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Had a row with friend, she thinks I am being tight and pathetic advice please

202 replies

bouncy · 02/09/2006 20:53

Firstly I would like to add that what I love about mumsnet is that advice is usually given as it is, and people are not always told what they want to hear, bearing that in mind I would like honest advice please.

I have had a row is a good friend of 5 years, she does not agree that my ds 7 has chores, and gets pocket money for doing so, all he has to do is keep his room tidy, and clean out his hamster hardly a lot, she thinks that children should be children and not have to do anything.

today she came round with her 2 kids ds aged 6 and dd 4, her kids have no value of money whatsoever, always getting toys willy nilly, always going to clubs, 3 each a week, always trips to theme parks etc etc, but what annoys me most is that they will ask for something, take a bite then say I want that instead, and my friend lets them have it, imho they are spoilt and its hard for me to admit that out of all my friends kids, I like them the least.

Anyway they came today and stayed for lunch, they both asked for a sandwich, i made it, they took the usual one bite of sandwich and said, nah I actually fancy and roll instead, I made them a roll, only for them to do the same again and ask for some pizza, at this point I said no sorry I have already made you X and X, at which point my friend said, why dont you give them a piece of pizza, I told her I already made them the other things as she well knew, she then said she always fed my son when he goes round (yes she does, but he eats what he is given and never changes his mind) and that I am just being tight, and its very pathetic of me to not give them some food, she made it sounds as though I was refusing her kids any food.

I just feel so annoyed with her, she left shortly afterwards to take them to Mcdonalds.

I am so proud of ds as he is a lovely polite boy, who saves for things he wants, his face when he actually buys something he has been saving for, he respects his toys and looks after them.

she is a good friend and i see her mainly when the kids are at school, we have very different opinions on parenting, I like time out and she goes for the wait till your dad gets home approach.

Anyway just needed a rant really as just got a text asking if I am ready to apologise yet !!!!!

OP posts:
Greensleeves · 03/09/2006 16:58

Hide in her hedge until she comes home from work and then pelt her with croissants

1Baby1Bump · 03/09/2006 16:59

what a case.
thats all i can say!
and this woman has children? shocking!

Greensleeves · 03/09/2006 16:59

....and send her envelopes by post with ryvitas and cream crackers in them...a different one every day

Twiglett · 03/09/2006 17:02

TAKE THAT!!!!

Socci · 03/09/2006 17:04

Message withdrawn

aDAdOnMumsnet · 03/09/2006 17:04

Maybe you could spell out "SOD OFF" on her front lawn using slices of bread, rolls and mini-pizzas, and perhaps a note saying "see, I CAN find enough money if it's for a good cause".

WelshBoris · 03/09/2006 17:04

I totally agree with everyone else

But... the reason there is a consensus is because the mums on here who agree KingsmillASBOQueen are too afraid to post!

Twiglett · 03/09/2006 17:05

but don't forget copious exclamation marks

!!!!!!!!

PMSL

mousiemousie · 03/09/2006 17:05

Bouncy you are SO in the right.

Post this through her door as others have so brilliantly suggested and the next move is hers.

SherlockLGJ · 03/09/2006 17:06

Toast it first.

Then post it back in her letterbox with a note, saying not only do I not need it, I can afford the electricity to toast it.

Socci · 03/09/2006 17:08

Message withdrawn

WelshBoris · 03/09/2006 17:16

oh come on Socci, dont be a killjoy

Think up some pastry related revenge

SherlockLGJ · 03/09/2006 17:16

There is always one. {eye rolling emoticon needed here}

Socci · 03/09/2006 17:18

Message withdrawn

catsmother · 03/09/2006 17:23

Right I'm getting into the swing of this now.

Welsh Boris said: "Think up some pastry related revenge" (brilliant term)

How about, 'cos this all happened over a pizza (ostensibly), you take a trip to Pizza Hut's back door and gather up all the minging leftovers from their bin.

Leave THAT on her doorstep with a note:

"See, I can afford pizza after all. Enjoy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

SherlockLGJ · 03/09/2006 17:23

Socci

How do you survive on here without gettting humour, serious question by the way.

Socci · 03/09/2006 17:26

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SherlockLGJ · 03/09/2006 17:28

Pizza for Mrs Mannerless

Blandmum · 03/09/2006 17:30

Paint the letters that make up 'fuck off, cow!' onto 10 buns (12 if you want to punctuate). Put them in a box with a note saying' Re-arrange into a well known phrase or saying'

SherlockLGJ · 03/09/2006 17:31

Oh you wanted pizza ? You can have pizza if you eat all of it, deal ?

Blandmum · 03/09/2006 17:32

is this your 'friend'?

SherlockLGJ · 03/09/2006 17:33

MB that is just boak,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Blandmum · 03/09/2006 17:35

A minor talent, in finding such stuff, but one I am proud of!

Spagblog · 03/09/2006 17:36

LOL!

Your friend is a rude and childish person and you are well rid of her.
I bet you'll not miss her kids either!

drosophila · 03/09/2006 17:47

It is about your friendship not really about how spoilt the kids are. I like to think DS and DD are not spoilt and know the value of money but if I had a friend who I truly loved then I would probably ignore the bad behaviour of her kids.

Thing is I would find it hard to love a friend who had such different views to me on how to bring up kids IYKWIM.