Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

And me! Go with it, it's exciting!

um, yes! He sounds like he's being cool/coy/funny, but I wouldn't meet anyone who's name I didn't know! I had a rule of always telling someone (best mate) where I was going and the pof username of who I was meeting, personally I think it's weird, also, very soon, he wanted to meet tonight/tomorrow!? Maybe I'm just a bit slow, I plan these things waaay in advance :-) Maybe justtell him you don't want to meet a stranger? so come on, what's your name?

Chick But he's not going to be any less of a stranger just because she knows his name

He is a stranger!!

true! oh sod it! If he's going to text you his name do it, if he's a nutter you can always run away!

Good Luck! - Dont forget the loo update! now I actually know what that means :-)

Thanks ladies! Think this is just that first date (in every way) hurdle that I need to try and get over!
Don't know why I'm scared of it being awful or weird. I am enjoying the fun chat, but I don't think he's the sort of guy I would go for. Maybe I'm scared of rejection?

BigBird I only went out with men I wouldn't normally have gone for. I had a very narrow 'type' before: tall, skinny, very pale, blue eyes; dark hair; quiet; somewhat socially awkward... In fact, think Sheldon Cooper and you have my type!

I didn't date a single man with that when I was OD and my boyfriend doesn't tick any of those boxes, except for the dark hair and he doesn't even have the 'right' sort of dark hair...

I decided to avoid my type completely after I went on a couple of dates with a really good looking, well educated, well travelled, stylish Indian man. I learnt so much in just one date about myself that I decided I had to step completely outside of my box and change all of my previous expectations. It was the best thing I could have done!

Thanks folk. Good advice. Although I don't really know what my 'type' is at the moment! The one person I've been truly, heart-achingly attracted to since I split up with my ex was so not what I thought my type was it took me completely by surprise!
I will try and meet Mr incognito tomorrow and see how it goes!!

Go for it big bird havea bt of exutemen in your life I'm sure you will be ok

I think it's just a case of being open to being attracted to anyone.

I know that I wouldn't have been attracted to my boyfriend if I'd seen him around before I'd started OD.

Not because he's unattractive by any means, but because he's so far out of my 'comfort zone' that I wouldn't even have seen him!

I think you should definitely go and meet him

Go for it big bird have a bit of excitement in your life I'm sure you will be ok

You right folk it good to get out of your comfort zone

Good luck tomorrow CHICK I'll be away for a few days but will check in on Monday. Good luck to everyone with dates this weekend x

Oh and just a quick update, I did speak with my boyfriend about my upcoming weekend away...

He said that he wasn't jealous because he wasn't thinking about it like that. He knows that I'm not going there to flirt with other men and he trusts that I wouldn't do anything anyway.

He just wants me to have a good time and enjoy myself.

Do you know what? It feels really good to know that he trusts me.

Fucking Hell!!!

Well done Folk it does sound like you are able to have some very grown-up conversation with your BF!
Good luck tomorrow chick - hope you get the result you want.

Going to try and swing work tomorrow so that I can take the plunge!!

I hope it goes well BIGBIRD !

Good luck bigbird :-)

How fabulous folk yay!! :-)

That's great folk. Really good.

Good luck bigbird :)

I'm not sure he a player or not but even his house mate says I've lasted longer than others.
I'm not bothered about anyone else this is fun he more affectionate than anyone I've ever seen I've seen ppl in hospital and you can't fake concern .
And he was even to point of saying is she really ok to go plus he gave up his training for me that day.
My ex wouldn't have lol
Like people said I hardly texted him n this am I had 4 texts asking was I ok call if I needed anything x

Oh !!

Not even a loo update. Sent a text this morning saying I was able to meet and asking where. He replied with "how about my place?".

I sent back a message to say I'd prefer a coffee shop, but if this wasn't what he was thinking then never mind. Not heard anything since so I guess that's that

Oh No! Did he even tell you his name...? What a tosser.. :-(

Yes, he did. Just before the bit about going to his.
I've read back through the conversation we had - I'm pretty sure there wasn't any indication that I was looking for a quick shag (unless I am REALLY naive) so a little surprised. Especially as both my and his profiles state 'looking for a relationship'.

Oh well, on the plus side I've been having a really lovely conversation with another guy (let's call him Mr Beardy) but despite talking about nights out and the success (or lack of it) we have had so far, he hasn't asked me for a date yet and I'm not sure how he'd react if I asked him... Might just pluck up the courage to ask him anyway and see what happens - don't want to chat much more with him to find out we don't click when we do meet!

Hi,

big bird, thats a shame, im sure there wasnt anything you missed. itll e just him.

I'm chatting to a few men on line. Getting to the stage of meeting one of them. I've spoken to him twice, he's already mentioned sex. That's not good is it? He seems ok otherwise. I don't know what to think.

rummi - I suppose what context he mentioned sex in...?

Think I'm getting a bit into Mr Beardy. I felt quite comfortable telling him about today's experience - and his reaction was reassuringly sorry without being over the top. Still haven't plucked up the courage to ask if we can meet though! We are both off out with friends tonight so have agreed to chat and catch up tomorrow - will try and raise the subject then, I think!

It just came out randomly I think, big bird.

Just ask him, I did today about exchanging numbers. And it was appreciated. Nothing to lose.

I think Friday night might be a dodgy night to be on line. Some of the messages are off the wall!