Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

Text this am
Do you fancy me making tea tonight? Not sure if u feel up to going to out ?

I haven't answered but food n movie sounds good .

Why can't he make tea for you jesy?

I've said yes to tea.
He knows I'm not great eater and get a bit nervous over food so even said one bite at a time sexy

Bigbird01 I hate it when that happens. You think you have a perfectly decent date, then they suggest it's held at their house. Hopefully you will hear back from him, if you want too that is, and he realises what an idiot he is suggesting his house and how it looks.

jesy He sounds as if he understands your issues around food. A possible keeper?

jesy it sounds like he's being really attentive and nice to you recently, however you have mentioned before that you think it is 'just a sex thing' and that your friends think 'he is using you' - why do you/they think this?

Also, just realised I forgot to ask about your pregnancy scare several pages back. All Ok??

DD he has actually messaged me first thing this morning. Just 'heyyyy'. Nothing else. To be honest, I've kind of lost any interest in him now. I'm pretty sure he would have responded yesterday if it had been an innocent misunderstanding.

However, Mr Beardy has started messaging me again tonight (I was just thinking about sending him a message and 'ping', there he was!!) . He does sound rather lovely - just need to steer the conversation now so that I can 'casually' mention meeting up!!

So I'm away on holiday with family and have barely heard from sporty today. Very unlike him. Since we first messaged each other in march always had a goodnight message. Nothing tonight. Now do I take that as his chance to move away from things (despite giving me no real indication of this before I left) or is he leaving me alone as on holiday?

I might have a date! He is lovely and normal. Seems kind, has been v patient and not pushy. This is going to sound daft but I don't want to like him. So I'm kind of hoping there will be something to put me off him!

Mini he may just be trying to let you have space. Have you messaged him?

I'd say he's leaving you alone as your on holiday. Could you message him goodnight?

rummi why don't u want to like him?

bigbird yeah maybe. I messaged him late morning and he did reply good few hours later of sorts. Just hate the guessing games and still such early days don't want to be constantly seeking reassurance.

Bizarrely rummi he just messaged me goodnight! So I did reply. I think you are right and know he is busy all day tomorrow anyway. Feel reassured a little.thanks rummi and bigbird that's what I like about this thread sometimes u just need another take on things :)

Ok, I doubt I am ready to take the plunge and its so much easier to think he wasn't for me. But everything about him has been (perfect). We seem to have the same values. So I hope he has lots of nasal hair or something.
My ex moved out a year ago and he is such a head wrecker (still is) and I don't trust my own judgement anymore.

Mini, I am glad he messaged you. I am much better with other people's stuff!

Good news mini!

Rummi try not to look for the bad bits. He might actually be a really nice guy (yep - despite everything, I'm still a bit of a hopeless romantic!). I'm better at other peoples stuff too

Wow! Just spent the whole evening chatting to Mr Beardy. He seems really lovely. Still didn't ask to meet

bigbird just enjoy the chat for now. How long has it been?

I think he is a nice guy, but it's my stuff that's making me feel in not ready.

Pregnancy scare over .

It's just one friend who has never met him but has decided not to like him.
She said some hurtful things including why would he be interested look at your fat and he does a lot of exercise
Bet he only texts when wants sex,
He to young for you

He is nice to me attentive , spends time with me , like last night I hadn't planned to go till 7 pm but he said if I'm free come over and well wa t h a programme I'm trying to catch up on , it's very sexual yes
But to be honest I'm happy with that ,the last person I saw wasn't and often turned me down.
He encouraged me to get well .

Plus I can be myself with him which I. Hoping is a good thing.
This friend puts me down a lot

Date update from last night.
Lovely time, tv I wanted to see, a lovely meal, football lol amazing g sex, lots of cuddles and giggles.

She doesn't sound like a very good friend jesy!
I'd suggest you focus on the person who is making you feel good (inside and out, by the sounds of it) and detach yourself from someone who puts you down makes you doubt yourself!

DD

HE does seem to understand think he was shocked how much I ate last night.
I was even ate all that was on plate, which is rare.

Rummi we have been chatting just over a week. We've talked every day - it does feel a little strange feeling like I'm getting know someone I've never actually met. Especially now that I have found out (last night) that he only lives about 3 miles away from me!

Bigbird 3 miles is so near!
It is weird getting to know someone, sharing stuff, getting attached and not met them yet. I've done the same now for 2 weeks, first date coming up the only way I an handle it is to think about it as 2 friends meeting. And I think it might be an all day thing as he's coming from an hour away! Any suggestions?

jesy pleased you have an answer re: your scare

Your 'friend' sounds like a dick tbh. So what if you are a bigger girl and he works out? He clearly likes you, for you. If he wanted to be with a smaller gym bunny, he'd be with one. But he's not. He's spending time with you.

I think part of your problem (for want of a better word) is that you can't get your head around the fact someone you perceive to be so more attractive than you, that they want to spend time with you. The more you write about him, the nicer he sounds Lol. I know before he didn't want anything serious (I think you said this - apologies if wrong!) but life doesn't work that way.
Both me and my DP were part of the nothing serious brigade and it just happened and we are madly in love now. You can't turn off feelings sometimes!

Give yourself more credit. You sound lovely from your posts. Also. It's meant to be pretty sexual in the early days, that's the best bit!! You go girl x

Wicked

I guess I'm still new at this stuff despite .y age.
It is fun the sex I mean nicest had to tbh lol
I'm not huge fat tummy and big boobs about a size 14/16 or so.
He has said he do t wa t serious I'd love more but at mo he for me lol

jesy Exactly. You're not actually even a bigger girl then Lol. Apologies. I think a lot of people say they don't want anything serious and it just kind of develops. I think definitely be on your guard as it were, but don't play it so cool he thinks you aren't interested! I was guilty of this with my DP, I think he thought I wasn't interested, until I was like, actually I really like you. I want to be with you.