DH said no more tattoos

[ICanSeeTheSun]

My vision is to turn my back into a canvas, I believe tattoo are art, so far I have 4 on my back.

I love them and it is a part of me.

@ gh35

Were you chased by a giant tattoo as a child?

Or perhaps spent much of your youth with your face pressed gloomily against the bedroom window, mournfully watching the cool kids ride their bikes, drink their lurid squash and get LOADS OF TATTOOS?

You hate tattoos. They get it. No, it doesn't help, as you are clearly rather unhinged on the subject.

I've got my whole back and most of my legs tattooed. DH has no tattoos but doesn't try to restrict what I want to do.

I'm glad so many are so hooked on this pointless addiction... I've always thought that it's what's in the mind what is beautiful not the skin..

I think it's time to start my own business and make some cash...

www.astanzalaser.com/practitioners/entrepreneurs-and-tattoo-removal/

Good to know so many people put their partners first rather than themselves....

My DH loves my tattoos and actively encourages me to get more. So I am not putting myself first at all.

@BrunoBrookesDinedAlone

I'm sorry to say that tattoos remind me of poverty. When I grew up it was the cool kinds that got tattoos where I grew up for now are unemployed or work in factories. Also reminds me of people who smoke.. but lets not go there as I'm sure this will also outrage people from 'god' (although I'm more of a "science" person rather than believing in some fictional being)

The less so cool kids that went to university and got careers. Yes I know you'll slate me for being a snob or the like, but the fact of life is that in the work place you will not see a single senior member of staff with a tattoo.

How do you know that gh35? Have you got xray vision? I know loads of people with tattoos that are senior members of staff.

gh35 - I run my own business and have a tattoo. Should I sack myself because of it?

OP - fair enough, it's you're body etc. But if your husband finds them unattractive you will need to accept he might not fancy you as much. Depends what's more important to you really.

I'm a senior member of staff (dentist) I definitely don't smoke.

in the work place you will not see a single senior member of staff with a tattoo.

I hope not. They usually wear trousers and shirts.

But it depends on the business. I'm sure the senior member of staff at a tattoo parlour does have lots of tattoos.

My dh is MD of a massive international company.

He wears a suit and everything.

And he manages to do so with his tattoos. Imagine that!

All this "won't let me" business pisses me right off!

He can't stop you.

That said, that doesn't mean you shouldn't listen to his opinions on it.

Dh would like more. At the moment there are other priorities for our spare cash. So he won't just yet. Maybe for his birthday.

FWIW I don't have one and wouldn't particularly want one but I don't mind dh having them!

My DP has quite a few tattoos. I think one of the first things I said to him, before I knew (all his can be covered with tshirt and shorts), was "I can't stand tattoos"... then he took his shirt off...

I've learned to live with them, and now really like some of them. He wants a few more, and we talk about it together. I would never say "Don't", in the same way that I'd expect him to treat me with that mutual respect, but I might say "I'm not keen on that image" or "I'd rather you had that smaller/somewhere else". We work it out together. In the same way that when I get my hair cut, I ask his opinion. Not because he needs to dictate what i look like, but because I love him and want him to like my hairstyle.

The "don't" in the OP's situation would rile me more than anything else. It implies no room for discussion, and I don't think that's particularly on.

He wears a suit and everything. And he manages to do so with his tattoos. Imagine that!

I hope you meant in relation to managing to me and MD while having tattoos.

I meant that if a person is fully clothed we often won't see their tattoos.
(just making sure it was fully explained)

Ha Lweji yes I meant he manages to manage(?!)

Aw man, now I have a headache!

"In the future everyone will know your true age because you have tattoos. They will become unfashionable, as everything comes and goes or runs in cycles, and all those 30 somethings will look weird at 70 when young people are tattoo free."

Who the fuck cares if people can guess your age to within a ten year range? They'll be able to do it anyway by looking at your face (unless you have amazing surgery) and really, what difference does it make? Why should we be worried about people knowing what age we are? I really dont get this logic at all.

My Mum is a MD and 99% of the time she has at least one of her tattoos on show.

I mean it is a lifestyle choice if one person chooses to do it and the partner can't stand it. Not really compatible life choices. If that makes sense. For some who choose to live a certain way as well, and I mean hair, clothes, piercings etc it is definitely a statement on how someone chooses to live.

I have two tattoos. I'd have a load more if I could afford it. So would Dh. Just because people only have one or two doesn't mean they want more, there just may be other reasons why they haven't had them done as of yet. It's not all about huge back pieces or sleeves. If I could dye my hair pink and emulate a punk rock look every day, I would love that but that would probably be a step too far! Maybe one day...

gh35 judgemental much? Snob springs to mind as well.

I'm a senior manager and I don't smoke. I have a masters degree and come from a firmly middle class background. I love my tattoos. I love my dh's tattoos. He has his own business and is studying for a degree. Dislike tattoos, that's your perogative, but don't put your prejudices onto the whole tattooed population.

Academia is full of people with pink hair and tattoos.

Ok, not full, but nobody bats an eyelid.

Funnily enough I know people who are actual lifesavers who have tattoos AND qualifications!! Fancy that...
DH doesn't much like tattoos in all honesty but would never tell me not to have one. When I do get mine he's made a request that it doesn't have dates or names on, but it was just that, a request.
Fortunately I know what I want and he's happy enough to help me find the actual artwork to show the tattooist and to ask friends for recommendations.
If he tolde not to have one I'd be straight round to the nearest one in all honesty!

Urgh pregnancy fingers and brain equals zero articulation

..doesn't mean they don't want more....

lewj I have considered a career change to academia - in my field certainly no one would care

lol Lweji you don't know my MSc supervisor do you?! You have described them to a 'T'.

I'm with your husband. They're awful and they look awful in the main. ' common ' as my mother used to say.

I speak as someone who has a couple. Done when I was young and stupid. They're just so naff now - don't do it kids

He finds them unattractive, and thinks they look awful.

Not sure on what to have, but once I have it in my head I will get my friend to draw it for me.

He is generally a fantastic husband, it's just thing he disagrees with.

He wouldn't stop me, but I would put him into consideration before deciding.