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DH said no more tattoos

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ICanSeeTheSun · 15/05/2014 22:52

My vision is to turn my back into a canvas, I believe tattoo are art, so far I have 4 on my back.

I love them and it is a part of me.

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MultipleMama · 16/05/2014 22:27

And just to add I went to public school but came from a wealthy family. I have friends who took drugs, who drink and smoke. DH came from a taditional home and he went to private school and fell in with a rough crowd but still went to university. Neither of us do drugs, smoke or drink (we're SXE). We're very secure people in ourself and rather spend money on tattoos than smokes & drink. What I'm saying is yes, you grew up associating tattoos etc with that a certain lifestyle but please don't lump us all in the same catagory. wow I can't spell today!

MrsWolowitz · 16/05/2014 22:40

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gh35 · 16/05/2014 22:55

I have bored even myself talking about tattoos, so lets bring this to an end.

I take back all I have said. Hopefully all will be happy.. a name change is probably in order so that I don't get the "anti tat" label for the rest of my mumsnet forum life (which it seems, some people hope it is short)

MultipleMama · 16/05/2014 23:02

You don't have to name change. I think you just kept digging a hole! Grin

Anyway...

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QuintessentiallyQS · 16/05/2014 23:16

NoArmaniNoPunani - At 70, you will look like you need ironing. Sorry.

sarinka · 16/05/2014 23:24

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livingzuid · 16/05/2014 23:24

OP I guess your DH has always known you like tattoos? So this should come as no surprise that you want more done? I think it is a bit different then because he knows this is something you want and like - it's not been sprung on him.

A pp asked about the difference between cosmetic surgery and tattoos. For me, tattoos are nothing to do with my appearance or how I want to come across to the external world, whereas in most cases cosmetic surgery is done because someone is unhappy with their appearance in one way or another. The exception, of course, is when it is done for medical reasons.

I could be wrong on the cosmetic surgery stuff and there are some who get a tattoo because they want to look cool or whatever to a random group of people, but personally that's not me. I'd never get a tattoo because of the way I look and although there's a couple of cosmetic procedures that would be nice (sorting out post pregnancy areas!) I don't think I'd ever have it done. Certainly a no to fake boobs.

Eekaman · 17/05/2014 03:49

And you really MUST get your little angels names and dates of birth tattooed on you in a nice flowing script, or maybe a dramatic gothic font.

Because you might one day forget their birthdays and instead of looking it up on the birth certificate, why, just a quick glance at your arm will provide the answer.

It is so chavvy.

But then again, even footballers are backing away from sleeves these days. :)

Mckayz · 17/05/2014 05:25

Eekaman, I'm not sure what footballers have to do with anything. I don't get my tattoos because footballers have them.

Neither is it 'chavvy' to have tattoos.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 17/05/2014 05:45

NoArmaniNoPunani - At 70, you will look like you need ironing. Sorry.

Not sure why you singled me out there to say that. I've got a life limiting condition so probably won't make it that far.

Lweji · 17/05/2014 06:59

I don't have tattoos. I don't think I'll ever have any. I don't particularly like to see large sections of skin with tattoos, but I understand that some people like them and will fight for their right to have them.

The same goes for anything else that doesn't harm or negatively affects other people.

Lweji · 17/05/2014 07:02

Intolerance and prejudice look worse on people than tattoos. And it can harm other people.

doziedoozie · 17/05/2014 07:18

Surely David Beckham lead the craze.

It was popular in California and he copied it. (Footballer link)

doziedoozie · 17/05/2014 07:25

D Beckham's first tattoo was in 1999 according to google so that may be pretty much the start of the craze, except for Californians.

FindoGask · 17/05/2014 07:26

sarinka - gh35 didn't get a hard time either because he said he hated tattoos, or because he wouldn't want his wife to get any. He got a hard time because of the generalisations he made about tattooed people.

I can see the usual tropes are being wheeled out now about chavs and footballers. Lweji nails it (thank you, Lweji)- she doesn't like tattoos, and she definitely wouldn't like mine, but because she appreciates that not everyone does, or should, think like her, she's made her opinion clear without being a giant bellend about it.

FindoGask · 17/05/2014 07:29

dozie unless there's some evidence you know about that I don't, I think you'll find that people were getting tattooed some 4000 years before Beckham thought of it.

www.smithsonianmag.com/ist/?next=/smart-news/mummy-found-angel-tattoo-180950311/

FindoGask · 17/05/2014 07:29

But I doubt you'll let little things like "facts" trouble you overmuch.

Mckayz · 17/05/2014 08:04

My mums first tattoo was in 1983. Long before David Beckham so again I don't see the connection with footballers.

livingzuid · 17/05/2014 08:23

well said lewj and findo. Some of the sweeping generalisations on here make me feel like I'm speaking to my mother who, when I explained the logic behind the rather rude expression of 'tramp stamp' did a wonderful impression of my grandmother who was one of the most racist and bigoted people I know. There is no explaining the joy of diversity to some people, her included. I took an admittedly rather childish delight in showing the two on my back to her as all she had just spouted about tattoos and class and drug taking and all that other bullshit was patently wrong.

We are all different. Some like tattoos, some don't. There's no need to put people down just because they have done something you personally wouldn't do.

*I'd leave my much-loved husband for the same- or for piercings, or a hair transplant, etc.

Any of those things would be a huge turn-off, rendering him in my eyes unshaggable, which would spell doom and disaster for the marriage.*

Because I fell in love and married the man for who he is on the inside, not for what he looks like on the outside.

QuintessentiallyQS · 17/05/2014 08:40

NoArmaniNoPunani - At 70, you will look like you need ironing. Sorry.

And you replied:
Not sure why you singled me out there to say that. I've got a life limiting condition so probably won't make it that far.

  • Because you were the one who posted a picture of an elderly lady, saying you wished to look like her at 70, but she looked like she had clothes tattooed on! So, naturally, if you tattoo your clothes on aged 30 or 40, you will look like you need ironing at 70, it is only natural to get wrinkles, or put on weight, or whatever.

Your response threw me, as I thought it was obvious that my comment was made humorously, so I scrolled back to her, and I realize her suit jacket is not tattoed on, there is a collar!

DownstairsMixUp · 17/05/2014 08:45

Sorry didn't mean to be harsh and regret posting the above, but I'm more interested in in how people are inside rather than superficial looks. But you'd leave your wife if she got tattoos? Aaaalllrightyy then.

Did you start your 'tattoo journey' when you were 16 while in a drug den while people where shooting heroin? Or was this much later on in life when you just felt you needed to be different? (like every other tatted people out there! erm no. I went to a very good primary catholic and catholic secondary school, went on to university and am settled at 26 with my partner and son and another on the way in a house in a naice area near the beach. That ok for you?

It is so chavvy. Anyone who uses this phrase to describe a choice someone makes to their OWN body loses IQ points straight away, but then, that's just my opinion eh? I don't think I know anybody with their child's date of birth tattooed on them in "gothic flowing font" and I know heavily tattooed people. Hmm Infact, going by the MN stereotype of "chav" on here, it seems tribal style arm tattoos are the thing.

quint because you'll look fabulous at 70 yeah?

sarinka I feel sad for your husband.

Isn't it funny how it's the majority of the judgemental attitudes on this thread are from the non-tattooed? Imo, that's the sort of person I wouldn't want to employ over somebody who does what they like regardless of what ignorant people think.

Lweji · 17/05/2014 08:46

The good old humorous personal put down comment that hurts other people, but it was just a joke, lighten up.

I don't think the woman in the photo looks like she needs ironing. Why should the pp?

DownstairsMixUp · 17/05/2014 08:51

Sorry I knew Quint was being light hearted but to me, noone really looks fabulous at 70, Dp's Grandad has tattoos wayy back from when he was in the war and he looks no different to me than any other 70 year old! Just with faded tattoos. I don't expect I'll look good at 70, I'll just be glad if I'm alive and chances are I probably won't anyway as I have health issues!

eddielizzard · 17/05/2014 08:58

well if he hasn't noticed the 2 new ones, keep going!

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