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LoisPuddingLane · 11/06/2014 10:57

As we were saying...

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Aliensloveunderpants00 · 17/06/2014 20:36

Thanks Caniha & Louby ... it seems I'm the unlucky one then, 20 dates and no one remotely special (with the exception of a two month relationship from OLD last year). And that's with me being fussy with whom I actually meet Confused

Minime85 · 17/06/2014 20:41

Match is rubbish I agree louby

louby44 · 17/06/2014 21:16

To be honest mini they are all rubbish!

What many of these men fail to realise that I am actually up for dating! They chat and chat and disappear and I think 'what is the point'

Pinklaydee1302 · 17/06/2014 21:22

Louby n then starting all over again with the boring chit chatHmmdrives me crazy!!

avianaz · 17/06/2014 21:33

Jesus christ...

I remember noting someones face because they looked a bit like someone out of GoT Blush Blush Blush a while ago, he'd either looked at my profile or messaged I can't remember... but I forgot about it completely

But I was out for a family birthday, who are quite eccentric, and I remember seeing a guy there working who reminded me of someone I knew, I was plastered on whiskey and buckfast and I might have stared :(

He came out while I was getting a taxi home and gave me a beer, but then a big argument happened with family - and I was part of it :( and I cried! :( It was one of THOSE nights ugh

Well today I see him on PoF and now my face is burning!!!!! What are the chances! He probably thinks I'm inbalanced now. Which is right - but, well, I didn't like his voice! So there! Blush

I got two Siamese rat babies yesterday night, which remind me of my exes parents house (loads of siamese cats...) They distract me from it but comfort. My happiest memories were in there.

louby44 · 17/06/2014 21:34

pink exactly. I actually like it when I start chatting with someone on say a Tuesday/Wednesday? We exchange a few pleasantries and they say "do you fancy meeting for a drink? how about Friday, are you free?" I agree and we meet up...I hate all this leaving it for 2/3 weeks rubbish.

avianaz · 17/06/2014 21:37

Also my younger brothers friend is on it! And a distant friend! And I'm pretty sure another is a guy who worked at a bar that I frequented as a teenager. He's probably escorted me outside more than once. Blush

avianaz · 17/06/2014 21:43

avacado can't wait to hear about your date tonight! (wonders if it's in progress :D )

Knitted he might be nervous. I see what you mean about being slotted in, just remember the guy seems to be being honest! Which is good. :) God you really have to know what the craic is when you're online dating don't you? When to stop meeting other people, do they feel the same, when to broach taking your profile down... he seems to not be one of those creeps who'd just pretend. I'd go see him and see what he's like, then be more princessy after that initial judgement :P

Pinklaydee1302 · 17/06/2014 22:32

Aliens I've had about 25 dates and only three relationships which haven't lasted beyond 3 months Hmm

akaWisey · 17/06/2014 22:49

I think Zoosk is better than Match and POF by far. Far greater range of chaps but it has it's downside. You do have to pay but you can do it a month at a time. I think it's worth a go. It can't be any worse than POF

However I've met a Hot Lawyer on POF who I had a splendid dinner date with a couple of weeks ago when I was in London for an interview. He's coming to me on Sunday and we're going to a gig. It's a 'hang-out' thing though so no future.

triathlonmum · 17/06/2014 22:53

Has anyone used the Times site..Encounters Dating?

knittedknickers · 17/06/2014 22:55

That would be my ideal, louby44 too. I think it's weird because in real life men are generally better at being upfront (in my experience) about wanting to meet and not playing games but in the OLD world, I feel like I'm starting all over again - I can't play games.

Yes, avianaz you're right - that would have been wise. I have cut my nose off to spite my face here and basically wished him good luck but said it's probably not meant to be (us meeting up). I'm a bloody div sometimes, I'm just too impatient to hang around waiting.

I'm jealous of Pinklaydee's 25 dates - I can't imagine achieving those dizzy heights of expertise!

forumdonkey · 17/06/2014 23:09

I'm with you Louby no point in weeks of endless chitchat.

Right peeps I've took all your advice, bit the bullet and arranged a date with Dr.

I'm still not sure I'm ready because of the feelings I have for debt but nothing ventured nothing gained I guess.

I will say that I do like chatting on here as all my friends and family can't understand my confusion, reluctance or why I'm still heartbroken and why moving on is proving very hard - harder than I ever thought it would be. But so many of you on here have been there, going through it and completely understand, what I'm feeling and where I'm coming from.

Canihaveonemoreslice · 17/06/2014 23:09

Aka, why just a hang out? Was there no chemistry?

Avacado, hope the safe went well.

forumdonkey · 17/06/2014 23:11

debt Hmm = EXBF

avianaz · 17/06/2014 23:18

aka I might try zoosk... but I always see ads for zoosk everywhere with peoples profiles. Scared it will use mine!

knitted Oh dear lol! It sounds like something I would do so I sympathise! Did he reply?

Btw, I messaged the guy and said I felt so embarrassed about that night and thanks for the beer.
Apparently it wasn't him. Blush

avianaz · 17/06/2014 23:21

forum I' in the same boat with regards to feelings for ex. But maybe meeting a few men and seeing what's out there will help? I'm pretty sure our feelings have something to do with feeling like there's no one else in the world like them... we'll eventually see that hopefully as a good thing. :) Keep us all updated.

And ditto about here being a big help. x

knittedknickers · 17/06/2014 23:25

avianaz - yes, he has emailed loads tonight to say he wants to meet, given me his mob, and told me i'm being daft. I do feel like an idiot now because he has obviously sussed that I was spitting my dummy out for being shoved on the end of the weekend. I don't understand it though, he does seem so genuinely keen. He just didn't seem to want to commit to an actual day. I suppose my own insecurities were coming through as assumed he must have already lined up a date for Sat/rest of weekend.

My friend tried MySingleFriend.com and had quite a few dates and spoke to nice blokes. I looked on it though and thought all the men were looking for much younger women than themselves which is my pet hate, grrr.

avianaz · 17/06/2014 23:36

knitted Aww, it sounds sweet! Some people can be a bit full on and insincere, and that's the sort of thing I'd looking out for on the first meet up. But there's no reason to assume he's like that, sounds like he might have been shy.

Why do you think he has another date? I assumed he told you - but you could always ask "well what are you doing on Saturday, it suits me better"?

Oh I have very strong opinions on men who like much younger women. I don't care how much it happens. Doesn't mean it's right. :)

Minime85 · 18/06/2014 06:01

Knitted I think that sounds all positive and maybe he does have another date too. Nothing to stop you to still chat to others. I put all my eggs in one basket with first date as soon as saw him stopped going on site or talking to others which in hindsight was silly. We were both new to OLD. It only lasted a couple of months.

Don't get me wrong I'm not serial dating this time but I had two evenings free and went on two diff dates over two nights. If either had asked I'd have said and they were both still active on the sites, u could see them. And second date still is (not that I check or anything! Hmm)

Having seen second date twice and lots more messaging I did decide to say don't think going to work last night with 1st date. It didn't sit 100% easy with me but I also didn't want to jump head first again and potential miss out a good relationship. But second date is literally leaving me weak at the knees! So going to just be less serious and try and take it as it comes. Cue me sending panicking messages on here in a few weeks time Confused

FolkGirl · 18/06/2014 06:48

Mini Feel free to send those panicking messages, too!

I wouldn't even want to go back and read my messages of a few months ago - they were very long and dark days at times... Grin

Pinklaydee1302 · 18/06/2014 08:08

Knitted no don't be jealous I been single almost 3 years Hmm wish I was an expert. I'd have snapped up a 30 year old supermodel millionaire who'd love me til end of time if I was....instead got a coffee date with a balding stocky plumber instead Hmm

Bigbird01 · 18/06/2014 16:57

Hi all. I had coffee with the friend of a friend today. It was better than I expected (as it was literally a blind date), but again I really didn't fancy him...
He was nice and all that (although work seems to be the only thing we have in common), I just didn't think this was someone I could see myself 'with'.

Am I asking too much? That I might actually find someone attractive? He has emailed me this afternoon asking if I want to meet again. I really don't know what to say. I hate being on my own, but don't want to see someone just because they are available Sad

Blossomflowers · 18/06/2014 17:10

Well wish me luck ,have a date tonight, was supposed to see him on Saturday but was sabbotaged by XP. Have done quite a few dates but still get nervous, would a summer dress be inappropriate, was going wear jean but tis warm out there.

Minime85 · 18/06/2014 17:32

Bigbird I'd go, got nothing to lose and if you had a nice chat before might be worth another go.

Good luck blossom have a great night.

I've got 3rd date tonight with pof. He is picking me up which will be weird. And really liking the fact he wants to be seen in public with me as last bloke I saw wanted to stay in all the time. Wondering if will see people out I know as no one other than immediate friends, people don't know I'm dating or even that ex and I split as we've tried to keep it low key for dcs.

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