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MadeMan · 04/05/2014 13:44

Hello and welcome.

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Scarey123 · 06/05/2014 21:14

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Minime85 · 06/05/2014 21:21

scarey I think your mind sounds similar to the way mine works! trying to take wise advice from a RL friend to just enjoy it for now. that I can't necessarily control future, or what the lovely bloke I've started seeing thinks about future but just to try and go with it. its sooo hard but I'm trying Grin

Minime85 · 06/05/2014 21:22

scarey I think your mind sounds similar to the way mine works! trying to take wise advice from a RL friend to just enjoy it for now. that I can't necessarily control future, or what the lovely bloke I've started seeing thinks about future but just to try and go with it. its sooo hard but I'm trying Grin

Minime85 · 06/05/2014 21:23

scarey I think your mind sounds similar to the way mine works! trying to take wise advice from a RL friend to just enjoy it for now. that I can't necessarily control future, or what the lovely bloke I've started seeing thinks about future but just to try and go with it. its sooo hard but I'm trying Grin

Minime85 · 06/05/2014 21:25

why it posted three times I've no idea! Smile

whitedoorbell · 06/05/2014 22:01

minime must be because it's such good advice! Grin

Scarey123 · 06/05/2014 22:02

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DeliberatelyDreaming · 06/05/2014 22:03

I don't think the way you are feeling is uncommon Mini & Scarey. How can we possibly know how these men think? They are new in our life and new to us. No two men or women are the same, so what we are used too doesn't apply any more. I think that just going with the flow is the best idea, if you suspect cheating ask yourself what is making you feel that way. I honestly believe in gut feelings 100%. OLD while amazing fun is also a minefield of emotions, listen to yours, they are there for a reason.

DeliberatelyDreaming · 06/05/2014 22:04

X post Scarey lol

handfulofcottonbuds · 06/05/2014 22:15

My firefighter is back and thankfully isn't calling me 'hun'. He's talking in text speak though 'lol' Angry

Think I'm too picky.

Minime85 · 06/05/2014 22:17

scarey def to be cautious I think. but I guess u have to give a bit of yourself to see what u get back its so hard.

dreaming I'm all about going with the gut. since stbexh left me last yr when my gut was telling me all yr this was all wrong and he had checked out.

I'm all about the gut. Smile

my gut feels good for my new bloke. let's see where it goes... Grin

DollyTwat · 06/05/2014 22:48

dreaming and whitedoorbell I think I'm ok thank you
I'm putting on a bit of a brave front with my friends as it does hurt to be rejected so quickly. All those insecurities creep in don't they

I hope all goes as planned for you whitedoorbell on Friday, it's a big step inviting someone into your safe haven isn't it

whitedoorbell · 06/05/2014 22:55

thanks dolly I don't know why but it seems like quite a big deal Hmm

will have to see how it goes...

glad yr ok xx

whitedoorbell · 06/05/2014 22:57

thanks dolly I don't know why but it seems like quite a big deal Hmm

will have to see how it goes...

glad yr ok xx

Jarlin · 06/05/2014 22:58

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whitedoorbell · 06/05/2014 22:59

thanks dolly I don't know why but it seems like quite a big deal Hmm

will have to see how it goes...

glad yr ok xx

Bigbird01 · 06/05/2014 23:13

Hi Notso. Sorry your initial experience hasn't been great. I've had a fair few knock backs after having chatting to someone for a while - not even got as far as a date.
My ex has joined the same site as me too and viewed my profile a few times now. Makes my skin creep a little and he keeps asking if I've met anyone...
Went on a training course at work about effective communication today - might be revisiting my profile over the next couple of days - see if it actually works!!!

handfulofcottonbuds · 06/05/2014 23:14

Hello Jarlin.

Okay after 4 days, I have finally built up the courage to contact the Italian who looks and sounds amazing. He added me to his favourite list a few days ago. His profile is so different and although I don't tend to get nervous, I was about contacting him.

We'll see. Not taking it too seriously at the moment. I really want him to contact me, deactivate his account and make me tiramisu

DeliberatelyDreaming · 06/05/2014 23:18

Jarlin I have to say you have a gazillion times more patience than me. Six months in and he looked terrified talking about a future. I think I would really be asking if this was the man for me. That's my view and obviously I'm not you and don't want you to think I'm having a dig - I'm truly not, I am just in awe that you are so patience, it is a virtue I don't have in huge amounts.

handful Text speak is just something I can't and won't deal with. Even my DC text properly to me. Grin

Dolly You just take it easy and be kind to yourself - ok?

Whitedoor Good luck, thinking of you.

DollyTwat · 06/05/2014 23:20

I think it's a big deal in as much as it's opening up your life
All the muddles and things that family life are actually about, rather than the minimal bachelor pad

handfulofcottonbuds · 07/05/2014 00:32

The Italian read my message, checked out my profile again and then logged off Sad is it normal for them to do that?

dontcallmehon22 · 07/05/2014 01:56

Don't read anything into it handful. At this stage be open to them drifting in and out.

Ok Henry II likes Karen Carpenter, John Keats, Paris and writing. V clever. Sensitive.

But I am: Not caring. Not caring. Not caring {determined}

Toryboy. Polar opposite. Not sure I'm attracted. Still texting. He's kinda funny.

dontcallmehon22 · 07/05/2014 01:57

Don't read anything into it handful. At this stage be open to them drifting in and out.

Ok Henry II likes Karen Carpenter, John Keats, Paris and writing. V clever. Sensitive. Not caring. Not caring. Not caring.

Toryboy. Polar opposite. Not sure I'm attracted. Still texting. He's kinda funny.

itwillgetbettersoon · 07/05/2014 06:31

Ok had second date with man I have been chatting to on tinder. Had a lovely kiss and he has asked to see me again. I have two young kids so I very different to last time I was on the dating scene 20 years ago :-) he lives commuting distance away so no popping round for a couple of hours. I'm just going to take it day by day ( sits on phone and trys not to text him too often).

neiljames77 · 07/05/2014 08:08

Could be about to make myself look like a tit tonight. My friend's girlfriend's sister wants to see me in the pub tonight. There's a big age gap and I think it'd look odd.
I'm totally disillusioned with OD though. Most of the replies are cringey, cheesy or worse.