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LoisPuddingLane · 11/06/2014 10:57

As we were saying...

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whitedoorbell · 29/06/2014 23:29

neiljames77 yr jokes are shite!!!

Minime85 · 29/06/2014 23:32

Very funny neiljames. your advice is a damn sight better than your jokes Grin

whitedoorbell · 29/06/2014 23:35

minime that was harsh... now don't upset him..
We wouldn't be without our token men now would we ladies Wink

neiljames77 · 29/06/2014 23:38
Grin
neiljames77 · 29/06/2014 23:43

There's only so many puns you can make about a milkman.........................you lot are so uncrateful.

ok, I'll stop now. Smile

Bigbird01 · 29/06/2014 23:50

Actually, that last one did make me laugh!

I'd better stop encouraging him, the rest of you have had yoghurts full of these puns... Blush

avianaz · 30/06/2014 01:07

I'm buying a phone tomorrow - have been too hungover to check my brothers phone to look at texts.

I wonder if tallhairygraveyardman, lets just call him, has arranged a second date and is being accidentally ignored. :O He probably thinks that I think he's served his purpose!

Well I move in to my new flat in a week or two, oh!:
you go to your dates flat for a bottle of wine or 3 and there's a high number of rats and a free flighted birds and a large snake - your thoughts? Crazy side-ways bird freak, or; endearing, eccentric and lovable?
:')

neiljames77 · 30/06/2014 01:18

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Minime85 · 30/06/2014 06:04

Oh no don't get me wrong I think neiljames is brilliant! His advice is always spot on I almost sound stalkerish Shock as I'm always saying that

Blakey3166 · 30/06/2014 06:33

Minime- it's so true about dating.
I last dated in my teens ,where nearly all young men are attractive, like you I'm now surrounded by , I dunno the polite way of putting it!!!
Am trying not to be a grump- I guess like folk said, I'll just use it as experience to build up my confidence in acting normally in the "real" world!
That conservatory idea is looking fab, same again, I can't bake but I can drink lol lol

FolkGirl · 30/06/2014 07:05

Blakey when I did OD, I met some pretty attractive men, tbh. I was on Match. There were only 2 who I didn't find physically attractive - but it didn't matter. One had a great personality but he had AS (not an issue as such...) and custody battles with his ex (definitely an issue). Given that I wasn't looking for a LTR at that time, he didn't really meet my needs.

The other was a sexist arse who put his education level as "school of life" so I should have known better really...

All the others were, I thought, attractive, but I suppose it depends on your taste. None of them were gorgeous.

Except for my boyfriend Wink

But it did definitely help me flex my dating muscles, as it were. I hadn't 'dated' since my teens either. And not even then, really...

gigglygirlygirl · 30/06/2014 07:12

Milly It wasn't a witty profile at all if anything it was boring especially compared to the others on there. It was honest though! I don't think that people always pay attention to preferences or even what you write in your profile.

I liked POF ..... it was free which was a good start! Grin Got loads of messages from younger and older (but not my own age for some reason) which ranged from one word to an essay.

Before This thread is a bit of a life saver for the insecure!

What age range is everyone looking at? I was wondering if most look for older or younger than they are.

FolkGirl · 30/06/2014 07:27

I'm 39. I looked for 37 to 45.

Although I dated someone who was 35 for a few weeks and my boyfriend is 46.

I see the ages as a bit of a 'ball park' figure, although, ideally, I wouldn't date anyone more than a year or two younger than me.

FolkGirl · 30/06/2014 07:28

I don't think I'd have gone older than 50... But it would have depended on the man, I suppose!

Minime85 · 30/06/2014 09:18

I out my age range as 30-45 . First bloke I saw was 30 and although it was fine whilst it lasted he was too young. I was such a different person at 30 than I am now. Mr pof is 41 which seems good as in same sort of places in our lives.

Like others I've never really dated til now! In fact before my adventurer into OLD I'd only been in relationships with people I'd known most of my life so far or from school. My ex I knew at school and we got together when I was 22 and were together for 13 years. So this adult dating stuff is all so new to me! Whilst it's great fun whilst it's going great the insecurities and gaps in seeing each other with kids and work thrown in the mix make it so much harder work. My friends in rl love hearing about my dating but I just want to be them; in secure and happy relationships. Hmm

dontcallmehon22 · 30/06/2014 10:25

I would actually love a dating thread meet up. I have an image in my head of what everyone looks like.

white good to see you. I lost your number when my phone died!

I'm 33 till Thursday (!) and I like 35 to 39. My favourite age is 38. I'll consider 32 to 41.

jesy · 30/06/2014 10:28

Weekend was great fun
Little bit more than mates as he did keep checking I was ok but I was fine spent most of coach trip chatting to my first ever bf best mate
Bit of a gossip feast and adopted by a sweet girl who helped me redo make up ect for trip to pub x
I'm totally over him I know it sounds daft but we had such a good time as mates sex ect would spoil it
Met his mum by accident she was on trip to she sed he a fool to let me go but I said yep but never mind

Morning all xxx

dontcallmehon22 · 30/06/2014 10:31

I have a photo of Geeky, Folk so if we had a meet up everyone could stick pins in it Wink
Joke of course. I have no animosity towards him. Off on a Buddhist free from worry workshop soon, so I feel very Zen.

Canihaveonemoreslice · 30/06/2014 16:50

Millymollie, I'm inexperienced at old. I only joined in April. I was really disappointed with it all. All the nice ones didn't message me so all the messages I had were from 45yr old truck drivers or men who I didn't find attractive. I'm not sure why as on tinder all the men I liked, liked me back( didn't get a date from it though) however there was one on pof who seemed attractive and normal and we got chatting. We've been dating now for 10 weeks. He was my only date though.

Canihaveonemoreslice · 30/06/2014 17:04

My night away with mr nice went well :) we got on well and had a lovely time. Lots of walking, people watching, holding hands and kissing. I think it made me change my view about him and I feel more for him now than I did.
I think he's very keen on me as he was saying where we should go away to next and how much he enjoyed the weekend etc.

I'm still not 100% sure there's a long term relationship there though. If I had a tick list of what I wanted in a man, even though he has most of the things, I like a man who makes me laugh and makes me be daring and brings me out of my shell. Whereas he is like me. Very quiet and sensible and doesn't really make me giggle or crack many jokes etc.
My ex was always the life of a party and i used to enjoy being with him as he was funny, outgoing and we had a laugh together. So I don't know if mr nice is a grower or if he's missing something that's important to me.

Arghhhh why is this so difficult. Be honest Am I over analysing it again?

Minime85 · 30/06/2014 17:59

Canihave sounds good if you're going away and spending quality time together. I think you possibly are over analysing it but it's so hard not to.

BeforeAndAfter · 30/06/2014 18:14

My age range is 45-55; I'm 48. At the tender age of 45 when XH launched me out into the big wide world on my own I snaffled a 38 year old for a while. His kids were both under 5 and I didn't want to go through the growing up phase so he was just an FB, which worked perfectly for both of us.

I have form for the older man though. XH was 14 years older than me and the latest ex-boyfriend was 12 years older than me but I really thought he was about 51/52 when I met him.

So many of the men on any of the dating sites I've looked at clearly lie about their age. There are so many '51 year olds' that are obviously over 60...

gigglygirlygirl · 30/06/2014 18:18

I'm 27 and the men that messaged me were either around 21 (eeek!) or 38 to 41. My BF is right at the top of the POF age limit. I didn't really have an age in mind but don't think I would have been interested in someone more than a year or so younger than me.

I don't think I got a message from anyone my age!

BeforeAndAfter · 30/06/2014 18:23

CanIhave humour and banter is one thing I can't do without so I don't think you're over-analysing if that aspect is important to you. That said I think there's a huge difference between a bloke that makes you laugh and one who is the life and soul of the party.

Minime85 · 30/06/2014 18:34

How do you stop yourself being paranoid that they are still on dating sites when you've agreed you are both going to come off them? I'm driving myself mad