Dating thread 76

[LoisPuddingLane]

As we were saying...

I always noticed the smell thing. Really liked my ex's.

Can anyone respond to my newbie OLD question about 10 up. I'm confident meeting people in a work context but am quite nervous about beginning OLD.

Dolly I've not done Eharmony so not really sure what you mean. I just message people I like the look if. Just a paragraph and if they respond great

Kissing in McDonalds car park :-) sounds like fun!

Just looked at eHarmony not looked before... Can't find anywhere on their site how much it costs which is v irritating.....

DollyRocker1 - Go into it with a completely open mind. Expect the worst but hope for the best. If someone has sent you more than 10 messages and not even mentioned meeting up, they probably just like stringing people along.
Don't pay too much attention to profile pics. Sometimes they are not recent ones. Try and look in the background of the pic for a clue. If it's indoors, look for things like a Betamax video recorder or if it's outside, look for a Hillman Avenger.
User names can often be misleading too. (like people putting things like 77 at the end of their name when really, they were born in 67)

I used E Harmony found it total rubbish, too long winded and people I was matched with were just of no interest.
So went on date last night, he was really nice and we had a nice time, good laugh easy talking, except he is a manic cyclist and very skinny, I find this off putting. He def wants to meet again. Not sure am I being shallow and the skinny thing.

Hi, Blossom, no harm in meeting up again he may grow on you. My ex ( of 2 weeks today :( ) was also very skinny, I'm not big (size 12) but I did feel like a heffer next to him. At first I wasn't that attracted to him because he was skinny but he grew on me it was his personality that did it for me and I soon fancied him.
Thinking about my ex, as I said we spit up 2 weeks ago after an old flame got back in touch with him. He was honest with me about it all and wants us to remain friends, I want this too as I feel like I've known him for years and I'm really fond of him. He texted me a few days after we split up but I haven't heard anything since then. Has anyone had experience of this. I would love to text him just to say hi but I'm not sure if it's too soon, I was hoping he'd text me. Then part of me thinks the keeping in touch bit was just BS on his part. But another part of me knows he has deep feelings for me and he's not a game player, he had the balls to be straight and end our relationship before he started on with his old flame. I just miss our texts :(

Thanks steel i know what you mean, I am also size 12 and feel huge. He is really nice so maybe give it a little chance. How long were you with your X? living tog?

Yeah I would go for it if I were you, it's probably better too skinny than big beer belly at least he must be health conscious. I met my ex OL end of last year, but very slow start. We didn't see much of each other due to work commitments on his part. I suppose our relationship was more FWB and I always new it would end but I also knew early on that I wanted him as friend, he was my first date after I split up with my H ( Ex H set up new life with OW but didn't have the balls to tell me, I found out by accident) he has helped me move on, he was actually here having lunch the day my divorce was finalised. It was a day I was dreading but because I had him with me I was fine and I haven't really looked back. Because we didn't see much of each other I don't actually miss being with him that much, but we texted each other most days and it's that I miss. I know I should leave it to him after all it was his decision but I'm very impatient. X

steel if you are happy with FWB fine but reading between the lines you now want more he so does he but with someone else. Time to get out there and find someone new. If he gets in touch you can decide if you want to continue

Hello ladies, I am very new to OLD, joined match on Monday. Have been emailing a few men who have got in contact with me, winked etc. 1 in particular we got on very well and seemed to have a bit of banter and on same wavelength. He suggested meeting up on Saturday for a walk in a public place, gave me his number and we chatted for 20 mins last night and never once ran out of things to say which I take to be a good sign. He has been on there 6 months and says I am first person to contact him, not sure why as his profile is not weird or anything. Just wanted to ask, with regards to the other men what is the etiquette, do I keep emailing them pending meeting this man, and if so, will he see if he is logged on that I am on there and know what I am doing? especially since we are now texting each other rather than mesaaging through match? v excited about meeting him but also aware that we may not be attracted to each other upon meeting despite getting on. any other help realting to OLD would be appreciated too as have not had a date in over 10 years and normally meet people through work :)

I know you're right Blossom, I need to move on but my hearts not in it just now. I was fine with the FWB but I wouldn't go there now as he has met someone else. I would like us just to be friends but I know it's best to have a bit of NC till my feelings fade. I just bloody miss him my heart skips when my phone bleeps :(

Yes I know the feeling Steelchic about the phone thing. I did the stupid thing and messaged my ex yesterday but he was very cold and suggested 'I move on cos he has' to be honest though it was the kick up the jacksy I needed cos he clearly didn't feel like I did and so now I just feel like my feelings are dwindling at a fast rate now. I'm glad he was off with me cos it's given me the courage to put him in the past where he belongs

Blossom my ex was skinny too with a bald head but although was not my type I steadily started to find him attractive.

Text this morning
Your still very welcome to the BBQ at the weekend but I'll understand if u don't want to
Bring someone with you if you'd prefer but my mates have been asking about you and I know you bought a top to wear lol
Kelly says u can crash at hers if you wanted a cheeky glass of wine or four xx

Tjat was off mr it today
We getting on well as mates so that is nice I still care about him but the being besotted has faded lol

Pink, it's funny how attraction grows, after my first date with ex I thought lovely guy, get on great but not attractive to me, but a few date in and I started to fancy him, and the fact he was a great kisser helped lol. I think he was physically attracted to me from the beginning and then our friendship grew. So we came from opposite ends .
I know if I texted he'd be friendly he really is a lovely guy and he was upset at the thought of upsetting me. I will leave it and hopefully when we do eventually get in touch, I'll be stronger and over him and then we can move on as friends as it is just now I think it would just give me false hope. I'd just like to know that he's missing me a tiny bit :(

Jesy - Ffs, don't go to that bbq!!!!!

Hi dolly. I'd ask others in rl about match it doesn't tend to go down well on here. I've found pof better and it's free do might be worth starting there.

Yeah if you like the look of a profile send a message. I never know what to put in first message though! I think you can tell after first few messages if you are on same wavelength and it's worth carrying on chatting got not.

Good luck

blossom I met a skinny guy back in March. He was tall too (big thumbs up for me) but my hips were wider than his. I'm slim, but a size 14 and I just couldn't get over the fact that he was so slim. He was a nice guy too and well up for a relationship. He also lived an hour away, which is another factor

neil so is that you then, 77 on your username! but really it should be 67

So is POF the only FREE site??

Minime85 well done on the date, sounds like you had fun. Are you seeing him again?

Send the skinny guys my way please!

Neil I did think you were 37 cos of your user name.

I think pof might be the only free one. Match is frustrating.

I been chatting to a bloke not even for a week now but sometimes he a bit pushy to meet and I'm not ready yet should I be concerned
I don't know of to give him benifit of doubt or run a mile

Blossom, I agree with the others. go for another date. Mr nice is a very skinny cyclist which is definitely not my type, but after a few dates I got used to how he looked and now don't notice it so much. I think it's just because they're physically different to what your used to.

Dolly. Welcome to old. Don't worry that he may know your online. Let's face it if he can see your online then it means so is he! You would continue to chat to others and have a few dates until you know that you've found one you would like to continue going on dates with so generally after date number three with the same person. At that point then it would be expected that you stop chatting to others.

Louby, okcupid is free as well.

Jesy if you feel uncomfortable then run. Esp if you've told him this.

He just seems over keen