Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

Rummikub how old was he exactly??

talisa he said he was 43 and that he should bing his passport out to prove it. He looked in his 60s. Late 50s if I'm being generous.

chick that's horrible to hear about those 2guys :(

It is a bit demoralising. My approach is currently to accept I'm happy to be single, I like people anyway, so OD gives me the opportunity to chat/ meet people I wouldn't do usually and who knows one of them might be the one for me. I could not go into a date with high hopes that this is it. I would find that soul destroying I think.

Oh that's just awful. How dare these people tell such huge lies? Women are just as bad judging by some of the stories I've heard.

When I was OLD, one of my dates told me that a previous date had brought her husband along as he was bi-curious Shocking!

rummikub It was just awful awful to watch, they thought it was so funny.. :-( Grown men!?

Once I was chatting to this guy on POF who seemed really really lovely, he was drop dead gorgeous but only had 2 pics, I asked him for some more and he said he dind't have a single picture, it seemed a bit odd as surely everyone has a camera phone, I pushed him to take a pic with his phone, then 2 mins later I got the nastiest 'cock shot' and from the torso down it clearly wasn't the same person in the profile pics! yuk!

I'm happy to be single, really I'm not even after a 'proper relationship' Just some nice company once in a while, bit like FWB but a bit more, but not a proper boyfriend. If there is something in the middle! Exclusivity would be good, but not ever get involved with my kids. I want a doube life, just be mum to my DC but have a hot lover too! Is that too much to ask?

rummikub
I think that's the right attitude, if it happens it happens.
Chick
I'm sorry the way things have worked out, but I'd forget him I were you and move on, try to get out there. The right guy who wants the same as you will be out there.

In the meantime I'm trying my best to resist calling my guy, I haven't heard from him for a couple of days, this isn't unusual we text most days but sometimes have a gap of a couple of days. He's initiated call the texts recently. I'm trying to play it cool but it's so difficult x

steel I saw your post about checking your phone a million times and it made me laugh out loud. I've got my phone on my desk, right in front of me, I'd see if I got a message, but I still look at it every bloody 5 mins!

I've got my best mate coming over tomorrow and I've booked a day off for some 'me' time. As I was leaving work last night this cute guy who works on my floor who I'm sure flirts when we chat in the kitchen got in the lift with me. I actually never knew his name so asked him and seeing as I knew his name I googled him and found his LinkedIn profile and worked out from his education dates that he's 25! and he flirts with ME :-) made me smile. I have been tempted to ask him for a drink before, but also could be awkward if he's got a girlfriend, I'd be eternally embarrased when I do see him at work :-)

Anyway while I was pissed with this other guy blowing me out it made me smile.. There are still cute young men out there who show an interest in me! Just got to find an available one...

Well done for resisting! Keep at it steel

You see Chick you must have "IT" a 25 year old flirting with you ! Maybe chat to him when you bump into him try to find out a bit more about him before you ask him for a drink or you could arrange for a crowd to go out after work including him. Have some me time tomorrow and try to get out for a drink with your mate, you never know who is out there.
Still resisting texting him I know if I do he'll text me right back. I'm hoping he's checking his phone, :-)

Flirting in real life

steelchic - So let me get this right. Woman sits by the phone waiting for text off man and frets if he doesn't text.
Woman knows man will text back if she texts him so she plays it cool and doesn't text him????

All these rules on protocol, etiquette and assumptions are just a barrier imo. If you want answers, just ask the questions.

Neil, I know it's mad, I just want to know that he's thinking of me and wanting to text me not just answering a text. I'm not really playing games but it would be nice to know he's thinking " I haven't heard from steel for a couple of days I wonder how she's doing"

NotNewButNameChanged - What about dance classes?

steelchic - He might be sat there thinking, "I think steelchic has lost interest in me".

neil - I really, really don't like dancing at all, I'm afraid. I did try salsa a couple of times but really didn't like it and I am sure it comes across if you're not enjoying something and that you are probably there out of other motives. You're clearly not going to come over at your best and if you did meet someone and they really liked dancing and you hated it, well, it's probably not going to work out well.

Hmmm, I don't think so Neil he knows I like him. I know he likes me. At the beginning he said he didn't want any big commitment and I agreed to keep it casual, I feel I want a tiny bit more than we have just now, so I'm trying to back off a bit hoping that he'll come to realise I might not be at his beck and call all the time. I hate this carry on :-(

I know you said you're not playing games steelchic but the whole thing seems like a game. I'd find it frustrating tbh. I'm obviously a lot more direct and tend to speak my mind. If it leaves me exposed or vulnerable, so what? My attitude is, "if you're not having a crap then get off the potty". Bollocks to the rules.

Salsa might be a bit too expressive for you NotNewButNameChanged. Perhaps you felt uncomfortable with all the gyrating and thrusting etc. Try something a little less erotic first.

neil get off the potty!
I'm the same, possibly too direct. But also I can't be bothered with games. I think steel you could stop phone watching, stay busy see what happens. Otherwise it feels like a test, which I guess it is. I've done it before and it never works out well. Be bold, ask for what you want.

I'm with you steel I'm trying to play it cooler. Contact been sporadic this week and I've found it confusing. Meant to be seeing each other this weekend but I'm leaving it to him to say what we doing then as it has been me most of time as I like to plan ahead and know what I'm doing. I know too that ball more in my court as I have kids and he doesn't but like steel said I want to know he is thinking of me too and not just if I remind him to.

I agree with what u say too Neil but its so hard to put yourself out there completely. Especially if its not reciprocated as intensely as you are feeling. Which is fine and I don't want to spoil what could be great because I rush into things. I'd rather play it cooler even if it is eating at me!

Playing it cool is good too. As kong as it feels ok to you. Essentially what I'm doing now I suppose.

I think I'd know after a few dates if it was going anywhere or had any long term prospects.

Incidentally Rummikub , when you finished your meal with Methusula last night and the waiter asked if you'd like a coffee, I'd have been tempted to say, "I'll have a Tia Maria coffee and he'll have a mug of Horlicks".
At least you'd have found out what his sense of humour was like.

but honestly I wanted it to end fast!

There wasnt anything about him I could say was good. He also sprayed a little when talking (I'm trying to blank this from my mind). This morning he said I should put a picture up of my 'impressive chest' idiot!

Has anyone been on match? How does that work?

I tried a free go on Match. They told me I had messages from women but if I wanted to read them, I must first cross their palm with silver. (well, £30 actually)

Advice please folks...

Beardy seemed quite keen to meet but did say he had some plans that might now be scrapped for the weekend. I said if he was around on Friday, I'd love to meet up. He said he would let me know...

So far he hasn't said anything . He's been exchanging messages with me as normal, but no mention of meeting up. Do I ask again (don't want to sound too pushy), or just assume that it is a no??

Match is what I used. found it easy to use. Some weidos and strange messages. Guess that's same as anywhere though.

"He also sprayed a little when talking..."

I hate that. I end up having to put a protective arm around my dinner plate and eating one handed with just the fork. Imagine that, a whole sirloin steak on the end of your fork whilst you're cuddling the plate.