Dating thread 76

[LoisPuddingLane]

As we were saying...

Knitted, if you're in Leeds, the men are hot. Sadly, I am not in Leeds.

Hi everyone, I'm finding the whole internet dating thing a bit of a drag. You talk to someone by email, you get on, you meet them-no spark.
I think I'm going to give it a rest for a while.
However, I have fallen deeply in lust with someone and would like to hear your views on what to do.
He's my vet-I have quite a few pets, so a trip to the vet is a fairly regular occurrence. The vet surgery is just around the corner from my house and he lives very close to where I do, so he passes my house on his way to and from work.
Anyway, a couple of days ago I had to see him with my dog. When I was in the consultation room, (trying not to drool on the floor, as he's so gorgeous!)-he touched my hand-not by accident. I was holding my dog and he reached out and touched me very lightly with his finger tips.
We talked about my dog's problem-an on going one and he gave me his opinion-that we should not treat him with any medication at the moment, but speak to a specialist. I agreed with him. He was very passionate in what he said-that if the specialist could offer no solution, then he would find someone else, as he has contact with lots of vets.
He then talked about the cost of the treatment-my dog has already cost me a lot. He advised that if the fees were too high for me, when seeing the specialist, I could try crying!
He refused to charge me for the consultation and as I left the room, he touched my shoulder lightly-I was wearing a vest top.
He is bloody gorgeous and I think he was flirting with me a little bit, but I'm not good at reading the signs sometimes!
Anyway, when I saw him, he had a beard - not something I 've seen him with before. Then, the next day I was gardening and I heard a hello-it was him! He came over and talked to me over the gate-asked me if I'd talked to the specialist. He was completely clean shaven and delicious!
We talked for a few minutes, no touching this time, but he leaned on the gate.
He is the most divine man I've ever met! How often do you feel this attracted to someone? But I don't know if I should do anything. I'm not a natural flirt and quite shy. Also, I'm probably about 10 years older than him, though friends say that I look a lot younger.
I'd really like your opinion. Do you think he likes me?

I'd keep chatting donut and see what feeling you get. It doesn't happen very often, that little frisson.

Doughnut123 - Well I'm shit at reading signs too but he's making it pretty obvious.

I'd do a lot of gardening .

Oh and steelchic just seen your post - lucky escape indeed!

Hello All, just thought I'd give you all an update and a big thank you for your advice. I bit the bullet and met 'Dr' and whoa I wasn't expecting the night I had. We met early evening and was kicked out of the pub at closing time, much to our dismay. He is funny and interesting without being arrogant or full of his own self importance. Far more attractive than all his photos and also younger than me

Everyone who knows me, is very surprised at my reaction because I tend to be very cynical and have never fall for anyone easily.

We are meeting again in a few days and both of us are really looking forward to it. We are both very surprised, pleasantly, just how well we have clicked.

Very early days yet and taking it nice and slow, but at the moment I am definitley a very smiley lady

I'm not sure pinklaydee but my friend is psychic and thinks I'll end up with a member of her family, so her family barbecue could be the place!

oh forum donkey, how lovely! I've had that feeling twice on a date. That's what I want!

Before ugggghhh I hate the stout bellies too, they look pregnant yuk!

No, I can't go near a man with a belly.

Ooh Mr Sensible may have a slightly wild side after all. He's looking forward to his work bbq where he'll have a few drinks and a go on the bucking bronco. I'll turn him yet...

Thanks everyone. I'll keep gardening and chatting
Can I just ask, are you male or female , Neil James 77 ?

thanks don't I've never been like this with anyone and the feeling is mutual. I'm too long in the tooth and have a very happy life that I will get completely carried away with it all but there's definitely 'something'. And I wasn't expecting that

I nearly didn't go it was all you lot that gave me the loving kick up the arse to do it. so god bless all you lovely MNers for your advice and support

Male.

47

Slight belly

About to start a starvation diet!!

Slight belly is fine, Neil -it's the big beer bellies that look pregnant I don't like.

Well I have date 2 tonight :-).. very excited !! Very hungover as had a party last night as my divorce was finalised :-) :-)

Good luck Dippin

Yes I agree with Don't a slight beer belly fine, we all have those it's those big round ones....Bernard manning style ewwwww

Doughnut The light touching could just be a reassurance thing rather than him flirting with you. Vets, a bit like doctors and nurses will likely have a caring, compassionate nature and will probably be more genuinely concerned for their patients well being.

I'm no expert, but I always assume first that people in these type of job positions are just being friendly; doctors, vets, waitresses, shop owners, trades people, are all generally just friendly.

MadeMan - He'll know her address from being a customer. He just happened to be passing her house, out and about, having a little stroll.........."oh fancy seeing you here"

.......haha!!! I'm crap at reading stuff but I'm not naive.

(actually Doughnut, it's a bit stalkerish if true!!!)

If you are insecure does your boyfriend / partner know?

I can be a bit insecure but haven't really mentioned it to my boyfriend. I don't want him to think he has to reassure me. Part of it is that he doesn't really talk about feelings / plans - he is more about actions. He knows I am not really really confident but not some of my crazier insecurity issues.

Mine did, giggly but he's not my boyfriend anymore, so that shows what I know!

Chatting to Redhead on POF. Starting to find red hair quite appealing. I call it the Ed Sheeran effect.

Neil She said the vet man lives nearby to her, so he probably lives about two doors down at the bottom end of the cul-de-sac and has to pass by her front door on his way to get a copy of Vets Weekly from the newsagents. Now, if he was deliberately avoiding passing by her house (jumping neighbour's hedges/fences) I'd think that was more of a sign. I'm also crap at signal reading so this is just my theory.

Ha ha, Neiljames only real men have a slight belly.

"I call it the Ed Sheeran effect."

The first Ed Sheeran video I saw was Lego House and initially I thought, "He looks a bit like that guy in Harry Potter".

Oh I've a thing for Ron weasley too, mademan

Hi all

I haven't been on here too much of late - very busy in the real world at the moment!

Anyway, I had a reasonably candid chat with my boyfriend last night and I'm stunned.

As I've said before, one of the things that attracted me to him was the fact that neither of us was looking for The One, or to fall in love, or for a long term relationship etc.

I've really struggled with how I've felt about it all. I didn't believe I could be loved; I was uncertain about him/his feelings/his motives; I really struggled with the long distance element of it, including the fact we only see each other alternate weekends due to my children... It's not been easy, but I've stuck it out and I've changed so much in the past 8 months, I don't think I could quite explain it.

I really couldn't have got through it without the support on this thread.

So anyway, the upshot of this conversation was that he was struggling as much as I was for similar reasons. And all the times I was worried about lack of contact etc, it was because he was trying not to fall for me, as much as I was trying not to fall for him.

He told me about things he's thought and felt at different stages along the way, so it must be true; he wouldn't have remembered otherwise!

He said that seeing me alternate weekends just isn't enough for him anymore and that he loves me "sincerely and very deeply". He wants us to have a serious talk about how we're going to move our relationship forward.

He said he wants to have a future with me.

I am stunned! We've made a tentative arrangement to go out for the day with my children in a couple of weeks time... We'll have seen each other, and talked before then, so I'll have a better idea then.

Folk that's great. I'm really pleased for you