Hi all
I struggled yesterday. Headache, bored, irritable, hate that scratchy feeling of not being able to focus on anything with two dcs. Everything we want to do is out of step for one of them.
They are only 2 years apart but that is a big difference when one of them wants to do intricate cutting and sticking with a definite end result and the other one desperately wants to be a part of it but is just too little and uncoordinated and impulsive. I know there are ways of managing this and I try to use them, but it takes full on concentration and patience all the time. I fantasise alternately about just having the one of them: how lovely and relaxing it would be to get deeply into one activity of exactly the right level.
(This problem seems to go away when they play together without me; I think it is because dd1 is happy to meet dd2 at her level under those circumstances, but when she is with me, she wants me to help her to do things at the top of her capabilities)
I did not drink but the blues are gathering hard overhead. I am wondering about PAWS; depression; even untreated PND (although my youngest is 3, for heaven’s sake); another post-viral dip from this cold that won't go away; general psychological hypochondria; bad relationship syndrome; whatever. It doesn’t matter what label could or couldn’t be slapped on my tendency to feel pretty shit a large part of the time. It is just there and I have to deal with it. It's damaging my enjoyment of the sunshine because I am just worried about clothes and being fat. I keep going over and over in my head what I have to wear and whether it is enough for work and what I can do about it, etc etc. Doing my legs at 10.30 pm last night felt like a piece of work I could do without. ("doing" means shaving and fake tanning. I have blue legs)
Feeling like this - just on the edge of tears - is confusing for me. Is this something I should listen to - and if so, do what? - or just truck on through - and then maybe have one of those pathetic mini-breakdowns that means I have to stay off work and P is really horrible to me? IF it shouldn't be ignored, what can I actually do?
I feel like when I had pregnancy nausea and I used to think: if I felt like this for one day I would take a sick day, but because it is every day I have to go to work anyway. This is how I feel about being such a depressio-bore
Ugh sorry to moan moan moan. Day 15. Good luck all you brave women x