Dating thread 76

[LoisPuddingLane]

As we were saying...

Crickey minime85 There is no way I could cook for anyone. I'm a rubbish cook normally let alone when I'm trying to impress.
Hope it all goes well tomorrow. Whats he like/do?

OD - he just sent me a pic of his belly, I feel a bit repulsed.
Have been chatting for 4 days, good banter, about to organise a date now this..........blokes are so weird

Oh good lord - but why? Was it a nice/toned belly? Was it a joke?

Precisely my thoughts - good lord why!? No it was belly overhanging legs (rude parts tucked under) to prove he had eaten a lot of strawberries today. I exclaimed 'dude! Why the nakedness!?' Pic was totally out of context to conversation.
Thank god I didn't waste money on a babysitter.

Delphine OMG, you said 'belly'. That can't be good. Can't believe knitted had to ask if it was toned!

I love him and nowt going to stop that but he turned out to be a good friend.
Tbh he been supportive and kind I'd rather have that than a bf who basically don't give a fk about me x

Think it was a misplaced joke!? I'm not easily offended and love a joke it was just all a bit bleeeeuuuuurrrg

Guys aren't familiar with the fact that we expect perfect bodies. Imagine a woman sending an unsolicited pic of her flabby belly. Just wouldn't happen.
(I'm being sarcastic).

Not to you...just annoyed that only women 'know' that we should be ashamed of our flabby bits.

Ask him if his gym membership expired.

Wow. Maybe he doesn't care? Maybe he was hoping you weren't shallow?

I don't mind people being flabby just think it was inappropriate to send a naked pic in the midst of a convo about cooking!

Was it naked though? Or just shirtless? If it was naked, I can see your point!

I was being more prudish than shallow. I would've felt the same if it was a toned belly.

Totes naked belly, naked legs dangling out, genitals tucked under

That is gross....Ewwww

I'm sorry, but an unsolicited pic of a flabby male belly would not be welcome here. I must be shallow .

On reflection, a toned one wouldn't elicit the 'ewww' response. Am I shallow? I don't know...humans weren't designed to be flabby so...

And as I said, a female wouldn't 'dare' to do it.

Oh my gosh I've missed a lot! Pic sounds awful and very random. Are u still chatting to him?

No, I don't think I'm being shallow either...I think it's odd to send a photo of just your belly (unless it's in the context of an in joke) and i asked if it was toned because I was thinking maybe he's particularly proud of it. Genitals tucked under, etc - I'd be very put off by that!!! And agree with Mychild..I wouldn't want to frighten anyone with a pic of my dimply thighs....

Haha no I'm not still chatting to him, I have deleted my tinder account for a while. I think I'm happier single!

I'm shallow and looks matter to me, Not perfection but I want someone who's features are attractive to me. For me it doesn't matter how nice a personality they have if I don't think they are good looking then I know it wouldn't last.
Unless I really really liked him I would have to say it would be a turn off for me. It may have been different if you had already met up and knew each other better and so he felt comfortable doing that but before the date it just seems an odd thing to have done. Even if he had an amazing body it would still be odd to do.

I wouldn't mind a bit of belly, kind of like it. Only if it's hairy though!
Never thought I would until I met ex dp. His weight then became one of the most attractive things to me! Am I strange? lol

But a strange man sending you pics like is a bit ehh. When you don't know someone, a lot can put you off physically as you don't have a lot else to go by.

A bit humorous to me as I think we're all familiar with those muscular torso pictures. :') (I think they look like melted plastic or something)

Well looks like I have a "date" on Thursday - terrified of calling it that I hope he knows that it's not... I don't know, relationship initiation. I'm sure he is on the same page.
Although I do very much get on with him! He wants it to be his treat, maybe a drink in the sun if it's sunny, then a bar we both know, then a posher bar.
I've never been to a cocktail bar. :o Usually I just smuggle a bottle of cheap wine in to my regular haunts and have a few shots of jager to start off the night. :$ Do I have to wear a dress?? aaaa!

My point was - it wasn't about the pic being inappropriate (which it was, btw!) , but about his weight and size of the poor bloke's belly. Someone even said to ask him whether his gym membership had expired Would love to see the reaction had that been one of the ladies here if she sent a pic to someone. Just strikes me as a bit off, that's all.

Aye. Well I guess people can have their own philosophy in how they react to things, but it's okay to me if they are consistent with it, i.e. fair to both sexes in this case.