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Is it possible to just know someone is "the one" almost immediately?

99 replies

NataliePortman · 16/05/2014 19:33

I have just started seeing someone and after the first date I felt like when I looked at his face I just knew it was going to be the face I looked at every day forever.

I'm just wondering if anyone has experienced a feeling like that and if it turned out to be true?

I have to say everything is going very well, and I think he has had the same thunderbolt. It doesn't appear to be purely physical because he's been working away a few weeks now and we talk every day for hours and we just "get on".

I'm not a teenager, I'm a grown woman of 35 who's been around and while I have had butterflies and electricity and all those sorts of feelings before a few times; with this man, I am having this very strange feeling.

When I look at his face, it just feels like home. Like I just know and was wondering if anyone has ever had that before. It's so strange and I wondered if I am being silly or if this sort of thing is sometimes real.

OP posts:
toldmywrath · 16/05/2014 20:44

Yes-we knew straight away. Some thought it wouldn't last, 30years later still together Smile
Go for it OP- 'tis better to have loved & lost (hopefully not in your case) than to never have loved at all as someone once said .

foxinorangesocks · 16/05/2014 20:46

Happened to me. On our first date I felt the coming home thing. By date two I knew it was for keeps. I drove to my parents and we cracked open the champagne that I'd finally met a lovely person. Sounds bizarre when I write it but it's how it was! We got married 18 months later and six years later I'm as happy with him as I was that first day. If things feel easy, without games and founded on friendship (and shag happiness!) then go with it. Partly I knew because it was such a stark contrast from the hard work, mean, jealous, moody etc relationships I'd had before. Enjoy this part op, it is so lovely. Not sure if you've seen Amelie, but it's like that bit at the end when they ride that bike together. I'm such a sop.

Original poster
NataliePortman · 16/05/2014 20:50

I'm becoming a complete sop too. I like it though!

He keeps texting me to say he's deleted 20 texts because he was coming across over-keen :)

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beccajoh · 16/05/2014 20:51

I knew pretty quickly I'd end up with DH. I was only 24 at the time. I don't think age has a huge amount to do with it... I'm 34 now.

spiffysquiffyspiggy · 16/05/2014 20:53

Not at first sight but first kiss. Works night out, he kissed me and my first thought was "I am never going to kiss another man". Went back to his that night and only returned to my flat to pack things up. 11 years and 3 children and we are still very, very happy.

ManWithNoName · 16/05/2014 20:58

curiousuze - "Yes. I didn't tell him though, he'd have thought I was nuts."

Oh yes absolutely. You must NOT tell the other person that after 5 minutes of meeting them you know you are going to marry them and spend the rest of your life with them.

Oh no indeed. I spent the next two years 'not telling DW' but spending every day with her as we were at uni, in the same college doing the same subject. We walked to lectures together, we walked home together, went around together.

DW had no idea. Then her mother told her look there is this man and I think he really likes you.

Apparently DW said "who is that then?" Hmm

PoloMintCity · 16/05/2014 21:02

Yep! Set eyes on now DH and immediately thought 'I'm going to marry him!' - 12 years later we're married with one DC and another on the way! Smile

trixymalixy · 16/05/2014 21:06

Yes. Ours was an eyes meeting across a dance floor moment. It was like a thunderbolt. Then we lost sight of each other. He sought me out and 18 years later were still together.

Original poster
NataliePortman · 16/05/2014 21:25

Lovely stories!

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Hedgehead · 16/05/2014 21:43

My DH felt this about me when we first met. His words were "It is inevitable."

I have massive trust issues due to a narc abusive mother, so my thoughts are often clouded by questioning myself and not trusting my own feelings. So I found it harder to "let myself go" into the whirlwind of idealism.

But I am happy! Smile

MissPennySweet · 16/05/2014 21:44

I knew. I didn't know he'd turn out to be a cheating shit.

Blithereens · 16/05/2014 21:46

I knew with DH almost immediately. We like to say love at first sight, but it was probably more like love at second date. Pretty damn quick though. We said 'I love you' within three weeks. Been together nearly nine years now and love him more every day.

showtunesgirl · 16/05/2014 21:54

Yes. I started seeing DH and within six days I love yous were declared but I knew it from the off. 15 years now!

Jengnr · 16/05/2014 22:02

My husband says he fell in love with me on our first date. It was fairly soon after for me and I moved in after three months. Been together nearly five years and married just over two and very happy.

Handywoman · 16/05/2014 22:09

Absolutely. Totally happened to me. Little did I know that once children came along he would never step up to the role of being a dad and turn into an angry, abusive, miserable arse hole. I think the shock and confusion helped keep me there for ten years after dc1 was born. Left him almost a year ago. I am now absolutely petrified of letting myself have another relationship. I got it so badly 'wrong'.

Not such a happy story! Sad

findingmymarbles · 16/05/2014 22:44

I met someone fairly recently, having been Facebook friends for a work related reason for nearly five years. He'd been asking me out sporadically throughout, but I'd either been in a relationship or busy, or just not interested.

About ten minutes in to our first date I had the overwhelming feeling of, "oh, THERE you are, where've you been?" Never had it before, things are going well. Time will tell.

imgonnapay · 16/05/2014 22:48

Handywoman
I know how you feel.

goldenlilliesdaffodillies · 16/05/2014 22:54

Yes and 18 years later with 2 children we are still married.

AliceInGallifrey · 16/05/2014 22:55

The moment I met dh I knew he was the one I'd marry. I've been around the block - so had he , but the second I met him I knew he was the one.

I never wanted to settle down and marry until that moment. We where married within a year of meeting. Married three years now and 2dc.

We don't argue we just have a whole secret never spoken about agreement , we are totally in sync and it 110% works for us (other people don't get it but for us it's perfect )

L238 · 16/05/2014 23:04

So glad to read so many lovely stories.

Been seeing a wonderful guy for about 8 weeks now, knew from 3 dates in that he was different and special. The "oh, THERE you are" that someone else wrote definitely describes it well. Realised I was in love with him after about 5 weeks but didn't want to say anything as thought it was too early. He told me he loved me the next day. Of course, there are no guarantees, but this feels different, and just right. Never felt like this about someone so fast. After years of emotionally unavailable men it's so lovely to be with someone who wants to make me happy (and tells me so in words and actions all the time). Still very early days but heartened by other posts on here

cosmicboy · 17/05/2014 00:17

I spotted my now dp across a crowded room and I felt like I'd been winded, totally blown away. I was married at the time, mostly happily so and how this stranger made me feel terrified me Sad We have been together for 6 years now and although everyday life gets in the way I still feel the same. Disclaimer, in case anyone is interested, we didn't get together until after my marriage was over, not in anyway!

wickedwitchofwaterloo · 17/05/2014 00:21

I just knew my DP was going to be a significant part of my life the second I laid eyes on him. It wasn't a case of fireworks or butterflies, just a sense that I'd found the missing piece of my puzzle. On our first date he said talking to me was like 'talking into a mirror' and its so true, we just make sense, I can't even explain why. We just do, but that's the beauty of it.

It's been under a year, but I honestly can't imagine a life without him, he's made me a better person and I get a bit giddy when I'm about to see him or when I wake up next him Smile

somedizzywhore1804 · 17/05/2014 00:32

Yes. It was like meeting a member of my family that I didn't know yet. Married two years, together five. Meeting him was like coming home and we were both taken aback at that feeling at first as it wasn't awkward or hard work, it's always just been easy. We were living together within three months despite not being impulsive people in general.

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 17/05/2014 00:37

Yes, I think so. When me and DH met it was like we were together from the first day we met Smile

annetteo · 17/05/2014 00:51

I was 39 when I met DH. Both of us expats living in NYC. As I walked away from our first date, I thought "Finally, I'm going to be a Mum". Within weeks he was promoted and needed to relocate to London - when he asked me to come to, I didn't even need to think about it. I knew from the first time I seen him that we would be spending our lives together, before we even spoke. It wasn't so much a feeling of coming home more the end of a lifelong search for my true OH. We're nearing our sixth wedding anniversary, we have two DDs and I feel truly blessed every day that I never gave up looking for my soul mate. Sorry to be so cheesy!

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