Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

Oh and that's no reflection on you.

It's just what some people are like.

CHICK, maybe he is just a bit under pressure at work today. I'd leave it a few days and then just text and ask him if he wants to meet up. Try to keep it light hearted. Once you meet up with him you can get a better idea it's always easier to judge things face to face you can gauge his body language Maybe he told you about the kiss to see your reaction and start a conversation about how you feel about each other. Did he just come out with it. The one thing I've learned is that you'll never really know what's in someone else's head. We don't seem to think the same as the opposite sex. Are your kids school age, is there the possibility of meeting him at lunch time when kids are at school. I know our situations are a bit similar. My hormones seem to have settled down again. Lol I don't feel as needy and upset. I was away for a few days with my friend, he sent me loads of text messages wishing me a safe flight He'd obviously paid attention to the flight times etc as he sent me one just as I was boarding and also just as I got off., during holiday and on my return yesterday and this morning. He is hinting about a meet up but I'm going to leave it for him to suggest.I'm going to play it cooler and just enjoy it. I had a fab time and had quite a bit of male attention, nothing happened but nice to get compliments ...ok some of them were from very drunk men lol but I think this has done my ego some good. Do you manage to get out with friends ? Sometimes I think we put up with stuff like this because we think it's better than being totally alone, surely we are worth more x

Steel, sounds like you had a lovely weekend. I need some time like that I think to take my mind off it. I don't get out much, my kids are at school but day time meeting not really possible. I work full time, can't really meet him on my break. He did just come straight out with it. Wanted to tell me straight away. Said he really wanted to be honest with me. I guess I'm paranoid because I know he went to yoga last night, so he'll have seen her. The really bloody weird thing is he told me she's also divorced, older with 2 kids...

I'm just going to keep myself busy tonight and get a load of study done over the next few days, then see if he texts me again. I'm just so disappointed, my kids are away for the week, it would have been a perfect opportunity to have a lovely time together before I have no chance to see him until second week in July. :-(

Folk, I know you're right. I need to just ignore it and see what happens. I don't think he is manipulative. I've been seeing him since January. I need to step way from the phone!

Chick, it would do you the world of good if you could get out with friends when your kids are at their dads. You will see that there are decent guys out there. I know your life if busy and you don't want a full on relationship but you probably do want exclusivity, did you talk about that after he told you. If not I think you need to talk to him about it. X

Did well no tears at work , had odd text off him just seeing if I'm ok.
But did hope to see him on way home but nothing.

My first bf texted me this am obviously rumour mill must be in full flow, said you can do better kid , how about a movie and pizza Thursday night no funny business just u me and the baby .
Be good to see you .

Jesy, don't see him you are too vulnerable just now, best let things settle down. And please don't reply to that text. He is just testing the waters he probably expected you to be texting him. Stay strong x

We are just close friends it's not like text out of blue we text each other every few days.

Sorry Jesy I meant "him" not your last BF and maybe you should look at a new route from work, I'm assuming you sometimes see him on your way home. It will be painful and prolong you getting over him if you keep bumping into him

Wish I could but it's only route hone.
I'd prob only see him If I left at 4_50 and don't normally finish till five.
I know it's stupid but just wanted to see him.

It's not stupid it's understandable but I think it's best for you to avoid him it will make it easier for you in the long term

How do you know if a relationship / man is a good one?

That's a good question can you give us some more info Giggly

What sort of info?

I just want to not totally follow my heart - I am trying to keep my common sense around too but I haven't dated much before.

Hard not to follow your heart though, isn't it. How long have you been seeing him etc. Is there anything in particular that's giving you doubts or are you scared of letting your guard down

We have been dating about 3 months now. He is older and has children and quite a difficult ex.

I really like him but I am scared of letting my guard down but also I don't want to get into something and then find it is too much for me and then him get hurt as well.

How offen do you see each other, is his ex an issue, how did you meet, have you met his children, how big is the age gap. How does he feel about you . Sorry about all the questions but I'm just trying to build the picture

See each other maybe 2 - 4 nights a week depending on our jobs / his children. I think his ex has the potential to be an issue! Met on the internet. Met the children for the first time last week. 14 years. Seems serious about me.

I am generally a questioner too!

Tbh it's early days. You like him he likes you. You see each other a lot. I think it looks good for you. Just enjoy it and see how it goes, if there are no real issues ....apart from his ex. Don't worry and good luck

He really seems to be a great bloke. It is early days but he has children and his ex has already tried to cause a few problems. I just don't want to jump in without thinking and end up hurting people.

Only just caught up. Hope you're ok jesy

Have PM'ed you gigglygirlygirl

giggly, just keep that guard up ever so slightly and don't rush into anything, I'm sure it will be fine, x

Not really wicked .
I knew it wasn't going to last but it hurts so much.
He just been on what's app n part of me hopes he'll message me which I know is wrong.

Feeling very low today
I'm sure I had told Beardy that I had 2 young children, but it came up in conversation late last night. I told him twins - he asked how old. I told him 5 - now it has gone very quiet....
To top it all I had some bad news today (my step-mum has been taken critically ill) and my ex asked me for a divorce (actually good news, but given the way I feel has made me feel very strange). Right now I really don't want to feel snubbed by a man...