arrggghhh, am having a bad night tonight. I am not in the right frame of mind to type it all out, but the gist is, he has no understanding at all of the issues he causes DS, his refusal to communicate or acknowledge the issues with DS's autism, his whole lack of bloody anything. I am struggling at the moment, it's all such hard hard work and so difficult to be doing all this on my own. I am just having a whinge...I know I am far from alone in this situation, there are millions of others. He is such a selfish, self serving twat who paired with the most poisonous OW I have ever come across, just continues to make my life a fucking nightmare. Excuse my language, just so cross and fed up with it all. I shouldn't be feeling like this, there is a New Moon, which always makes me feel light and airy, just not today.

Pinkballoon...he won't settle because they just don't "get it". The order has come, there is no backing out of it now. He has responded to the court by reducing the offer he made in front of the Judge. He has also mentioned he "needs" a bloody car! How does he need a car? There are THREE sitting on her drive. He can't pay maintenance, his mortgage, can't pay this, can't pay that but can buy a fucking car. I knew this was coming because DS kept saying about "daddy's new car"...and I let on that I knew so he has tried to write it into the offer instead...only he would make an offer of financial settlement and try and include a new car for himself in it. Utterly breathtaking.

He will get an open offer from me after OW has stood in front of the Judge. It is time that they faced up to the nightmare they have caused. The exposure is what they fear most...

MrsC I think the issue of his impact on your DS' autism is something you can't address now. It will have to be fought over when you start managing contact, and that will be another ugly battle. If he won't accommodate your DS' needs, then you will need to get the professionals in to get everything documented - so that you can have contact arranged so as to minimise the harm he may do. I know you don't want to hear this now. but it will have to be done.

For now you need to focus on the court case. Have your advocate with you, be cool, calm and collective, watch him and OW be shot down in flames.

Pointy, thanks my darling, you are of course correct. This is certainly going to be addressed and not via the channels I thought but via police referral. The thing is, I know that he loves DS, I don't doubt that. However, his total inability to see the wreckage he has left behind and his continual quest to make my life a total nightmare, coupled with the exceptionally malign OW who appears to have total influence and control means that there is no way through to him. I think he "wants" to do the right things but everything is so out of control now that he is unable to ground himself and use his common sense (I use that term loosely). You're right though, this has to be addressed. Thank you, as ever... x