Dating thread 76

[LoisPuddingLane]

As we were saying...

Can I ask Forum...why did your ex get in touch? Mine did cos he felt 'guilty' about dumping me

Jarlin yes they do have same insecurities as us, it's just they don't sit and over analyse it like we do

Thanks ladies I think I may just go, unless he's an axe murderer I've got nothing to lose

On paper he ticks a lot of boxes. He made me chuckle even though I wasn't in the mood, divorced so not a complete commitment phobe, he's late 30's (I'm mid 40's) and he's a Dr (pics of him in work situ as well as the normal ones) and he's keen to meet.

My exbf got in touch as I have something that belonged to him but I think the both of us can't let go tbh

Jarlin you are so right it's really hard to give someone a chance when you have such strong feelings for someone else and we were very close and it's hard to imagine being like that again

Yep know the feeling about can't let go Forum. I think my ex don't want to be with me but don't want me to be with anyone else

Just can't even kiss anyone else which doesn't bode well for dating

Hello all. I am back into dating and am completely rubbish at it. I'm trying online dating and had a real life one too. I have made a few friends but only felt that spark with one and am unsure he feels the same. Was it always this complicated?

I think for me the other head fuck is that things were going really good for us before he went off. He was never one for massive displays of emotion and he sent an email that was so heartfelt and genuine and a few weeks later it was like he ran off scared. I even said I think he's scared to be happy. This is what is really fuckin my head up still. Why would you give up something that made you happy and said you loved (and he still says that he feels like that) when you don't have to? ??

Argghhh my head hurts as well as my heart

Hello all,

Following this thread for a long time but just lurking so far. Been OLD for the last year and I don't know what I would have done without reading and learning from all of you!

So, quick question.... how many dates in total have you all been? Been separated for just over a year and have been on 20 dates (yes, I do keep track.... sad I know.....) and starting to wonder how many dates actually dating being a numbers game means ? Haven't had any horrible dates, quite the opposite but starting to wonder when that special someone will finally turn up!

Help! I need advice on OLD and my friends don't really 'get it' because they're all happily in established couples so hoping from some sensible advice on here from those who know....I have been chatting to a guy online who was very keen and enthusiastic from the beginning - lots of compliments, not just about looks but about my sense of humour etc. He said things like 'we have to meet' from the beginning. Anyway, I was a bit 'cool' at first as not sure if I was interested but he was so friendly and funny I became very interested in meeting him to see if we 'click'....He now appears to me to be playing games but I'm not absolutely sure. He has asked several times if we can meet so i said that yes, I'm free this weekend (said that this morning though I had already said I'd be up for meeting for a coffee), when would be best for him if he's free? He has just carried on sending jokey emails saying things like 'the whole weekend' etc. I then replied that I really need to plan so if he does want to meet can he let me know today as I need to organise the weekend (I know this sounds pushy but this was after several 'I can't wait to meet you, I'm excited' from him emails!!) He has come back AGAIN with a jokey email but no actual suggestion as to when over the weekend. I just don't get it. I'm not desperate and without wanting to sound full of myself I have been asked on quite a lot of dates and had a lot of interest but because he has seemed so, so keen and kept saying he really wants to meet, etc, I am bemused by him. Is this a standard 'type' in the OLD world? Shall I just back off now and ignore him?

Yes. Same advice I gave to Bigbird. Tell him to let you know when he's thought of a place, time and day. Then back off and leave him to it.

Had a lush lunch date with pof date today. Oh gosh I could fall for him.

Hey all, just wanted to pop in and say I have date number 3 with my POF bloke tonight... it's been a week since the last one and we have been texting a lot, kind of nervous now though.... worried we've almost been texting too much and things will be different face to face. Ah well it's all fun and he is very lovely and I will hopefully get another snog

Thanks jarlin, no 2nd. 3rd tomorrow evening.

Neil gives good advice, I know I sound like a broken record on this but it's true.

I know - it is good advice (I replied this morning to say, 'great, just let me know today as need to sort out diary' to which he then sent another jokey but very complimentary email. I just don't understand why he is doing it...presumably game-playing but I couldn't be arsed or wouldn't want to play with someone like that.

Knitted I'd stick to that if you can and if he asks why you've gone all quiet I'd say and be straight to the point. It sounds like you've been open enough about meeting each other. Move onto the next one

Knitted I'd leave it now and not reply, its all game playing on his part. Is he married? I wouldn't waste my time keep chatting, especially if he's not willing to make plans to meet up. Whats the point, unless you wanted a penpal? Everyone can make time if they are that bothered.

Yes, agree forumdonkey - he just came back and suggested coffee on Sunday. Now I might sound like a princess but I feel like he's arranged another date for saturday and slotted me in on Sunday. I'm thinking of saying i'm busy on sunday now. Just feel a bit crap about being fitted in when he was supposed to be dying to meet me!!

Knitted, as I understand it the first meeting isn't a proper date, they happen after work, lunchtimes etc. I would go and check him out!

Alien, to answer you, I've just had dates with the first date I met with from old. Currently on date number 14 with him. I'm new at old though.

alien when I did OLD back in 2007/8 I had 10 dates and my 10th date was the guy I've just spent 6 years with - he's now my ex.

This time I've been on 5 dates over about a 2 month period but my head isn't in the right place and my heart is still bruised. No doubt I shall probably go back to it but I'd love to meet someone normally! Don't know how though!!

Anybody used Zoosk?

Match is rubbish, POF is ok but it's the same faces. Tinder seems to be better in larger populated areas.

I don't want to pay for a site!

Zoosk u have to pay to view their answer I think