The Dating Thread 74.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

Well the guys my age it's possibly grown daughter(s)/friends. I do think they do this as if to say "see I can pull anytime I like". I suggest they head off to the nearest tacky bar and pull lol. No, seriously, the girls hanging off them, FISH, what is it with fish? Also babies/little ones, usually grandkids but even so WTAF lol

Away from profiles to dates. Why is it some men don't look even remotely like their picture. One date was so different, I asked him why he asked a mate to have their picture up - he didn't like that. Another looked like he had just come back from a day trainspotting or fishing!! Another had really long hair and it was as greasy as chip fat - eugh!

When I go on a date I am always freshly showered, I go in the shower in the morning, every morning, if my date is late afternoon or evening I shower again. My clothes are appropriate, freshly laundered and ironed. Make up is done carefully and not too much and hair is done properly. I also add a spritz of perfume. Why do some (not all) men look like they have just rolled out of bed? EUGH!

Handful that happened to me in Sunday, was chatting to a single dad about our kids then suddenly he was saying 'cutie xxx'. I just replied 'I'm really not cute' and he went 'ok' hahaha then I blocked because there was no recovery!

dontcallmehin - that extract was brilliant, thanks for that insight.

dreaming - I encountered my first fish!!! I was so proud of myself to have discovered one so soon in my search. It was a huge fish too! I didn't contact the owner of the fish though

Text speak, yes, I don't like that. I don't have time trying to decifer each person's version of text speak!

I also don't like the ones who start off with, 'I'm really shy at first but once you get to know me.....' urgh! Do you have a personality? Can you not get a little confidence to do OD, it just says to me that I'll need to make all the effort to bring you out of your shell - man up! Okay, that's probably a little harsh of me. My friend keeps telling me to remember that these are actual people with feelings, but I'm still not contacting them.

It's fun though - at the moment......

Help! So, I'm still pretty new to this OD thing, but...

What is the fish thing? How do I spot (and avoid) it?? Argh!! I'm sure it wasn't so difficult when I was 20!!

bigbird - it's easy to spot. They are holding a fish that they have supposedly caught in their photos

Hahaha! I thought it was some code for something!!
But yes - what is it with the fish!???

Just been winked at by someone with the pseudonym 'letskissandhug'...

....erm, let's not, eh!!

I initially thought it was code too until I saw it for myself. It's like they're showing how manly they are. I wonder if it impresses any woman.

Ah yes, the user names put me off sometimes too. 'hunkydude123' was checking me out as was 'lazybones'!

I would rather date the fish...

I give you:

Yourhairybear

And

Waynewantsacuddle

For vomitous usernames

ursula

Are you going to cuddle wayne??

Perhaps cuddle the fish? Ok, ok, I'll stop.

I think I won't respond to 's1ick69' either, not sure he wants a long term relationship even though he added me to his list.

Bleurgh!!

Oddest thing since I started to play miss cool he seems more interested.
Last night prime example ,we often send good night texts I sent one at about 9 , he texted back saying it's early was I ok?
Explained wAnt feeling well and there had been a fight in the close and I was a bit anxious, he then suggested I went over to his if I aS feeling funny about being home alone .
I said I'll be ok but he did say call if you need anything.

On a crap non dating related thing took the child I look after to drs n he thought I was his granny not happy hence hair dye purchased while waiting for perscription

I thought I would have a quick look and see what kinds of forgettable names are close to me.

We have:

Gottofindyou - Just as well I hide well.

Goldenboy69 - whodda thunk this name had been used 68 times before him? Plus he has a grimace grin like Prince William.

Justhaventmetyouyet - unlikely too either, he is asking to be taken from the site. I'm sure there must be a delete profile option somewhere.

Naughtynige69 - this number sixty nine seems very popular.

Sexydarkchocolate - I so hate dark chocolate.

Jesy I confess. I always have a hair dye ready for the first sight of roots, the minute I use it, I replace it. I always have a jar of anti wrinkle cream and body lotion I am using and a spare and like with the dye as soon as I open the new cream I replace. Those are my safety blankets.

dreaming - I guess a lot of men were born in 1969??

handful - That's what it is. What a cynic I am!!

I had no inkling I was about to be dumped no!

I've thought about it and I think that seeing my actual life was a bit of reality. He lives about 1.5 hrs away so it wasn't ever going to be long term, I don't have thT many friends to babysit!

And, he was a bit perfect for me. He had the most amazing body. Made me feel a bit fat and blobby tbh

But it's made me realise how hard it is to date with dc
I felt like I was getting rid of them, which was t nice

So I've learnt a few lessons:

Play much harder to get (I'm excused this time as it ended my 3 yr dry spell and he was gorgeous)
Date someone who's not too far away so I can go there for an evening, not overnight

Dolly No man alive should ever make you feel "fat and blobby" nor anything else negative. He is by far the loser here, you are a prize he let go.

Distance is a problem, as is not having childcare, that is true. But sweetie please, don't feel bad. I know it's so easy to look back and wish or for you now to feel low and sad. You have said yourself you have learned lessons, he has lost a sweetheart. I wish there were words to make you feel better, but only time and the other OLD's here on MN can do that. Just always remember this was not your fault. Hugs and love DD x

evening all.

Happy to say good progress here with baldy.
bit anxious though especially after reading last few comments about kids. baldy has day off on friday and I suggested he comes to my house. he has never been before.
will be interesting to see how to reacts to obvious family home compared to his obvious bachelor pad? ??

wish I could just relax and enjoy it but still terrified he will turn around one day and say it was all a mistake and dump me... bloody insecurities

forgot to say... my kids will all be at school so just me and him

dolly hope yr ok? xx

Hello all, can I join in please?
I've just dipped one leg (up to the knee) into od. Met someone I'd been chatting to for hours and hours over a week and his feedback after the meet was that the chemistry wasn't strong enough. Felt like getting dumped! Took a lot to sign up and then actually go out to meet him but at least that 1st meet is over!

Spotted my nightmare ex on the site on Saturday so have hidden my profile. I'm gutted as I'm sure he's seen mine, feels a bit like your ex being at the same party I guess. Not sure I've got the guts to unhide. Created a fake account so I could look at his and it's complete bs. London dwellers beware of blued eyed Taurus!!