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LoisPuddingLane · 11/06/2014 10:57

As we were saying...

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knittedknickers · 27/06/2014 17:42

That's lovely news, Folk, good on you.

BeforeAndAfter · 27/06/2014 17:44

Folk

You are so loveable and loved! Grin Grin Grin

FolkGirl · 27/06/2014 18:02
Grin

I don't think anyone's ever loved me "sincerely and very deeply" before (well I know they haven't).

I kinda like it...

louby44 · 27/06/2014 18:33

Folk that's so good to hear! Am so happy for you!!

dippinmytoe · 27/06/2014 18:51

Great news folk really delighted for you.

FolkGirl · 27/06/2014 18:56

Can't quite get my head round it, to be honest.

After all these months of seeming quite reserved, he appears to have broken the flood gates now. He's just lovely Smile

louby44 · 27/06/2014 19:04

Joined OkCupid and 2 guys messaged me. I reply. But then....nothing????

I just can't see the point????

What is wrong with these guys?

dontcallmehon22 · 27/06/2014 19:20

That's wonderful folk!! So delighted for you.

dontcallmehon22 · 27/06/2014 19:21

I never got on with okcupid.

TalisaMaegyr · 27/06/2014 20:14

Ooh I loved OKCupid, it was my favourite one! I met DP on PoF, mind Grin

louby44 · 27/06/2014 20:30

They are all rubbish, well its the men that are rubbish not the sites!!

Canihaveonemoreslice · 27/06/2014 21:55

Folk, yeah. What a lovely thing for him to say. Hope you believe you are loveable now.

Well he finally booked to go away so tomorrow afternoon were off to to a b&b for the night and a wander around et. Hope it goes ok. I hate staying away from home esp with a relative stranger so I'm half dreading it. However it will give us longer in each other's company to get to know each other better, plus hot sex ! I'm still undecided on what I really think. although he is a wonderful person I'm not sure is there's enough chemistry for me :( I'm hoping the weekend changes my mind.

brita1979 · 27/06/2014 22:13

Hi all. Long time lurker here.
After reading all yr adventures I decided to give tinder a go and started chatting to this guy on there. I will call him milky as he is a milkman!

So me and milky been chatting for about 2 weeks and I asked if we could meet up for a coffee which we did last week. I thought we got on great but wasn't aure what he thought. We provisionally agreed to meet tomorrow night but he seems to have cooled off and when I asked about times etc he said he might not be able to make it. I was pretty confused tbh.
Then randomly tonight he text me saying can we meet Sunday? ???
Would u meet him? My mate says he isn't that bothered and I should move on?

All new to this OLD so what is thr routine ladies?

Doughnut123 · 27/06/2014 23:38

Thanks for your opinion neiljames77. He's not being stalker like. He has to walk past my house on his way to and from work. I really look forward to seeing him and hope, each time, that something exciting will happen! Pathetic, I know. I saw him today, from my car. I waved. Probably a bit too much! I'm so not good at playing it cool. But he waved back and we both smiled at each other. I will try to resist hurling one of the cats into the path of a car, so that I can justify another appointment with him!

And Neil, bellies are fine, it's the beer gut that is gross. Don't starve yourself.
I completely agree with you knitted knickers, on the subject of chubby ness. I'd rather have a man a bit well covered, than boney and puney. For me, humour is SO important. You could look like The Elephant Man, but if you can make me laugh a lot, on a daily basis and don't take yourself too seriously, you're George Clooney.
Made man , I agree with you, people from the caring professions are more likely to touch their patients/ clients, to reassure them. I used to be a nurse myself, so I know how important a compassionate attitude is.
However, I have been using the same veterinary surgery for years and this is the first time that I have experienced a male vet touching me in a non accidental way. He is quite new to the surgery. And you're spot on -he lives in the cul de sac at the end of my road!
Folk, I'm so happy for you. Your man sounds lovely. Good luck when you go out with the children

knittedknickers · 27/06/2014 23:50

Yep, Doughnut - I agree, if a man makes me laugh I'm all his. I say he fancies you. There's professional touchy-feely charm and there's 'I like you but can't really just ask you out because I'm the vet caring for your cat' touching. Keep pruning those begonias.

Jesy, hope you have a good day tomorrow, feel comfortable and really enjoy it.

CanIhave, glad he's now booked the weekend and this is going to be the opportunity to find out if there's chemistry if ever there was one. Have a great time.

brita I think it's really really hard to tell what's going on with OLD - men seem to behave totally differently somehow. I probably would go for the second date if I fancied him enough but agree it's annoying that he seemed to cool off. I'm not the best at understanding men these days so wait til someone more OLD-savvy comes along to give you advice as well!

Bigbird01 · 28/06/2014 00:19

Folk So pleased for you - that is great news!! GrinGrin

I've just got back from a date. He was nice - we talked for well over three hours and the conversation only paused a couple of times. Yet again, I didn't "fancy" him, though. However, given the advice I've had on this thread previously, I did decide not to rule him out just yet.

So, by the time I got home I had a lovely text saying what a nice evening he had and that he'd really like to see me again. I replied (a little less gushy - didn't want to lead him on) to say I had enjoyed myself too and think it would be nice to see him again. Before we left, he had asked what my plans for the weekend were. I said I was planning a quiet day smooching around shops tomorrow as kids were with their dad. He's just texted me back asking if I'd like him to join me. Now I don't know what to do. I don't want to give the wrong signals and make out I'm really keen, when I'm not sure just yet, but likewise I don't want to just say no thanks and end up pushing him away.

avianaz · 28/06/2014 02:11

Got back from my date on thursday there.

I vaguely recognized him so that made me notice him, then his general maturity charmed me. I cant explain!

We met at half six, i was an hour and a half late, vintage avian, but he didn't mind. (We were meeting at a bar, i assumed he was with friends)

He showed off so much playing pool lol, a bit of chemistry as we walked by each other, when he introduced me to his friends I could tell he enjoyed being seen with me. :) i love being showed off :) ex dp hadn't made me feel like that in. Long time and in fact seemed to discourage my having confidence.

He spent a ridiculous amount of money, I was very spoiled, i just feel really guilty now. :( But Ill take him out sometime!

We were standing at a bus stop waiting for a taxi when he kissed me. He's a good kisser.

A lot of chemistry by this point, we went back to the original bar because i got (i was wasted beyond belief at this stage Blush bored of his friends, wanted to listen to rock and dance or something. My face was pretty much connected to his and... Well I'm very embarrassed looking back! A lot of groping etc... I cried over ex dp after a while, broke my shoe so I had to walk funny, a bouncer decided i was too drunk as a result when i walked past him and i called him a paedofile, so I'm apparently barred for life. Lol

We went to a hotel, at it until the early hours. I fell asleep and it was the same on waking up... Over and over, rare to get a fella like that! I like it, makes me feel sexy and irresistible. :D ex dp used to be the same and I felt so inadequate when the sex dried up, so it was very welcome.

After that, I got a taxi straight home. No breakfast, none of that! I tentatively told him while waiting on said taxi that I felt like a prostitute, but he didn't get the hint lol and he had to "get his shit together" anyway.

I think I did everything you aren't meant to do on a first (or any) date but I had a blast!! :D I like him!! I await his asking for a second.

Minime85 · 28/06/2014 07:46

Bigbird go with your gut. If u don't want to see him again today I'd just make a reason as to why u want to go alone. I'd see him again if you aren't sure. Especially if he seemed nice. Some of them are growers!

Avian wow what a night! How you feeling today?

Minime85 · 28/06/2014 07:49

Brita I'd probably go for a second date. He may be shy or busy or a twat but I think you need to meet more than once to get more of an idea which way it could be going. And like knitted said especially if you liked him. I'd poss mention it casually if you did meet up about why change of days but I guess be prepared he could well say he was on another date

Wishyouwould · 28/06/2014 10:29

*Justvqc

Wishyouwould · 28/06/2014 10:31

Just a quick question ladies

Noticed friend of STBXH on match. Can I block him so he can't see me without going into his profile? Haven't added profile photo yet. Thank you!

avianaz · 28/06/2014 10:40

Minime - I'm still hungover. :')

brita1979 · 28/06/2014 12:47

Thanks girls.

Isn't there a guy on here... wonder what he thinks... bit desperate not to make a fool if myself

neiljames77 · 28/06/2014 13:11

brita1979 - If you mean me, I'd say meet him. If he wasn't interested, he wouldn't have suggested meeting up at all. He'd have probably just said something like, "I'll try and sort something out and let you know"
Be prepared for the possibility that he may be dating other women if he's a seasoned OD-er. (it seems to be the norm for od)
You won't be making a fool of yourself if you just text back, "Yeah, ok. What time?"

brita1979 · 28/06/2014 13:58

Thanks neil. Wish it was more straightforward. Seems a veritable nightmare