Dating thread 76

[LoisPuddingLane]

As we were saying...

Hi guys, I am just popping back. I've been on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. It's taken till now to get over geeky. I've ended up in a sort of FWB situ with Toryboy who I'd been on a few dates with. My behaviour has been erratic and I was deliberately flirtatious with every man I saw on my last date with Toryboy. I think I distrust all men and don't care about upsetting them in any way. I know that's all shades of fucked up.

Still having counselling. I'm working hard, I've got a new job. Deep down I want to fall in love again if I ever gain the ability to trust again.

I wondered where u'd gone Dontcallme I'm hormonalhell had a name change. Hope your Ok now and I know how you feel, I just know I won't find anyone I like as much as my ex

Knitted- sorry if I missed it but how was coffee yesterday? Just looked back through thread and couldn't see an update. Hope it was better than you thought.

Avian yeah! Yes to a dress if you want to. Not a dress kinda girl so I wore jeans first date but wear what you are comfortable in.

Hi pinklaydee, will have to get used to your New name. It's hard, isn't it? I don't feel anything for geeky now, but I haven't felt that strongly for anyone since.

Well that's good that you don't feel anything for him.

Getting on well with a tall postman! First date Friday

Hi ya,
Am lol ing at the belly pic- your right- can't imagine any woman doing that!! But maybe he thinks it's his worst feature so by showing you early it kinda gets it out the way? Or is that just my weird thinking?
Old is weird because it's dating in reverse- you get to find everything out and then actually meet- whereupon he normally looks like shrek!!
I'm being brave and having fish an chips by the sea with "mr nice guy" whose not great looking but he's good to chat to- and stayed consistent even with me trying to give him brush off.
I'm the same in that I don't want to call it a "2nd date" in case he gets wrong idea- which I told him.
I'm quite happy to make a new friend with similar tastes/personality and see where it leads.
Am totally freaked out by the idea of kissing or cuddling anyone- is this a confidence thing do you think?

I must be getting better had crap day at work , was scratched and I mean to point she drew blood by the kid I look after , I hate to say it but I don't think it's just normal tantrums there is something going on any way that up set me plus scratched my car and struggled to eat but after coming home in years again
My ex ( not me it ) texted and I told him to F off I will not be his toy
Kinda proud of myself x

Hi Mini, thanks, it went well in that we had a good laugh and he seems like a really nice guy. Met at Warrington M&S and embarrassingly he tried to kiss me in the middle of the shop when we said bye. I did an awkward move and he kissed me just below the eye! Anyway, after all my self-obsessed ramblings and feelings of inadequacy, I fancied him less than he fancied me - he was totally full-on. There again, he was back on Match this morning and started accusing me of being 'cool' with him for not putting kisses at the end of my emails......! So basically I'm still confused - he'd asked to see me again tomorrow but seems to have gone off me again. God, I just feel this is all so complicated. I just want a nice, easy, fun date. Maybe I'm very weird.

Long time lurker here.

I often read on here about people concerned about the man they're about to go on a date with is still on POF or wherever. And I think, but why shouldn't he - you don't know each other each etc.

But now here I am feeling slightly miffed that the guy I'm having a second date later this week is online. But the ridiculous thing is I am too, and I've got a date with another guy the day before I see him.

So why am I put out to see him online? Anyone else have these ridiculous feelings in this situation?

Sorry you had a crappy day jesy (are you able to talk to the parents re: behaviour at all?)
But well done for saying that to your ex!! You go girl x

Dont So pleased to hear you're over Geeky!!!

And don't worry about not feeling that much for anyone since, it's early days and it would be more worrying if you could just transfer those intense feelings from one person to another, really. You're over him. That's great, so you know you can feel like that, and you will do again x

Create.....I think it's just human nature that we want the men to be thinking of us and no-one else if we like them. Things like that just don't bother me anymore....but I probably not that bothered about anyone

Thanks Folk. I hope I experience those feelings again one day. But he is not the right one.

Re-read some old messages. I was so innocent. It's a world away.

How are things, Folk?

Postman sounds promising, pinklaydee.

Knitted glad your date went well. Do you think you will see him again?

I'm supposed to be going away with mr nice on Saturday but not sure if it will eventually happen. We had arranged it for a few weeks ago but his ex used all the money from their acc so he couldn't afford it until pay day. He didn't mention anything about going away since then, so I mentioned it Sunday as I need to make arrangements for dc. He said he would book somewhere this week. Not sure if he will end up doing so though. I'm not too bothered if we go or not but wish if he wasn't going to sort it out he just hadnt mention it in the first place.

Don't call, reading old messages always makes me feel funny. It's like reading your teenage diaries and wondering why you were worrying about the things you were. I sometimes come on here and read my archived messages from when I was pregnant on dd ten yrs ago :)

Wicked

They know she playing up she was a right mare to her mum last night.
I'd not planned to start looking for a new job for at least three months but I refuse to be bitten and scratched by her , sounds awful but yesterday I'd have sent her to her room with out pudding after scratching me x
She seems to think just smiling at me will make me give in
Anyway sorry not place to discuss this I have tried on site but kind of got critized saying my training should teach me what to do x

No date news the one guy still chasing me but I'm insure about getting involved with him
Spoke to mr it last night all rather cheeky fun bit I know it's nothing but it passed a few hours

jesy, don't you think he's leading you on a bit?

No it's innocent enoughx
We are mates that's all
He being kind even saying he should come in to my appoinent at hospital saying he know I won't be honest with them x
That's what mates do

I guess if you know the score its fine, jesy. I missed what happened with you and Mr IT.

I've lost my innocence a little I guess. I was ready to fall in love with Geeky and now I'm not.

Toryboy has made me feel a bit weird actually. Not in a good way either.

I'm mentally and physically exhausted. The counselling is helping a little.

He said I could so better.
Weeks ago but he turned out to be very supportive and caring x
I looked at pics of his ex stupid I know but I did any wY she was beautiful but moved on very fast married n preg months of leaving

Him tbh after I heard him talking I'm not sure he got over her totally
But yes I think I'll always have a feeling for him
Even at week end a friend of his asked u to together I was like no just mates must admit did look a bit dodgy he was holding my hand to help me up a hill

What are your health issues jesy, if you don't mind me asking?

Developed a heart murmur or well it only just been picked up

Developed a heart murmur or well it only just been picked up

Ah, right. Hope it gets sorted out soon.