Twat walked out again tonight

[dingdongdoodlebug]

My goodness me I sometime hate myself for how much i am unable to break free from this fucker.

I spent around 2 hours in the kitchen tonight making his favourite 3 course meal.... when attempting to fire off the creme brulee i burnt them. I was upset cause the rest of the meal was just lovely.. so i said the f word a few times in front my MY 12 year old DS (not his). DS giggled. But fuckhead said it was inappropriate (this tosser is always swearing thought not the f word...). I said oh fuckityfuckwits i am really upset i burnt this.

So he then stuffed the said creme brulee down his greedy neck and walked out. He doesn't live with us [thank the lord] but what a rude ignorant twat he is

Sorry. I am bloody so annoyed and sick to death of his pathetic excuses for walking out. He is a 51 year old man ffs

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh

[Lweji]

Did he actually get help?

This man is very bad news for you. You have evidence for yourself, from his exs and from the police force.

Ask yourself why you are still drawn to him.
What is it missing in your life that you think he fulfills?

And as other men go, you won't have a chance while you are still hung up on him.

Keep the radio silence and if necessary explain to your child that you have broken up and need to stay away from him, so that you won't feel compelled to go and say hi.

[cjelh]

He maygo and get all the help he can, but he has shown no signs for wasting to change. Only more manipulation. He'll also be then able to use counsellor to confirm to you that you alone need help. Best to forget this one I'm afraid

[cjelh]

wasting-wanting!!!

[dingdongdoodlebug]

His ex got him to go to anger management - he said the woman said he didn't need it..... I don't believe that for a second.

Goodness knows why I am so utterly besotted with him. Was on my own for a long time before I met him - had various dates and a couple of short relationships but no-one did it for me at all. Until I met him... suppose scared to go back to being absolutely nothing and will never find anyone again.

I'm trying to work out the percentage of the time that he was cuntie... and its hard. The 2 weeks before latest walk out he was lovely and supportive and really good about my job - he is the only person that knows everything going on in my life. The only person I really confided in. I feel lost, without my best friend. :(

DS gone to his nan's for the day as i'm not great company so at least don't have to worry about him.

I should study but struggling

[dingdongdoodlebug]

Sorry, right, feeling sorry for myself over. Gave myself massive kick up the arse, studies out and here i go.

Fuck the fuckwit fuckface fuckfeatures

[differentnameforthis]

He's not your best friend, op. If he were even close, he would NOT treat how he does.

[dingdongdoodlebug]

i need a brain transplant....

[Frogisatwat]

You need to read up on narcissism. He fits the bill completely.

[Lweji]

It takes time to adjust.
When I left DV ex I still felt the urge to share things, particularly regarding DS, with him. But it will get better. You need to give it time. One week is nothing. Stay strong.

[dingdongdoodlebug]

Yes frog he is narcisstic (can't spell that) definately

Came on here as i was about to text...... on further examination of my phone his number still pops up if i put first 3 digits into text messages :(

one week is nothing lweji??? noooo, can't go on like this :(

[Lweji]

One day at a time.
The first days are always the worst. You can do it.

[dingdongdoodlebug]

is just a 'hello' ok?

[ChasedByBees]

To him? Absolutely not!

[dingdongdoodlebug]

That made me giggle Chased!
A tiny very small one might be okay - just test the water?

[dingdongdoodlebug]

I'm still giggling...

[dingdongdoodlebug]

Watched Jahmene Douglas on youtube - Titanium. That always does it for me :)

[Brucietheshark]

DON'T TEXT.

You've done a week - do you want to have to go through the first week again the next time he's a tosser? You know there will be a next time.

[dingdongdoodlebug]

Well how about I ask him if he wants to try it but he HAS to seek IMMEDIATE help? I really fucking love this fucker and when things are good they are amazing :(

[Lweji]

No!
Slap on the wrist.

If he ever wants to try, he should beg you to take him back and after he has sought help, and when he is better.

[IAmNotAMindReader]

No texting at all he will agree to anything to keep you on the line you got yourself on, then he will turn it round to all being your fault.

If twats were twats all the time they would die out so its an act of pure self preservation to act normal at times to ensure their supply of adulation and reason for all thats wrong in the world (you) doesn't cotton on and ditch them.

Thing of it as a play. He is the star and you only have a supporting role and don't know the lines that are in his head so he punishes you if you get them wrong. Act too far out of the ideal in his head and he will move on.


You've done so well, you don't love him really you are, powerfully addicted to the highs and lows. This kind of stress really does fuck up brain chemistry. Work on yourself.

[DeMaz]

Pleeeeeeease don't contact this fucker! You'll regret it.....and you'll feel 1000 times worse if he just completely ignores you anyway! Just keep thinking of the shitty things he does! Do you want your child witnessing all of that! Think of your LO! His mum will be miserable in the long run if you get back with this fool!

Keep strong

[Lweji]

Remember, he walked out. Don't beg, don't chase him.

You are worth better than that.

[dingdongdoodlebug]

Ouch! Thanks Lweji

Yep I hardly imagine he is sitting round thinking about me, more likely to be out looking for next victim

I know he will never, ever, ever make first contact so if I do nothing then that will be it. Its just him. He does it to his kids too so I don't take it tooooo personally. He didn't speak to his 19 year old daughter for a month recently - he asked her to leave cause said she was getting stroppy - so she left. And he just ignored her. He did it to one of his sons last year for even longer. Unfortunately each time they eventually gave in and contacted him to sort it out.

[differentnameforthis]

and when things are good they are amazing

But it should be good all the time, ok, not ALL, but it shouldn't be like this, not on a regular basis!!

His ex has warned you op, that is you, a few years from now.

He has a case being made against him.

He is a high ranking PO, he thinks he is untouchable. Thinks he can do what he likes.

He did something so shit, you lost your job.

He has subjected you to domestic abuse.

Don't be a statistic. His whole life is shouting warnings at you. Why are you choosing not to see them?

[dingdongdoodlebug]

ooh x-posts

DeMaz - i think thats whats stopping me - the fact that he may ignore me. Well he doesn't normally. He responds but is ice cold. Takes a bit of persuasion to get him to come over and then he's all sorry and we have a big of a laugh about it and fall back in love.