Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

Jesy I hope you're ok. I'd say something to that friend to back off. Stand up for yourself. Well, it sounds like Mr IT turned out to be quite decent, but why did he not actually just give you the money for the taxi fair instead ? ...

Update on my side. I was getting a headache thinking about this dating thin such that, I was about to deactivate my okc account for a little while. I didn't manage to do that as I had some password issues. Then today, I found that the guy I was messaging did message back. It boosted my feeling a little bit, I have to admit. Now I am not sure what to say next, but I did start to feel motivated a little bit more.

I was meant to stay with the mate so my car at hers
Basically I will now sound daft have a fear of being in taxis, and it a 8 mile trip home.
He a decent bloke and I guess a good friend in the end

@Denton, yep Match was crap when I used it.

So - a few days back I asked Beardy if he'd like to meet. He said yes he'd love to, but had got some previous plans for this weekend that may end up being cancelled. I said let me know if you are around on Friday. I ended up asking him again yesterday (just because I didn't want to end up sat on my own feeling sorry for myself so wanted to make plans with friends if he wasn't around). He came back late on to say, no he was going to be busy (as originally planned). But also asked about my day etc as usual...
I sent a reply saying Have a great weekend etc maybe we could meet up for a casual drink on Sunday when he gets back. Trying to keep it relaxed. I know he has been online and must have seen my message, but no response so far. Have I been too full on / desperate?? I would just like to meet him to know whether he is nice in RL as I think he is OL. Have I put him off now? Am I just being paranoid???

Big bird
I don't have any real sensible words hey after all I'm mad about some one who don't want me
But give him a chance maybe he been busy or got scared or something daft

Hope your ok and not checking fone. To much

Bigbird01 - In my opinion, he's being rude and ignorant. Ditch him. I suggested before that you ask him, as it's not being pushy. You did, he's fannying around and not giving answers. Don't put your life on hold for someone bad mannered.

I don't think you have been full on or desperate. If anything, I would, if I remind myself to have the guts to do these things, and forget my brain and overthinking, I would've said. "Am curious as to what you look like. Maybe we can meet next weekend instead." That would have set things on its course I guess. When he turned down the weekend meet up, and then still asked how you are, that was his kind of extension of caring, isn't it ? Try not to think too much of whether what he is like to how he is like in real life. Sometimes, if some people are rushed, they may not be what they are in person as well. I have done that too, and quickly dismissed the other person way too soon. You cannot tell how someone is, until you have seen how they handle things in their lives, and how they handle their friends and family as well. Action speaks louder than anything.

Also, don't check online now. It will mess with your mind. I do that a lot. I just mindlessly check and then I get slightly disappointed etc.

You've asked twice, that's plenty.

I agree Rummikub (you hard nosed scouser you)

Neil. I've now started to say before I agree to a date that I am scouse, see if that puts em off!

I'm sorry big bird he sounds like he might be stalling and not worth your time. I've just got the answer I thought was coming too that he isn't sure long term etc etc. thanks Neil as I would have let it drag on and I'm glad I've asked as at least I know and don't need to waste any more time on it. Back to the drawing board then!

I get on better with scousers better than where I'm from.(Manchester, which is a surprise)
They seem to appreciate my inoffensive sarcasm.

(one too many betters there, need to start previewing my posts!!!)

Minime85 - sorry you got a bad answer but at least you know now.

You could be my neighbour

That's why I'm getting lots of grief for being scouse.

Minime, onwards upwards. You deserve better. And now you know you can move on.

Rummikub - Are you 81 years old but with a very active sex life with a man called Cyril?

Your secret is out Rummi!!

no, I would have noticed a man called Cyril trying to have sex with me.
My neighbours are elderly. But not sex mad thankfully.
Maybe your opposite and are the guy who sits nude on his sofa??

Are you fromManchester?

I will sound daft and I know it means I'm not over him but the socks he lent me I've lost

You will get over him though.

CERTAINLY NOT!!!! (I've moved out now anyway)

Yes, I'm from Manchester.